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Comment by Tink on December 31, 2017 at 5:45pm

It's been quite a while since on the site. A lot has happened in the last year. Trying to find a new way/ life but...anyway...hope everyone can find their place in the next year. Am fairly new to New Mexico and am open to meeting others the state.

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on December 31, 2017 at 11:08am

If you don't have plans this evening, pop into the chat room to ring in the new year with other Villagers. You are not alone. We'll be there for all US time zones from 11pm Eastern to 12:30am Pacific.

Comment by CarLady on December 30, 2017 at 4:23pm

Hi booktime Susan and wid-sisters and brothers 

This was my 5th Christmas widowed; I hosted dinner for my children, spouses and in laws.  It was lovely.  A few days later we visited my late husbands family, which went ok considering relations with them have been strained since his passing.

 I am starting a new chapter in 2018 as I retired from my long time job in December after 20 years.  

So, Happy New Years to all of us and best wishes for new beginnings and positive outcomes in future.  

Hugs to all.   

Comment by booktime (Susan) on December 30, 2017 at 4:05pm

Hoping everyone had a good Christmas. It was my first without my mother and her wonderful house which held us all. So we gathered in smaller groups. I have my sister, her daughter and her husband for Christmas.  It was fun! I was actually thrilled that of all the homes my niece could have gone to she wanted to be with me.

Now I am fighting a cold and wondering what I am doing for New Year's. I am supposed to be with my sister at her home but won't if I still feel under the weather. I am not too worried about being alone if I have to be. I have something I can do on New Year's Day.

How is everyone?

Comment by Seashell on November 15, 2017 at 11:42am

Thank you all for your kind words. I went home last night and pulled out the pictures a friend had taken of my husband's funeral. It was the first time I allowed myself to see them. Although we were all grieving it was good to see smiles and even my youngest daughter giggling a little. She is so much like her father. I then pulled out the DVD I had done for my husband's memorial service and watched these pictures to the music several times. My cat even came and sat on my lap. It was wonderful to see - once again - what a great man he was. He was such a good husband and father. Almost every picture he had one or both girls next to him. My love to all of you.

Comment by AMA on November 14, 2017 at 8:09pm

Dear Seashell,

I am so sorry to hear that someone's comments hurt you so badly.  I too feel sad about the state of the world.  Perhaps we all feel more for others, have more empathy because we know that love and loss cross all boundaries?  Nobody is exempt.  But it sounds as if Jerry was particularly in tune with your feelings and your beliefs.  It can feel isolating to not only feel that he is gone but also that the one person you related to the most is also gone.  I have always felt that losing my husband is especially difficult because he was also my best friend, the one person who knew me completely and without judgement.  

Hopefully you will feel comfortable to continue posting your feelings.  Sometimes it just feels so good to get it out!  I find that sometimes I just need to write it in a letter or journal, then I feel a sense of relief.  Big hugs to you and next time you see that person just feel sad that their own world is so narrow in comparison to your own.  

Comment by Bobbysgirl on November 14, 2017 at 12:59pm
In my experience I have come to the conclusion that judgemental people are afraid of people who are different. They live in a very narrow world. I have been fortunate since childhood to being exposed to different people. I am not a religious person and I have some friends who are religious. I am tolerant of other people’s beliefs, but I have no desire to hear their beliefs. When I look at the situation the world is in I think religion causes grief. I am not trying to offend anyone. Peace to all.
Comment by Maggie on November 14, 2017 at 12:53pm
That's the problem with religion....everyone thinks their way is the only way. She seems petty and with some delight on being mean and thoughtless. We are far to judgemental as a species with no regard to the hurt it can cause. Just look at the world today.
Please ignore this and remember the love of your husband and the fine example of a human he was.
Comment by Seashell on November 14, 2017 at 8:17am

Well, no one has been here for awhile so I guess I can feel pretty safe writing this. Today someone made a judgemental comment about the religious beliefs of the Church my husband's funeral was held in and how depressing their funerals were. I live in a state where they are primarily one religion and can be very judgemental of other religions. After I corrected this person I promptly went out and cried. I don't think I have cried this hard in a very long time. It has been 4 years 7 months 3 days since Jerry passed. I miss him so much right now. Jerry was my friend, my confidant. There are so many things going on right now that the four walls that surround me seem hollow to my words. Why must people judge others on the color of their skin, their religious beliefs, etc.? My husband was one who accepted all people. He loved people. Why must we exclude to include? Thank you for listening...

Comment by booktime (Susan) on September 16, 2017 at 3:33am

Just a quick follow up - no one really remembered the date without my prompting except for my neighbor who I have only known a year and a half! I am so touched. She sent a message last night with a picture which included a glass of wine and said "here's to Ed". I am so moved she of all people remembered! She never knew Ed.


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