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Comment by Patience on April 16, 2015 at 8:47am
Hi Maggie, when I tried the link, the web page (Wall Street journal) wouldn't let me view it without signing up for a subscription! I have a remedy for that- just google the exact title and the entire article will pop up for free!
Comment by Maggie on April 16, 2015 at 6:24am
Comment by Kaydee on April 13, 2015 at 4:57pm

Hi everyone... I am going on my 2nd year, ends this Oct. I am actively dating now, been with him since Jan. It is strange to meet and go out with someone new. Dating is sure different than when I was younger. Lots of guys just looking for hookups. I had in my profile that I wanted a committed  relationship.  I am taking this slow, not like my marriage. We only knew each other 5 months, I was pregnant.  We made it work for 38 years before kidney cancer took him. Each his/her Own. I don't have anything to do with his family. When they accused me of killing him. I am more at peace now. I am making me happy, me healthier. Take care everyone..

Comment by shamrock on April 13, 2015 at 4:46pm

Went to a group called grief share, you can cry laugh, talk about your love, and everyone listens and understands. They have all been there and are all still struggling with their losses. It is very comforting,  more connections with people who understand. Meetings are every Monday. I will continue to go in hopes this will be a tool I can use to deal with my new  life. It is a 13 week program, but you can come back and do it agin if needed. On May 18 there will be a memorial service for all who want to participate, not sure about this yet. I barely remember Richie's memorial, it is a blur. I do not know if I want to go through it again although maybe it could make it real. But do I want it to be real?

Comment by Hornet (Cindy) on April 13, 2015 at 4:26pm

Same here, everyone. Same here. I am better in many ways. Better...but different. Forever changed. But the longing for him is oddly stronger than it was a year ago. My 2nd year ends in September as well...the beginning of a third. Unbelievable. What a long, long road we are on, friends.

Comment by booktime (Susan) on April 13, 2015 at 3:58pm

A lot of us seem to be at the same point. For me, just over 18 months. My 2 year will be Sept. 15.

I am mostly doing OK. Work keeps me engaged with life. I have things to do when I am home. Helping care for my 94 year old mother.

But like you, I miss that companionship, talking at the end of the day, doing chores together, planning, vacations, etc.

I had new curtains made and the project became much bigger. I am fortunate to have a friend who came and hung them all. Steve was an important part of Ed's life - he drove him to a lot of doctor appts. for me. It took him 3 hours to hang the curtains but only because we talk and we talk about Ed! It's so nice to have someone to talk to about Ed. We laugh and sigh.

I have tried the online dating forums with no luck. The guys are strange, a couple just not responding to me after a couple of messages.

So I am moving on, going forward. I am trying to live in the moment and savor it.

It ain't easy as you all know

Hugs to everyone. It helps to know I am not alone.

Comment by Choosing life on April 13, 2015 at 1:22pm
The 2 year mark for me will be June 4th. Easter Week was bad .So many reminders of his last Easter Week which was spent in the hospital. Things are better at times, but then at times they are so much worse. Feeling more lonely, like you lizbeth4, and so uncertain about what will happen to me. Also dealing with elderly family members and try to visit and drive them for doctor visits and outings. I know I am getting overwhelmed, but yet feel that I am somehow "slacking off" because I am not more productive. One minute I am going in one direction then the next I am doubling back the other way. I am tired and frustrated dealing with everything by myself but I do not want to be told what to do. Thank you all for listening.
Comment by lizbeth4 on April 12, 2015 at 7:46pm

It's been 2 years since the death of my Husband.  I am finding that I am feeling more lonely lately. Even though I have moved to a new town, done a lot of traveling and keep myself busy, it seems like I am missing my Husband more.   I am also dealing with my Mom's health issues.  Sometimes it is so overwhelming.  I look at couples that are my age and wish for my Husband to be here.  Just to hold his hand again and go for a walk together.  I will get through this rough time but I have a lot of sadness inside.  I miss the snuggling and hugs.  No one can really understand what we are going through. I am so glad for this site. 

Comment by shamrock on April 12, 2015 at 6:21pm

So we are all the same, first year was a blur, and i did many things took trips, made new friends lost a few, did things, and now all of a sudden it seems my eyes are open and I can't believe it is almost a 1/1/2... yes at times are am so lonely realizing it is not we any more. Although I did allot of the chores etc. and doings now it is the simple little things that get me, no one to say "can't you put the toilet paper on the roll"  whose turn is it to walk the dogs, what can we cook for dinner, did you put gas in the car,. Simple easy stuff but so hard when you  have to do it all. Friends who I tell  this to just smile, they do not really  know how hard it is  not have that helper. Richie was still always there for me.

Comment by lonelyinaz on April 9, 2015 at 9:43pm
2 yrs the 17th! Still sucks! Still not into major decision making. A drift i call it. Guess i feel good enough call the tree guy again. I hate maint crap!
 

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