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Comment by alonenow (Betsy) on May 7, 2016 at 8:18am

I am really being uplifted by the positive stories as well. It's nearly eight months for me and I can echo what many of you are saying. I have some really tough times but I also have hours and even days when I'm OK, not great but not as low as I was in the first few months. May this trend continue for all of us.

Comment by danteprayer14 on May 6, 2016 at 5:41pm

Really enjoying reading the positivity. I'm coming up on the big 6 month mark, and maybe it's the warmer weather and the green leaves, but I feel, too, as though I can see a way forward.  Not what I wanted, but it is something I can accept and live with.  I will always miss him.  

Comment by Hope on May 6, 2016 at 7:18am

So many of the comments I am reading are encouraging in that you are making progress and the "open wound" is healing. I can relate to this as well. While I think of my husband everyday and will always love him my mind is now more focused on building a life alone. I am not as sad and I am getting out more, becoming more productive. It feels good. Then, there are those days where I get that big wave of grief again but they are less and not as overwhelming. I feel that I have finally accepted this new reality. What I feel now is I need to find more friends (particularly widows/widowers) and create a community I can relate to so I am not as lonely. While my family loves me and we see each other they are busy and I don't want to completely lean on them for company. May you all have more good days...Hugs

Comment by Really? on May 6, 2016 at 5:28am

"Transition from 'me' to 'we'" Not there completely yet, but I really enjoy the days that I am. Sometimes I wake up full of life, and a feeling that it's my life to live and the question is only, how can I live it well? And even though I'm so aware that it's mine and mine alone to choose/build, there's also an awareness that he's still with me and he's happy that I'm happy and he's cheering me on. Other days, I can barely see my way until the night time and that becomes my single goal-- just getting through the day. But I can't seem to figure out what the pattern is, if there is one to be found.

I too can report that I'm (nearly!) done with the fully open wound feeling, mixelated. What an apt description.

Congratulations to you, Terry on finding a specific path! I've found one, too, but I hesitate to make the complete leap. I'm getting there in stages, though.

Brandy1977, I talk to my husband out loud, too. I also write to him. Either way, it feels like I've gotten something off my chest and it's easier for me to move on to the next thing.

Comment by mixelated on May 5, 2016 at 8:15pm

After having made it through the first major family crisis without him this last month, having seen our daughter through her accident and surgery and moved her back in with me to recover, I think I am stronger and more stable. I am taking more things in stride rather than crumpling at each challenge. I have stopped feeling like an open wound.  

Most of the time, anyway.

Comment by Mary H on May 5, 2016 at 8:01pm

I'm doing better too.  I made the transition from we to me.  I don't like it nearly as much, but at least I don't feel like a person ripped in two any longer.

Comment by Brandy1977 on May 5, 2016 at 3:34pm

Hi Everyone, Sorry I have not been on for awhile a lot of changes and up and down emotions.

SuzyB, I can relate the 1 year anniversary is coming up on June 16th and I can't believe how fast time has gone just like you I am trying to move forward a little each day I  know I will miss her for the rest of my life but I can't have her back so myself and my kids are going to have to be a family without her here. I still talk to her out loud when I am alone and ask her what I should do when it comes to decisions about our girls. I know we are all going through this journey be we will make it through one step at a time. Hugs to you

Comment by Suzy B on May 5, 2016 at 7:26am

Hi everyone.  I'm not sure exactly what is happening, but I seem to be feeling quite a bit better about my life lately (yes, I'm surprised).  In mid-June it will be a year since Darrell has been gone, so I've begun dreading the anniversary coming up, but other than that things have been going fairly well. I still miss him a lot each and every day, but now I can look at old photos of good times with him and experience both joy as I remember the fun times we had as well as the sadness that he is no longer here. I feel I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.  I know I will be grieving him to some degree probably the rest of my life, but I can also see that going on with my own life might just be possible without him. In fact, I am already doing that.

Comment by FitFLNana (Thelma) on May 4, 2016 at 1:01pm

Terry - you are blessed to know what area to get into to put purpose back into your life!  And you'll be such a blessing to others!  I am looking - but so unsure.  I am searching for my new normal - and for what the next chapter in my life should look like.

Comment by Terry on May 4, 2016 at 9:56am

It was a decision of mine even before my wife's death that I wanted to do something with volunteer work in the line of palliative care.  I knew for the first year or so that it would be out of the question as I was too deep within my grief to be of assistance to anyone else.  I continued to feel that pull though and today I finally took action on it.  My local community college offers a 6 part credit course in palliative care and I decided this morning it was time to get off the pot.  It is my hope that by reaching out to others, I will learn the lesson that I needed to from my experience.  I believe my increased level of compassion will be of service to others and at the end of the day, I will be reminded that it is not all about me.  I have to thank all of you here for the strength you have given me over the past 14 months.  Reading your experiences has been of real value to me as I hope mine have helped some of you.  Maybe I will be realizing the purpose that I felt was hidden deep within me for so long.


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