Members

This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."

Information

Widowed in 2017

We're so sorry you have a reason to join us. Please get acquainted here and make friends anywhere on the site.

Check the 'Help' tab for more guidance or send questions to [email protected]

We are grateful you found us so soon after your loss, but until this group grows please feel free to also join the Widowed in 2016 group. There are active conversations there with others in their first year of loss.

Members: 176
Latest Activity: 16 hours ago

Discussion Forum

Has Anyone had any 'Strange' things happen in your house since your spouse passed?

Started by Shoosie2. Last reply by Kimba on Friday. 13 Replies

Good Morning EveryoneI haven't had much of a chance to post anything recently, but I do read everything. I just had to ask this question. Two days after my Rick passed, December 20, 2017, I was…Continue

Making new friends

Started by Mike. Last reply by Isaiah4031 Sep 19, 2018. 23 Replies

I read a lot about people who have a great support group of family and friends. But my wife was my best friend and my family is far away. So my support group is digital, either online or on the…Continue

6weeks out and overwhelming sadness

Started by Luv4Z. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Jul 20, 2018. 9 Replies

Today I have an overwhelming sadness . Im sure this is not a stranger to anyone on this site. I get so sad all of sudden . I have 4 kids under the age of 12 and they see me crying every day. I try to…Continue

A Ton of Bricks

Started by Shoosie2. Last reply by Shoosie2 May 24, 2018. 7 Replies

Hi everyoneTomorrow is the 4 1/2 month mark that my Rick left his 'earth-suit' , and it's just really hitting me hard that my Rick won't ever be back. Ever. I tried to get that through my mind and…Continue

Comment Wall

Comment

You need to be a member of Widowed in 2017 to add comments!

Comment by Kimba 16 hours ago

Hi Tony,

‘my friends who are widdowed call it The Widows Channel;  but sometimes I am so down that I need to watch something positive.  Last night I planned to see a movie on Amazon called The Beautiful Boy about a family with. Son who is a drug addict.  It was so depressing that I read a book instead.  I am working on being okay alone at night.  I think it is paramount.

i agree with you about having the support of other widows/widowers and organizations like Camp Widow.  I attended last year in Tampa and San Diego and plan on attending in March.  My only obstacle is that I am attending a 7-day cruise called “The Bereavement Cruise” which I went on last year. It is a great experience if you can go.  But, it might be too intense for me togo from one to the other.

Life is still a blur sometimes and for the me the second year is worse than the first.  I’d been warned about that so I wasn’t surprised.  Like you some days are good but there are bad days too.  I’m trying to make myself focus on the good things and good people coming into my life instead of those that are leaving my life.  I started a Meetup Group in Key West Florida called “Widowed in Paradise” and have met some fantastic widows and widowers. I feel like they really get me.  

Have a great day!

Kim

Comment by MidnightBear (Tony) on Friday

Kimba - while I am generally careful to admit it, my first year (heck my last 2 weeks :D) was filled with a lot of Hallmark Channel viewings.  For me it was sort of going back to a last connection.  The day I took my wife to the hospital for the last time was the first time in several weeks she was actually feeling like being around anyone.  She had asked me to come watch a Hallmark Christmas movie with her.  We were watching that when it was clear to me she had had some sort of stroke and I had to take her to the doctor.  She didn't want to go, but I convinced her.   Much of the last year has been a complete blur of events for me.  I went from one activity to the next.  When the activities ran out I sort of stood in place staring not knowing what to do next.  

I will be down in Tampa this year for my second time (also second camp), the first was amazingly helpful at my 4 month mark to just start to see that there was a light at the end of the tunnel.  I find that the people who are there supporting me and here being my community of like minded individuals acts as my anchor.  The tether at least that keeps me from drifting too far off the path.  There are days/week where very little really makes me happy or think of things in a positive way, but always having folks who get it, helps to ground me a little.  

I don't know where you are, but there are several regional groups as well that may be available to you, I sometimes remember to sign up and go to one here and it is nice just chatting with folks. 

Take it easy out there, maybe I will see you in Tampa if you are going. 

-Tony

Comment by Kimba on Friday

Hello everyone,

i am new to this website, so just getting to know it.  I lost my husband Don on May 11, 2017.  My first year was a blur, filled with lots of crying and movie watching on The Hallmark Channel.  The second year a little different.  My crying isn’t so loud and my grief is less physical.  My guilt and my anger are gone too.  What is left is an empty space where my beloved was in my life.  Some days I feel okay, but many days I feel lost like I don’t have an anchor to hold me in place.  What has been the best medicine is my part time job as a sales clerk and the company of other widows.  I have been to two Camp Widows and plan to return in the Spring.  And found amazing support.  

I am looking forward to being a member of this Group at Widowed Village,

Kim

o,o

Comment by Monkey on December 16, 2018 at 9:00am

this is my first time on here, i lost my Joe very suddenly, he was 41, on Good Friday, April 14, 2017. I am so exhausted from feeling as though i have to explain away my feelings or lie about how i am feeling or soothing others because they are offended if i dont react how they want me to, to  make themselves feel better. i am just exhausted and i hurt and i dont know where to go from this or what i am supposed to be doing- i am so blindsided and its terrifying. 

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on October 5, 2018 at 11:11am

Hope you'll join me in the Chat Room this Sunday.

http://widowedvillage.org/events/hosted-chat-hour-for-our-new-members

Comment by Chris on August 20, 2018 at 8:51am

Hi all. This is my first post here. My husband went home to be with the Lord on 4/29/2017. Just like all of you, my life was instantly shattered. I have been working on a book to help other widows and hope to have it published very soon. Just know that there are many of us out here that can help. We are lonely and sad. I don't believe there is a "normal" after this happens. We are changed, forever. 

Comment by Melissa on August 19, 2018 at 3:13pm

Hi Ioptennis. I'm so very sorry you have to be here, and I'm so sorry about your illness. I know the feeling; there's so much busy work in those first few months, then life goes back to "normal". We're alone and at a loss. My husband and I did everything together as well, and I'm not brave enough yet to do those things alone. 

I'm trying to find a purpose. I haven't, yet. I hope someone here can be more helpful than I. 

I wish you love and comfort.

Comment by loptennis on August 19, 2018 at 2:44pm

I lost my husband on April 11, 2017.  We had been married for 48 years and I met him when I was almost 13 years old.  He was my everything and my best friend.  I have Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer which was in remission until he got sick in 2016.  My kind of cancer can return with stress and pain, it will never go away completely.  I chose to retire in October of 2016, which is the time we found out he had his Cancer.  I was able to go to his doctor visits and chemo treatments.  Sometimes I feel that God has things planned out to cover the bad times.  We were going to travel and do thing together but that didn't happen.  There were so many things to take care of with his passing because everything was in his name.  I don't know what to do with my myself because we were always together.  If anyone has any suggestions I really could use the help!!

Comment by kat on July 21, 2018 at 8:30am

Shelley, I feel the same way. Most days I don't even have the guts to get out of bed I am so paralyzed by my dreams, horrible visions, and the awful reality of facing the world. I feel like my mind has turned into butter and my soul is like honey bursting from its comb - everything is loose and just getting through the day and finding the will to want to live is an immense struggle. The weight of everything - the boundless triggers, the punches of grief that hit me all alone or when I watch television - there is no end. It feels that way. Day after day, they all start to blur. 

Comment by shelley on July 20, 2018 at 10:02pm

My life:  Wake up, crawl out of bed, shake off the dreams, do whatever it takes to get through the day.  9:00pm begin wine and drugs to encourage sleep.  Dream about searching for husband, often finding him dead.  Wake up, crawl out of bed, shake off dreams, etc.  Day after day, night after night.  My life.  

 

Members (176)

 
 
 

© 2019   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service