Hi everyone. My name is Ann Chambers. My friends call me "Bobbie".
My honey transitioned April 21, 2021. He was diagnosed with prostate cancer and unfortunately his then urologists did not catch it early though he was diligent in getting it checked regularly. My honey was a "go getter", much younger than his years, fit, energetic and rarely sat down. He never saw closed doors. Whatever he set his mind to do, he made it happen. No & can't wasn't in his DNA. He was very outgoing and never met a stranger and he treated me like his queen. We loved our love. Missing him, longing for him, grieving is the deepest and most never ending pain I've ever felt in my life. I didn't know one could hurt so deeply. The pain of his loss is excruciating. We were married for 36 years and together for 40 years.
I'm happy to have found this community and look forward to being a part of a group that truly understands this journey though I know everyone's grief is individual.
Bob R says
Posted on August 1, 2021 0
Hello Bobbie. I hope you don’t mind me calling you Bobbie. I completely understand how you feel. I lost my wife Donna back on April 27. It has definitely has been a daily struggle and I miss her dearly. The third month has been more difficulty and the feeling of sadness had intensified greatly.
I just want to assure you that you are not alone. How strange it may sound, I felt relieved knowing I was not alone when hearing other people’s loss at the support groups I have been attending. I sincerely hope things are going well for you, meaning as the best it can be through these difficult times.
AnnC says
Posted on August 2, 2021 0
Hi Rob. I’m so sorry for your loss. I think I know what you mean when you say you find relief in knowing you’re not alone. Therefore, the creation of this online community and other support groups. It is always comforting to know that we are not the only ones going through “tough” stuff. And this is the toughest I’ve ever experienced in my lifetime. It helps knowing that others understand without many words having to be spoken. It doesn’t take away the intense pain & longing, however no one wants to experience life’s ups or downs alone. Thanks so much for your response to my posting.
Best to you
DavidS says
Posted on July 25, 2021 0
Hi Bobbie,
I am sorry that you have had this great loss. I also had my partner suddenly taken by a hidden cancer, despite a lifetime of doing all the right things. I try to make sense of what happened, but never come up with anything meaningful or useful. I think that you are right that each grieving person has to find their own way. Mine has been to research as much as I can about the situation I am in. I hope you find your own path and that you get the support you need along the way.
AnnC says
Posted on August 2, 2021 0
Hi David. Thanks for sharing a bit of your story with me. So sorry for your loss. I always say that there is more to life than we will know in our human physical existence. There are certainly things we can’t make sense of. What I do know is that this is the hardest journey I’ve ever had to walk and that I miss my honey with an intensity that is so unbearable. I know that the path I’m to travel will open up to me bit by bit with a timing that is perfect……right now that seems so very far away….who knows. My faith continues to be steadfast. Best to you