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Comment by Nieta on April 16, 2016 at 7:26pm

It's been a tough day today.  I didn't step out of our apartment.  I feel I just want to be a hermit sometimes and I don't want to see anyone or be seen by anyone. Despite my best intentions, I really haven't got much done around the house either.  Some days are just harder to escape the sadness no matter how much time has passed.

I did ride a stationary bike for 20 some odd minutes today in my quest to try and get in shape, and will try to make an hour before the night is out.  Fingers crossed.

 I've read a lot of posts in different groups and I know I'm not alone in my sadness.  It takes a lot of love to create that much sadness. 

Wishing everyone a better tomorrow...

Comment by Nieta on April 14, 2016 at 3:46pm

I found this in a shop a couple of years ago and, while it made me cry, it also brings me comfort.  I hope it brings comfort to those who read it too.

Comment by idaho on April 13, 2016 at 10:58am

Thank you Froggie. and a late Happy Birthday to you. well...we, my daughter and I spent the day volunteering at a therapeutic horse back riding place then went to group grief therapy..not the best thing for a birthday but it just happened to fall on that day. so...we are going to sushi and a movie tonight. I am lucky enough to have a couple of old birthday cards from my husband so I read them over and over again! Peace to you as well.

Comment by Froggie4635 on April 12, 2016 at 11:49am

Dear Idaho,

I had my second birthday since my husband died a couple weeks ago.  I really wanted to have no hub-bub made.  I kind of wanted to just let it lay and just pass this year.  But of course, that didn't happen.  I know that people wanted to make me feel special, but without Mark here, there was no feeling special.  Like you, he had a way of doing something silly that just light him up inside.  This year, I felt really sad because now I am older than he was.  He used to make a joke about my impending birthday; his was a few months before mine.  My retort was always, "Well you are already there".  This was the first year where it isn't true, and it hurt a lot.  I hope you find a way to have some peace today.

Comment by idaho on April 12, 2016 at 11:37am is my second birthday in 30 years without my dear husband. He always sang a silly song every yr, makes me smile to think of it. I still cherish the 1st present he ever gave me. it is a hand carved wooden train. It seems like a strange gift, but it has great meaning to me/us. anyway..kind of feeling sad today. thanks for letting me vent. 

Comment by gennaswife on April 9, 2016 at 11:06am
I have a 12 and an 8 year old. Both of them do their best not to acknowledge the loss. My 12 year old is at a grief camp right now- for the second time. I think many kids grieve that way. I'm not sure if it catches up to them later, but so far my two are seemingly well adjusted.
Comment by WidowedDad2014 on April 9, 2016 at 10:19am
While I'm about 5 months from the 2 year mark of losing my wife, my son, who will be 13 next month, has internalized the loss. Very early on we had a couple of conversations about losing his Mom. Then he immersed himself in school and friends. I did send him to a weekend grief camp. I knew that he would not really share feelings at the camp, but I simply wanted him to hear the other kids and to absolutely know that he was not alone. My heart goes out to you. I'm heartened to hear that you've built a new life. I'll pray for your son that he receives the understanding that his will and is healing. God Bless -
Comment by Lakelady on April 9, 2016 at 9:41am
I'm in this really weird place. Coming up on two years April 28. I built a new life out of the ashes of the old one, but I continue to pray for my son who is sometimes "stuck" in his grief and struggles. I wish I could help him more – but this is the walk that he needs to do himself-and that 13 it's very tough.

Do you guys see this sometimes in your kids?
Comment by my roses on April 3, 2016 at 10:30am

My Roses

Great to see your name again Damianino   - I have not been on WV since before Christmas due to a series

of problems, including a total crash of my computer - plus loss of phone, email, fax etc.  This was done deliberately by my service provider!!   That is all one needs when Christmas brings out the grieving 

for ones loved one.     So am glad to be back on WV and hope to hear how you are going.

Comment by Damianino! on March 25, 2016 at 12:59am
Dear Melissa, I am happy to hear you are making progress. Dare is the word but dare on some more and set higher goals. Grab the good feelings with both hands and zip through as much as you can with your present feeling and resolve that you are going to feel this way all through the weekend and work at it. Bear also at the back of your mind or better still at the front that you departed love would want nothing better. I just passed 2nd anniversary and no matter what anybody thought I sailed through and actually had fun and no regrets. I wish you better days ahead

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