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My wife and I were married on 09/15/2017. She passed on 01/05/2018. Even though we were only married those few short months, we were together for 10 years. She was the love of my life. We had that once in a lifetime relationship the everyone wants. Now that the holidays are rolling around it's not getting any easier. I still cry a lot. It has been a rough year to say the least.

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I lost my husband in January of this year, too. We were married for 21 years, together for 22.  I thought I handled Thanksgiving like a champ. Family even said so.  Then December came around and Christmas everywhere! And suddenly, I have wept every day in it was the first month instead of ten months later.   It has been a rough year.  And they say the second year is the toughest. Ugh.

I also feel like my husband died yesterday instead of April 2018. Can this pain continue like this? I feel like a small child who just wants to cry. Yet I am well supervised, but I miss him so much. A warm hug from a widow to another

Thank you. Warm hugs to you, too. 

I get what you are saying. I lost my husband March 18, 2018, and it has been hell. I heard someone say that they sleep like a baby, up every 2 hours crying, and sometimes I'm not even sure it's 2 hours in between. I keep getting told that"it will get easier" and that "your a strong woman and you will be alright". My husband and I were together 49 years, married 43, and to have that taken from me in one day is not something I find any strength in. He loved Christmas, and I am finding it really rough. I wish you all the best.

I wish you strength and grace Sis.  For the holidays, for today...for every day.

Thank you, Lucky. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do, and it doesn't seem to be getting any better. I try to put on my "smiley mask" for people, but inside I'm crumbling. It's nice to have a place where people understand the emotions that wander from o.k. to basket case at a moments notice. 

Hugs to you sis. I'm not going to try to tell you that it will get easier. I have found that with the help of friends, it does make it tolerable. I have gained a great friend in Karen's best friend Patti. She has been my rock this past year! In that sense things get easier. It's still hard for me to even look back on pictures, although, in that sense, it's getting a little easier. I'm getting to the point where I can finally look back and remember the great times that we had together without crying every time. In that sense, it's getting easier. I think that it is different for everyone. I guess what I am trying to tell you is, hang in there. I'm not going to tell you I know how you feel. No one, not even those of us that are going through this know how you feel. It is different for everyone. Anyways, lets try to get through the holidays. My Karen loved to decorate the house for christmas, I haven't even put a tree wishes to you for the holidays.

Thank you, Randy for your kind words. I do have high hopes that things will improve. I know that my husband would not want me to be hurting the way I am. I try to address one day at a time, but there are many days I'd rather pass on and just pull the covers over my head and sleep them away. I, too, have not done any decorating, and have no plans to do any. Don't feel very festive this year. Wishing you a peaceful embrace these holidays.


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