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Making new friends

Started by Mike. Last reply by MidnightBear (Tony) Feb 15. 7 Replies

I read a lot about people who have a great support group of family and friends. But my wife was my best friend and my family is far away. So my support group is digital, either online or on the…Continue

Why did this happen?

Started by Mike. Last reply by Clare Feb 15. 14 Replies

Hi,It has been less than two months since my wife died and I have been trying to figure out how/why my wife got a one in a million disease like Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease. I keep running it over and…Continue

Dating Again?

Started by Mike. Last reply by Carmen513 Feb 13. 6 Replies

I saw this article and thought I would post it. I make no judgements one way or the other. I am interested in others peoples’ opinions. …Continue

Its Official

Started by HelensRay. Last reply by Clare Feb 11. 11 Replies

Its official I just hate hate hate hate this life without my Helen.  Cancer snatched Helen from me 30th June and I thought I was doing OK, but every day is getting so more wearisome.  I go out, I…Continue

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Comment by GTG on February 16, 2018 at 10:54am

InsideLove,

My precious husband was USAF also... i love that. 

Comment by InsideLove on February 12, 2018 at 4:59am

GTG beautiful moving song. Images in it embraced me. My husband was USAF for 8 years. He soared like the planes after that, as an entrepreneur. 

Carmen513 what a soothing song! Loved the photo images as she sang.

Music. A soothing healer in grief. Thank you GTG and Carmen513.

Comment by HelensRay on February 12, 2018 at 2:45am

two really lovely songs thanks for sharing.  On both youtube pages there is Alan Jackson singing "Every Now and Then" give that one a spin

Comment by Carmen513 on February 12, 2018 at 12:00am

Beautiful song GTG! Thanks for sharing (( Hugs))

Check this tune out , Danni and her twin wrote this for a friend and mother who had passed. Echoed my heart,maybe others too. God bless.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNoLJy68ZcE

Comment by GTG on February 11, 2018 at 9:28pm
Comment by EarthSpirit (Carol) on February 11, 2018 at 3:07pm

ShirleyB, my heart goes out to you and your children, coping with the loss of husband and father. Way too soon. I am old enough to be your mother (74), but your words have comforted me; shouldn’t it be the other way around?! After only 4 months I’m beginning to realize that I’m just now hitting the wall of it all setting in; I heard that can happen. Today was a bad day, full of tears and sadness. The first months were so filled with the work of settling things, and I was like a robot, getting it all done. Now I have to get back out and about, but it’s so hard to think of doing. We did EVERYthing together, and everywhere I could go I’d see him...and Us. I know I have to force myself to do these things, that’s been said by many people here. I DO have confidence that I can achieve these things. It will just take so much time, won’t it? Thank you for your reply and thoughts, my very best to you as well..

Comment by ShirleyB on February 11, 2018 at 7:27am

EarthSpirit, thank you for your kind words.  I am so grateful that what I said resonated with you.  In reading your post it saddens my heart to hear you say you have not experienced any joyful moments.  All I can say is you will....eventually.  In your own time and at your own pace.  I remember when John died in May I had a son graduating from High School and a daughter finishing her sophomore year of HS.  I can barely remember any of that....I felt then and through most of the Summer that I was just going through the motions for my kids and was almost in a survival mode of sort trying to get through his graduation, John's funeral, a family trip we had planned for July, moving Nick into college and getting Abbey started in her junior year of high school. There was no true joyful moments for me in there.  While I was so proud of my son all I could think was that John was not here to see it.  He will not see Nick graduate from college. He will not see my daughter dance again, graduate, go to college etc.  I kept telling myself if I could just make it through this or that, make it through a certain number of months, make it through the Holidays, make it to the year mark....that I would be better.  But I have realized I will never be "better."  But I am different and I am beginning to figure out this new normal of mine.  I didn't choose it- but I am living it and am attempting to adapt to it. I know in my heart that John is here with me.  I see him in my kids and I feel him here with me sometimes. He is a part of who I am today- this man who has been a part of 23 of the 47 years of life I have lived. I know he wants me to keep living and learning and experiencing life and that is what we try to do every day.  I cannot wait to hear from you when you do experience a moment of joy, a heartfelt laugh, a true smile....and I promise you that that will happen- again, in your time, as you work through your own grief. My best to you.

Comment by EarthSpirit (Carol) on February 11, 2018 at 5:26am

Carmen, your post was very comforting and moving, especially the part about creating as oasis where we now have this void in our lives and hearts. I also believe, as you do, that my husband is here with me in some way, loving me and encouraging me on my way.  My courage ebbs and flows every day, and I’m grateful for this group of people who share my journey...

Comment by Carmen513 on February 11, 2018 at 5:10am

Pearlinden, HelensRay,

Thank you for your feedback. I appreciate you taking the time to let me know.

I believe love never dies, and as we respond in helping each other,we really are helping ourselves.

I also believe with all my heart that our loved ones are indeed still loving us.....xo

Comment by HelensRay on February 11, 2018 at 4:32am

Carmen, I would like to echo what Pearlinden has said.  I too felt so much comfort from your very moving words, it expresses what I would want to say, thank you

 

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