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Nothing Compares

Started by Miket. Last reply by Melissa on Wednesday. 4 Replies

Well, next week it will be two years since I lost my wife to cancer. There has now been 730 days to think about what happened, what went wrong, and what I could have done differently. I continue to…Continue

Ugh. Dating.

Started by ImTheMarigold. Last reply by alwayssmilemichele Oct 5. 2 Replies

Coming up on two years in November. I just started to think I might want to try dating. I'm just so lonely and sad. Not what I expected for myself at 37 years old. I can't imagine anything ever being…Continue

I Heard Your Voice in the Wind Today

Started by Austin Oct 4. 0 Replies

I discovered this poem and it really radiated with me.Maybe it will bring some peace to someone else too. I Heard Your Voice In The Wind TodayI heard your voice in the wind today and I turned to see…Continue

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Comment by Racingfan60 on February 21, 2018 at 7:20am

My name is Teresa Sewell, I am from Alabama and I am 61 years old on July 27, 2016 my entire life changed for the worse my husband of 25 years passed away suddenly and unexpected after having gone through 2 hip replacements and a total knee replacement without complications he had recently had to go on medical disability he had only drawn 2 SS checks before his death the death certificate says he died from sudden cardiac arrest but my husband never had any type of cardiac problems at all at the time of his death he had just completed 8 weeks of radiation treatment for prostate cancer he died on a Wednesday on the Monday prior to his death we had went back to the doctor's office for blood work to be done to see if the radiation had gotten rid of the prostate cancer he was short of breath at the time but during his radiation treatments he always was telling the doctor of the shortness of breath the doctor said it was cause by the extremely hot weather we were having I told the doctor that was certainly not the cause because for the last month he was inside the house in air conditioning and just going down the hall the the bathroom left him out of breath but the doctor still insisted it was the weather on the Friday following my husband's death on Wednesday the doctor's nurse called me while I was making funeral arrangements for my husband to ask why my husband had not shown up for his appointment I told her in no uncertain terms that he had a  very good reason for not being there because he was dead she immediately went and got the doctor on the phone all he said was how sorry he was I told him that we would have never chosen radiation had we known this would happen I was hesitant to go with radiation but my husband wanted it because my father had prostate cancer and he had used this same doctor and he never had a problem at all but he did not have all the hip replacements the doctor assured me that they could give the radiation with the hip implants with no problems which was a lie everyone I have talked to said my husband died of a pulmonary embolism that I should have had an autopsy performed but I did not think of that. 

Comment by Lev on February 9, 2018 at 8:49am

Dear Fran

 I sent you a birthday card for your beloved.

With love and best wishes.


Comment by Lev on February 9, 2018 at 8:47am

Comment by Mrs. L. on February 9, 2018 at 7:48am

Today would have been my husband's 80th birthday.  I always told him I hoped he would live to 80, somehow right now that does not feel so old.  Will go to the cemetery and sit on the bench and have lunch and talk.  Still have not come to terms that it will soon be 2 years.

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on December 31, 2017 at 11:09am

If you don't have plans this evening, pop into the chat room to ring in the new year with other Villagers. You are not alone. We'll be there for all US time zones from 11pm Eastern to 12:30am Pacific.

Comment by lowrsr (Sherry) on December 27, 2017 at 5:47pm

I hope everyone is managing the holidays... Almost over!

Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 25, 2017 at 7:23am

We're hanging out in the WV chat room for anyone who finds themselves alone on Christmas day. Join us!

Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 17, 2017 at 8:52am

If you need some company on Christmas Day &/or New Years Eve, please join me in the Chat Room.

I'll be hosting the Chat Room on Christmas Day, so if you need a boost before heading off to a family gathering or find yourself alone and want to chat with others out there just like you ... please stop by.  I'll be keeping an eye on the room all day (I'm in the Pacific time zone).

I'll also be hosting a New Years Eve chat from 11pm Eastern time to 12:30am Pacific time.

Dianne in Nevada

Comment by originaloregonian on December 16, 2017 at 4:26pm

ImTheMarigold, I am feeling the same way.  It was Halloween 2016 when my husband passed, and I was numb during the holidays last year and just did things for my toddler daughter.  I was at a high school concert this last week and broke down in tears over "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas".  I still haven't gotten a tree and want to pull out a few decorations, but I think I'm stalling because of the pain I know that will come.  

Comment by ImTheMarigold on December 15, 2017 at 7:05am

Hi Sherry. I am just over a year now and I agree, it is getting harder. I just want the holidays to be over. I was so numb last year, just 6 weeks in, that this year feels like the first Christmas without him. I have not been doing as much as the difficult work as I should be, I get scared of being overwhelmed by all the pain. I know I should. And I tell myself that come the weekend I will make time for it. Then I do everything to avoid it. Thinking of you and others for whom this season is not what it used to be.


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