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Comment by kathspec on February 21, 2017 at 10:54am
Hi seashell
Well said! It s almost 4 yrs since my sweetheart died! And grief does change! I am a better person now! Grief changes u! Life is so precious!
I miss him everyday. But I have found peace!
Comment by Seashell on February 21, 2017 at 9:16am

It's funny how life has a way of continuing even after a loved one passes. I had spent so much time running away after Jerry died that I didn't really have enough time to create a life for myself - until now. I am a much better mother and grandmother to my daughters and their children. I am more of a friend than I had ever been when I was married. I take classes because I enjoy them - not because they fill the time. I don't run away from home anymore - at least not right now. This weekend I spent 3 days at home cleaning out closets, going through paperwork, looking through Jerry's things that I had stored away - and the greatest accomplishment of all - I hemmed those bedroom curtains that I had been telling myself for the past 3 plus years that I was going to do. I even ironed them! When does the grieving end? When does the mourning stop? I don't know. Yes, I cried this weekend. Some of it the deep grieving sobs that have become a part of my life. But, as I allowed these waves of grief to flow over and out of me they were replaced with a new sense of peace that I will make it through.

Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 31, 2016 at 10:57am

Don't be alone this evening ... we'll be in the Widowed Village chat room tonight to keep each other company. 

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Comment by lizbeth4 on December 27, 2016 at 4:31pm

Christmas wasn't as bad for me this year as it was last year!  I had dinner at my house and was surrounded by family members.   Like you Susan, I have had to change a lot since my Husband's death.   I am not the same person.   I miss him everyday but I have managed to go on and make a new life.   I have been real busy as my youngest Daughter who is pregnant with a baby girl is living with me.   I have a Grandson (11) from my oldest Daughter.  I feel blessed!!  I have been busy transforming the spare bedroom into a nursery.   I keep thinking how much my Husband loved being Papa to our Grandson.   I know he is watching from above!!!!!

Comment by Brianne on December 24, 2016 at 6:48am

Comment by booktime (Susan) on December 24, 2016 at 2:55am

Merry Christmas to you all. I say Merry but I am not sure I actually really feel that. I'm with family today and tomorrow so it will be nice. I know I had a melt down last year but I don't think I'll feel that. I still miss Ed so very much but I am realizing too how much life I have lived since he died. How much I have changed because I have had to. I could not continue as the same person but I can as I am now.

May we find peace in these holidays and hold onto the new memories which are created in these magical times.

Hugs to all.

Comment by booktime (Susan) on December 14, 2016 at 11:42am

Widow85, I have felt that a few times and it's always so odd to catch it. I feel happy ... and then I go whoa.

But I think it's good.

Comment by widow85 on December 14, 2016 at 10:27am

I was picking up dry cleaning and the shopkeeper had the xmas station on. I suddenly realized I was whistling along to "Santa Claus is Coming to Town" and feeling, well, actually joyful for a few seconds. It was such a weird and unfamiliar feeling that it stopped me in my tracks.

Comment by lizbeth4 on December 11, 2016 at 12:02pm

I am almost at the 4th year and I still have a hole inside of me and a feeling of emptiness.   I have a lot to be happy for.   My youngest Daughter is living with me and due to have a baby girl in April.    She has given me something wonderful to look forward to.   I put up my Christmas tree and some decorations.   I wrapped the gifts and send out Christmas cards.   I must move forward but my Husband will always have a special place in my heart.   I truly miss him!

Comment by Maggie on December 6, 2016 at 11:17am
I have also entered my 4th year and have been feeling blue lately again. Everyone thinks I'm doing well...they just don't know what's underneath is so correct. I wonder if it will ever truly get better. I do have my good days....I moved and started with a new grief group and today we spoke of losing the joy in life that we had before. Now there's an emptiness...which can only be partially filled...

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