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Widowed in 2014

It's always hard to accept that we will be getting new members each year. Please know that you are welcome ANYWHERE on the site. A few members who were widowed in 2013 will join you so that you don't feel so alone here as it is early in the year. 

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Comment by gardenlady 1 hour ago
hello Lotis, I too am so sorry for you loss. There truly are no words but reading the many entries of sites like these really does help in some way to help you become accustomed to the feeling of so many others who are feeling just like you are because they have lost a part of themselves and someone to help you on your life journey. I never realized until this April how profound this feeling is until my mate of 57 years and 2 days died during emergency heart surgery. I had no clue how to do the finances, the cars the lawn etc etc. I am taking one or two little steps every day and crying less but not any less lonely. You will heal slowly ....be ever so gentle with yourself and take the comfort of others here to help you to do so.
Comment by Shirah 4 hours ago

Welcome Lotis,  I am very sorry for your loss...this is a good place to find healing and support.  I lost my own husband in Feb. also...life has all kinds of twists and turns, we don't know what the future holds.  I do understand all of your emotional struggles...to be a single parent.  There are no words...so I will pray for you and your son...for you to have peace and healing flow into your life.  Shalom

Comment by Gary'swife 16 hours ago

Hi Everyone-

I haven't had a chance to catch up for a while.  I am on a road trip with my brother, which has been a wonderful distraction.  However, today there were things that reminded me of Gary, places he and I had planned to visit, but never managed.  He and I both loved to travel, and probably never would have run out of places we wished to visit, but it still pains.

((Hugs)) to all who have joined this group, sorry you are here, but here you will find support from those who truly understand.


Comment by Vettegirl 22 hours ago
I hate this too Dave55 but just don't know what to do to make it bearable. Because it isn't and it will not be for a long long time if ever. Somedays sleep is the only relief.
Comment by Dave55 23 hours ago
Thanks vettegirl and lots of hugs. That's really beautiful, I wish I could write like that. There I go tearing up.again, been a bit of a rough weekend so far. Either crying or close to crying. I hate this so much so much...
Comment by Vettegirl yesterday
I just passed the 6 month mark of my Dave's passing (February 19th) and thought I would share this with you. It is in my hospice grief support book:

For Both of Us

As long as I can
I will look at this world for both of us.
As long as I can
I will laugh with the birds
I will sing with the flowers
I will pray to the stars
for both of us.
As long as I can
I will remember
how many things on this earth
were your joy
and I will live
as well as you would want me to live
as long as I can.
Sasha, from Wintersun

Hugs to all.
Comment by CaseyLea7 yesterday
I have a similar story. I was 8 weeks pregnant when my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer and lost him 13 mo later. Your sweet baby will be the reason you keep going. I wish things could be different for all of us. Hugs.
Comment by lotis yesterday

Evening all, This is my first time posting on this site, so I thought I'd introduce myself and share my story.  I am 33 years old.  I met the love of my life, Bob, about 12 years ago.  We were friends for about 3 years and then began dating.  We had a wonderful life together.  I told him all the time that I had never been truly happy until I met him.  We were both shy about getting married, but decided it was time in May of 2013.  Around that same time, we discovered we were expecting a child.  It was a complete shock as I had been told I was unable to have children.  We were thrilled!  Our life seemed like a fairy tale, and every day was a blessing.  In November of 2013, when I was 8 months pregnant, Bob suddenly fell ill.  Three days before Thanksgiving, he was diagnosed with stage 4 esophageal cancer.  From there, his illness seemed to go into hyper drive and nothing was going to stop it or slow it down.  Our beautiful baby boy was born on Jan 3, 2014.  The emotions were bitter-sweet.  Bob passed away just 6 weeks later, on Feb 14 (yes, Valentine's Day), 2014.  I am suddenly a widowed single mother and completely lost and terrified and devastated and angry and confused and...well, you get the point.  I love my son with all my heart, but I can't seem to make peace with the fact that he has to grow up without a father, without the greatest man Ive ever known.  We thought our son would have every advantage.  This just doesn't seem right or fair.  Thanks for listening.

Comment by MicksGirl yesterday
My heart aches for all of us here. I can't believe how many of us feel so unsure of ourselves when before we were confident. At least now I know I am not alone. I had a window break and when it happened my first thought was Mike will handle this then it was no Mike is not here you have to deal with this, I like the rest of you do not like feeling helpless.
People speak of a new normal I just can't picture this ever feeling normal.
My work week ended today and for that I am grateful I don't think I could last one more day of dealing with people. Playing the part that everything is fine when all I wanna do is scream or cry.
I am thankful to all of you for sharing without all of you I wouldn't know what I feel is shared by all of you thank you and I give you all a big hug
Comment by Shirah yesterday

Welcome DM, lost my hubby in Feb. also.  That 7 month mark is looming...the 3rd of every month is a reminder for me now.  Hugs, shalom all have a blessed holiday.


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