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Lost my wife last January

Started by randy61543. Last reply by Lucky 9 hours ago. 1 Reply

My wife and I were married on 09/15/2017. She passed on 01/05/2018. Even though we were only married those few short months, we were together for 10 years. She was the love of my life. We had that…Continue

Introduction-feeling lost

Started by MomoftwinsinCanada. Last reply by Rainbow18 on Monday. 1 Reply

I lost my husband of 12 years on Oct 1st, 2018. He was diagnosed with lung cancer in 2015, did very well on targeted therapy, worked as a physician full time until April 2018 and became a passionate…Continue

I don't really know what to say

Started by Kek5772. Last reply by IHaftaBeStrong on Sunday. 5 Replies

Hello my name is Beth,Where does one start when their heart has been broken, when words of comfort do little to stop the tears or calm your rapid breathing.Five months ago my husband of 21 years was…Continue

Husband recently passed

Started by Elizarahana. Last reply by Luv4Z Nov 18. 7 Replies

Not sure if this is how to post. My husband died August 30th from liver cancer. We have a 4 year old and a 2 year old. I don’t know how to deal with this pain. Taking care of my kids feels…Continue

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Comment by Weemunk on March 28, 2018 at 4:54am

Hi Everyone, My husband passed away December 19th. A non-smoker, healthy 49 year old man who got lung cancer. It will never make sense to me. We have a 14 year old daughter. I feel miserable, alone, angry, cheated, victimized and it feels like my life is over. No one truly understands what I am going through or perhaps they don't want to be bothered with my grief, so I came here hoping to connect with others who understand.

Comment by familia1 on March 26, 2018 at 12:08am

There are no words for the pain.  It comes in waves. Im sorry for your loss

Comment by Hacochbe on March 25, 2018 at 6:32pm

Hi

its so hard isn't it - 7 weeks today for me and getting harder as the reality sets in :(

Comment by familia1 on March 24, 2018 at 2:17am

Hello.  I just recently lost my husband almost 2 weeks ago.  He was 47 years old and we have a 15 year old together and he raised my now 25 year old son.  I can't believe he is gone.  It was so sudden.  We were separated at the time of his death.  It is so painful not knowing the reason yet. I keep replaying it all, the phone call to tell me he isn't breathing, seeing him, seeing the devastation in my children's eyes.  the brutal wake and funeral.  I brought his ashes home last night and it all feels like a nightmare that I can't wake from.  

Comment by Mich2018 on March 20, 2018 at 3:08pm

Hi all. So today is the 7th week mark of my husband's passing. Every Tuesday morning the entire horror of the morning plays in my mind...from the start of the day, to him leaving for work..the call..the ambulance etc etc . I'm basically a grief stricken panic attack filled mess..until 10:54, which is the time of death.  Then..i can breathe again and it subsides until the following week. This week,  though, it changed.  My brain movie ran until the time he kissed me goodbye and left for work. Then it stopped, just popping up here and there. This time, at 10:54, I was filled with comfort and a peaceful thought.  He was an organ donor and a few weeks ago I was told 2 blind women can see again because of his gift. Until now i found little comfort in that but today it filled me with peace and comfort.  A small blessing to my heart that I wanted to share. Peace.

Comment by Doug02122014 on March 9, 2018 at 2:07am

Rainy, 

I don't know what to say except sorry, sorry, and Sorry for your loss !

As the Danny Gokey song lyrics 

Watch "Tell Your Heart To Beat Again (Lyrics) By: Danny Gokey" on YouTube

https://youtu.be/F77v41jbOYs

"At times like these words fall short ".

I was once just like you described excited about coming home after work and expecting to see my wife sitting in her chair in the living room welcoming me home;  and seeing the empty chair.  Just rips right through you and like tearing the scab off a 4-year old wound I find myself emotionally at that spot on my journey. 

I can say that over time it gets better - never  healed at least for me.   I  learned a new normal. 

Comment by Lucky on March 8, 2018 at 8:33pm

Hi everyone,

I joined this website a couple of weeks ago.  I figured it was time to introduce myself.  My husband passed away on January 28th.  He had a perforated colon, which caused bacteria to spread throughout the inside of his abdomen and he went into septic shock.  He went through a total of twelve surgeries and was in ICU at our local hospital for five months. He was a fighter.  The sweetest and strongest man I've ever known.  He fought back infection after infection...ran the gamut of antibiotics.  I thought he'd recover...a lot people did including all of his nurses in ICU.  But the last infection he had just took its toll.  Official cause of death - pneumonia, sepsis, and cardiac arrest. 

The latest posts by DeeDee about dreams and coming home from work...hit me.  I have come home from work...lost and broken and have cried every day this week, still expecting him to be at his desk and to greet me with "Hi sweetheart."  And I recently just dreamed about him a few nights ago.  My first dream with him in it since he passed.  I was happy to finally have one.  And now, I just want more dreams.

Comment by DeeDee on March 8, 2018 at 6:14pm

I dreamed about my husband last night.  He looked wonderful!  I dreamed we had broken up but he was at a family party.  I couldn't talk to him or touch him, but I kept walking past the room he was in to see him.  I wanted to talk and touch and smell him so badly but I was so happy to see him healthy again.

Comment by Hacochbe on March 5, 2018 at 8:48pm

Poor thing Dee Dee I'm struggling every day - 4 weeks for me. Im planning on going back to work after easter but only 20hrs. I'm soooo tired. Everything is an effort

Comment by DeeDee on March 5, 2018 at 6:58pm

I went to work for the first time since my husband died Feb 1.  I came home a mess, a complete mess.  The last month was clearly the bunny hill of grief and pain.  I still feel as helpless as I did the day he was diagnosed.  

 

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