Hello –
I lost my husband 5 years ago – he died by suicide after a long life of addiction and lies. We were married 32 years, and I found out after that he had lied masterfully for many of those years.
But here's the deal – I'm getting married on Saturday to a wonderful man. He treats me like a queen, and is 100% transparent, which I desperately needed. I trust him like I never dreamed I could. My question…
How can I respect his choice to have 2 glasses of wine every evening and not assume he'll up the total gradually, and before I know it he'll be downing a bottle a night? Lately he's had 3 glasses of wine, and it ticks me off that I'm counting. He's never given me any reason to doubt him. He's very responsible, never abuses it. For 32 years I kept track out of the corner of my eye, and never really got to enjoy events. I'm so stressed about this.
Does anyone else have this issue? Even my counselor has said she doesn't see a problem. My kids tell me to not say anything and deal with it by myself.
Any ideas????
Thanks 🙂
MichelleD-4 says
Posted on February 23, 2024 0
Address your concerns with your fiancé before you marry him. Tell him you’re not comfortable with him drinking 3 glasses of wine every night cuz you fear he’s gonna become a full blown alcoholic. Tell him of your past experience of addiction with your late husband. This is what I would do if I were you.