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Not sure if this is how to post. My husband died August 30th from liver cancer. We have a 4 year old and a 2 year old. I don’t know how to deal with this pain. Taking care of my kids feels impossible, but I’m going through the motions.  I miss him every second of every day 

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I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband died in February, he was diagnosed 6 months earlier with advanced stage liver cancer. We have a 7 year old son. I just want you to know that you are not alone. 

My husband was diagnosed with advanced stage liver cancer in February, also died 6m later. Nice to know I’m not alone, it’s basically the only thing that gives me peace at the moment. I’m sorry for your loss, too 

Hi Elizarahana, My husband passed away from advanced liver cancer also,  He was diagnosed on June 27th and passed away 3 weeks later on July 17th. My mantra has become "one day at a time" but it is very hard.  I do not have young children but I understand what you mean about going thru the motions. I am so sorry for your loss and that we both are now part of this "club".


Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss. One day at a time is a good motto. I’m doing a few minutes at a time. 

First...I am soooooo sorry. You are 12 days ahead of me. My husband died of pancreatic cancer on September 11. We also have two children. Our oldest graduates from high school this year and although I know I am only supposed to worry about getting through each day, hour, minute... I cannot help looking farther, to that day in May when we will be missing a vital part of something that should be celebrated!  

I wish I had a cure for grief (but don’t get me started on cures!). Just know that although I don’t know you...I KNOW you and I’m going through those same motions with you!  I actually don’t believe that time is the answer. I believe first that my faith will carry me through the motions ( even though right nowGod knows I am pretty angry with him.). I also believe that the support of others who TRULY know our pain as widows/widowers is vital to moving forward. I am devouring everything I can get my hands on from others like us to constantly remind and prove to myself that life can be lived again. I haven’t found a way to see or believe that yet, but I’m counting on it. Someway. Somehow. 

Hi Elizarahana.  My husband passed September 12 from cancer as well.  I also have a 4 year old son and find taking care of him very difficult at times.  How are you doing?

So sorry you are here but its so new still. Its so hard and not fair. My husband died june 2 after 5 mo if finding out had stage 4 melanoma with no outside skin sight started internally . We have 4 kids 12-7. I justvtake it one minute at a time. Kids and i have gone to grief groups. I read books like ok to not be ok and option b. Journal and wecakso got 3 punching bags that we hit. Others have suggested crushing ice trays. 


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