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Widowed in 2019

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just joining

Started by julieb. Last reply by julieb May 19. 8 Replies

Hi all, Just joining the group. I've read many of the posts on here and it seems we all have a lot of the same feelings. I'm very sorry that any of us need to be here. I never could have imagined…Continue

365th Day Without You

Started by Pooh898. Last reply by Mama Mary May 7. 7 Replies

Yesterday marked the 365th day without my husband. I miss him beyond words but, this loneliness is almost unbearable. My ROCK is gone and I’m left all alone it seems with no sense of purpose. My…Continue

Being in public

Started by Justme. Last reply by AnnieDReich May 5. 17 Replies

I dread being at work or in public around people who know me. Inevitably someone asks, "HOW are you doing?" or "How were the holidays?" and won't let it drop w/ a fine. I know they care and that…Continue

Hello

Started by MattsMom. Last reply by Mama Mary Apr 25. 3 Replies

Just joined the site and this group. I wish it didn't have to exist. My husband died 8/1/2019 after an almost seven battle with glioblastoma multiforme (GBM). He was 69 and we were 7 weeks shy of our…Continue

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Comment by Tlang5 on December 22, 2019 at 7:08pm

Loneliness is so painful. 

Comment by DeeDee on December 22, 2019 at 4:24pm

The hardest part is the loneliness, I miss just holding hands, laying in bed, being comforted, and no one can do that. It’s a horrible place to be and normally I’m so positive but tonight I’m so. I got wishing I had someone to just hold me hand, hold me, stroke my hair and tell me it will be ok

Comment by CvilleSarah on December 22, 2019 at 2:49pm

Steve,

I couldn’t have said it better myself. I am not enjoying walking this world without him either. I also feel so alone, and am not looking forward to the holidays at all. People say that this time of year is just hard, but I really think every other time of year is going to be just as hard. I can’t think of one thing I have to look forward to, or how it could possibly get any better. Everywhere I turn, I’m seeing couples who are making plans together, going home together, etc. and I can’t help but think that that will never be me again, and that I’m going to be this lonely and disconnected from the world forever. Wishing everyone love and peace as we continue on this painful journey. 

Comment by AtSam(Steve) on December 22, 2019 at 10:06am

Tiang5,

We CARE as we share the same issues. You might be able to find a widows group local which can help. They are not grief councilors but those that are or were in a very similar spot you are right now. Safe places to share and express your feelings. Soaring spirits also offer pen pal support connecting you to another lady who may help. I too am alone right now but I am not alone I am writing to you! I am thinking about you! I do care about others struggling with  feelings most may never have had before. Reach out you will find support and loving people. 

Comment by Tlang5 on December 22, 2019 at 9:26am

For me it wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't so alone. Being alone and grieving is so horrible. My kids don't understand the depth of my pain, I'm trying to be strong for them. What a lonely road when you have no family, no friends, and no one that cares.

Comment by AtSam(Steve) on December 22, 2019 at 7:36am

How so very cruel we all find ourselves in this very dark place of loneliness. For me my heart is shattered and my mind is broken.  Ten weeks ago was the last time I held the love my my life for the last time. Now as others, I have pictures and memories that at this time bring much pain. 

I tell my mind to be positive and to just stay busy but then the heart takes over and another wave crashes over me. As of late the waves are many and hitting hard. Is it the holidays or outside influences, no it is the lost of my best friend. Sharon was my everything and I pretty sure I was hers. We did almost everything together since the age of 14. I am not liking walking this earth without my sweetheart. 

Life was so good, so wonderful but now I just struggle at times to understand. Not even sure I know what I am trying to understand. My life was truly as good as one could ever ask for. My daughter will be home tonight, for the holidays, hopefully we can find some laughter and happiness knowing Sharon doesn't want us sad. Sharon was a person that made everyone around her happy. I so miss my little bundle of joy each and everyday. 

I have no magic words to offer, just be kind to yourself. 

Hugs Peace and Comfort as we move forward on a path none of us asked to travel. - Steve

Comment by DeeDee on December 22, 2019 at 6:01am

Tomorrow is one month, I can’t even bring myself to get out of bed today. I just want to lay here and look through photo albums and drink coffee and cry. I miss him so much 

Comment by Lost Girl on December 21, 2019 at 7:08am

Tlang5, I am so sorry you lost your husband and that you have to be here with us. This really does hurt. You cannot explain the depth of your pain. Only those that have loss their spouses can understand. Although the depth of grief and loss is so individual and isolating, please know we are all here for you. Love to you and your children. We are here. 

Comment by Tlang5 on December 20, 2019 at 6:48pm
  • It's been 6 months since my husband died. I'm struggling with the loneliness. My kids and I have no one. It's hurt to go through this alone.
Comment by Lisa on December 15, 2019 at 6:41pm

DeeDee and CvilleSarah, my counselor told me that grief is just the process of separating the memory of the person from the pain of the loss. So once you are through the process, you will always still be able to feel the pain, but  you will also be able to have the memories of your person without the pain being an inseparable part of them. This makes sense to me. I hope we can all make it through this most difficult part until we get to a place where we can remember without so much hurt and pain.

 

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