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Discussion Forum

Identity Crisis?

Started by sis. Last reply by My4pumpkins Feb 7. 3 Replies

I lost my husband March 18, 2018 from a cerebral aneurysm. We were together 49 years, married 43, with grown boys. I guess it's because of the holidays, but lately little things are smacking me in…Continue

Going out is so hard

Started by Kmelli3 (Kate). Last reply by My4pumpkins Feb 7. 4 Replies

Hi there, I'm fairly new to the site.  My name is Kate and I lost my husband of 20 years (Tom) to cardiac arrest on November 23rd at age 46.  I am so lost and devastated.  I have been asked to…Continue

Love is Like the Wind, You Can't See it But You Know It's There

Started by sis. Last reply by KJPE Jan 8. 4 Replies

I borrowed that quote from the movie "A Walk To Remember", but as I was washing dishes this morning, it felt so strong in my mind and heart. I was washing the sugar and creamer bowls, when I broke…Continue

Lost my wife last January

Started by randy61543. Last reply by sis Dec 21, 2018. 8 Replies

My wife and I were married on 09/15/2017. She passed on 01/05/2018. Even though we were only married those few short months, we were together for 10 years. She was the love of my life. We had that…Continue

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Comment by MomOfBoys (Tammi) on September 16, 2018 at 11:30am

Hi CamB...I lost my husband unexpectedly as well about 5 mos ago.  Shock grief really is the worst.  You have no time to even process.  One second they are there, the next they aren't.

I have done all the things you have as well.  It just sucks.

Comment by camB on September 16, 2018 at 10:33am

This is my first post on here. I unexpectedly lost my husband on July 8th and he was only 35 years old.

Each day has its highs and lows but this morning just felt really low. I woke up from a dream where I forgot my husband was dead and the whole dream I kept trying to call/text him and just find him. Then I woke up and remembered he is gone.

After that I had a plan to drive his truck around so that the engine and battery doesn't die but this morning it wouldn't start. It sounds silly but I just felt so sad remembering my husband is dead and now his truck is also dead.

The day is slowly getting better as I have had people come over to help with the truck. But I just simply miss my husband...everyday. Sometimes I just am tired of being sad. I do go out with friends and try to have fun but deep down inside I just wish he were with me. 

Comment by Canshifter on September 12, 2018 at 3:42am

My husband passed away in January and I find some days are just unbearable.  There were so many things planned and talked about and now thats gone. I have a wonderful support team with my daughters but they are also having to handle this with kids and jobs.  Where do you start, what do you say to people when you are having such a bad day? 

Comment by June 15 on September 11, 2018 at 6:32pm

Dani, I’m so sorry. I understand missing that “surprising “. I’m hoping for comfort for you and the little ones.

Comment by Dani on September 11, 2018 at 6:15pm

Hi June 15.  My husband passed away on Feb 4 and today would've been his birthday.  It's been extremely hard, especially remembering how much our littles loved "surprising" him with a cake.

Comment by June 15 on September 11, 2018 at 6:05pm

Hi, my husband died June 15th so we are approaching 3 months.  His birthday is September 12th so it’s very hard this week. Our anniversary was September 2nd.  I knew certain days would be hard and they really are.

 I’m surprised how many of our friends have stopped talking to me. It feels very strange and lonely.

Comment by Sar_ML on September 3, 2018 at 1:16pm

Hi everyone, I signed up recently and have been working up to introducing myself in the groups I joined. I am still in disbelief most of the time to be honest..... I still feel nauseous when I start actually putting it into words or typing it. I haven’t really accepted or become used to this new status yet. To sum things up this new unwanted chapter - earlier this summer our family was in a bad accident that took my husband from us. We are now trying to recover/adapt one day at a time to as I try to cope and navigate this new unbelievable and unplanned part of our story. I’m heartbroken that we are here but it feels like it will be helpful in having so many others to lean on. Thanks for listening.

 

Comment by zavopup on August 25, 2018 at 4:05pm

Bruna,  I am so sorry to hear of your pain.  So recent.  You must give yourself permission to not know what is next.  When my wife died in February I was in shock and devastated.  My identity was changed for having my mate ripped from my life.  I feel broken and lost 10 pounds in the first month.  It's been 6 months now and I feel no change in my pain.  I write about my wife and our life and share with others this process of grief.  My friends are not sure what to do to make me feel better, so they offer support and comfort.  The pain has not diminished, but it has only been 6 months for me.  

Be patient and kind to yourself.

Comment by LP on August 23, 2018 at 1:27pm

Hi Bruna

This is so recent for you. All of us here know just how awful the pain is. But you will get through although it’s really the toughest thing you’ll ever do. The only advice I can give is to cry as much and as loudly as you need to. Don’t hold back. Let other people help you but tell them how they can help, because many friends and family won’t know and won’t understand. They’ll do things that may hurt but with the best intentions. So unfortunately it’s up to us to tell our family what it is we need. The thing that helped me most was allowing people like my sister, best friend and stepdaughter to help me with things like registering the death and organising the cremation etc. I also made sure to have time to myself, when I could and  just stay in bed on a weekend and cry, scream, cuddle my husband’s clothes and do whatever it took to comfort myself. You will get through. And when times get tough we are here to listen. Hugs from a fellow widow 

Comment by Bruna.in.pain on August 23, 2018 at 7:49am

Hello

I am brazilian living in Brazil. I lost my husband, american, living here with me 22 days ago. I´m completely lost. I don´t know what to do with my life.

Are you being able to go on? please tell me how...Thank you

Bruna

 

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