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Identity Crisis?

Started by sis. Last reply by BillDrums Apr 12. 15 Replies

I lost my husband March 18, 2018 from a cerebral aneurysm. We were together 49 years, married 43, with grown boys. I guess it's because of the holidays, but lately little things are smacking me in…Continue

Losing the Love of my Life.

Started by Patra24. Last reply by KJPE Apr 1. 1 Reply

Hi, I'm new to this site, I Lost the Love of my Life, my Amazing Husband on July 10, 2018 to Lung Cancer there's not a day that goes by that I don't cry at some point I feel it's getting worse than…Continue

New to this group and site

Started by Heidi57. Last reply by Heidi57 Mar 29. 2 Replies

My husband of 42 yrs passed away on Sept 22/18. (age 64), due to heart & dialysis complications (long story.) We met July 3, 1974 the day before my 17th birthday.  Our first date was in August…Continue

Going out is so hard

Started by Kmelli3 (Kate). Last reply by LP Mar 29. 8 Replies

Hi there, I'm fairly new to the site.  My name is Kate and I lost my husband of 20 years (Tom) to cardiac arrest on November 23rd at age 46.  I am so lost and devastated.  I have been asked to…Continue

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Comment by NLS2018 on October 23, 2018 at 6:53pm

Hi all, anyone.

I don't know where to even begin. This life I'm living now seems to be in nothing but a whirlwind. 3 months ago I lost my husband, and I almost don't even recognize myself anymore.

I think I've went through almost all of the stages of grief several times over. But this anger stage - I cannot seem to get passed it - UGGH... 

I'm just lost with it all. I know I have to keep living, but the million dollar question is "how"?? 

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on October 5, 2018 at 11:10am

Hope you'll join me in the chat room this Sunday.

Comment by Tonya on October 2, 2018 at 10:29am

I understand all to well, my BC was my compass now I feel that I’ve lost my way somehow. I keep trying to move in the direction that I think he would have wanted but so unsure of everything that I do. Only 4 months for me.

Comment by shellybean on October 2, 2018 at 7:28am

Nine months today. Trying to work on myself, "moving forward," reclaiming my life... But I'm also so very sad and lost; wandering without direction. I feel like two different people inside my body, trying to cohabitate but unable to make the same decisions. Like a two-headed animal both trying to control the body. 

Comment by riet on September 16, 2018 at 11:35am

Dear camB, I am very sorry for your loss. On such a young age, dead is totally baffling.

My experience is different: In April,  I lost my husband after a longtime illness. But I have the same dream: the whole night I try to text/call him and he doesn't answer.  Or I see him on a road a long distance before me. I call to him, very loud.  I see that he hears me, but he does not turn around and the distance between us gets bigger and bigger. And then he is gone.

After such a dream, I am completely broken.  For me, the mornings are worse as the evenings.

And another coincidence: his favorite tree in our garden is dying. It was a healthy strong conifer, and now he's loosing all color.  This never happened before. The tree does not seem to want to live anymore.

This makes me sad.  My husband liked this tree so much.

I am very well supported.  So many people drop in to see if i'm ok.

But no one and nothing can replace my husband. My best friend and the love of my life.

I was able to empty his wardrobe this week.  I was helped by a neighbor who works in a charity organization.

I kept the clothes he liked  most. I will keep them forever. And that feels good.  

But we should still be together.

Comment by MomOfBoys (Tammi) on September 16, 2018 at 11:30am

Hi CamB...I lost my husband unexpectedly as well about 5 mos ago.  Shock grief really is the worst.  You have no time to even process.  One second they are there, the next they aren't.

I have done all the things you have as well.  It just sucks.

Comment by camB on September 16, 2018 at 10:33am

This is my first post on here. I unexpectedly lost my husband on July 8th and he was only 35 years old.

Each day has its highs and lows but this morning just felt really low. I woke up from a dream where I forgot my husband was dead and the whole dream I kept trying to call/text him and just find him. Then I woke up and remembered he is gone.

After that I had a plan to drive his truck around so that the engine and battery doesn't die but this morning it wouldn't start. It sounds silly but I just felt so sad remembering my husband is dead and now his truck is also dead.

The day is slowly getting better as I have had people come over to help with the truck. But I just simply miss my husband...everyday. Sometimes I just am tired of being sad. I do go out with friends and try to have fun but deep down inside I just wish he were with me. 

Comment by Canshifter on September 12, 2018 at 3:42am

My husband passed away in January and I find some days are just unbearable.  There were so many things planned and talked about and now thats gone. I have a wonderful support team with my daughters but they are also having to handle this with kids and jobs.  Where do you start, what do you say to people when you are having such a bad day? 

Comment by June 15 on September 11, 2018 at 6:32pm

Dani, I’m so sorry. I understand missing that “surprising “. I’m hoping for comfort for you and the little ones.

Comment by Dani on September 11, 2018 at 6:15pm

Hi June 15.  My husband passed away on Feb 4 and today would've been his birthday.  It's been extremely hard, especially remembering how much our littles loved "surprising" him with a cake.


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