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Holiday Plans

Started by Melissa. Last reply by CvilleSarah on Thursday. 9 Replies

I'm sure I'm not the only one bracing for the first "holiday season" without my beloved. What sorts of plans are folks making? Doing anything to memorialize your beloved this holiday? Opting out of…Continue

Tags: firsts, holidays

So many places to say goodbye

Started by DebiT. Last reply by Pat in Ct Nov 27. 21 Replies

It’s been just over 6 months, and I may be just beginning to understand why so much is so hard.  I function pretty well in my normal routine of work and visiting grandkids monthly down south.  It…Continue


Started by Judyrose. Last reply by widowboymom34 Nov 25. 22 Replies

It’s been 3 months for me. It is the worst feeling in my life. Some days I think he’s coming back then I realize he’s not and have a breakdown. We were married for 48 years and I don’t like being…Continue

Loss By Addiction/Suicide

Started by Mel. Last reply by Mel Nov 24. 14 Replies

I lost my husband on September 22, 2019. He was an alcoholic and decided to take a whole bottle of pills. The guilt is eating me alive. He left me and my special needs son alone. He promised to never…Continue

Tags: Guilt

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Comment by SweetMelissa2007 on November 23, 2019 at 2:27pm

Sounds like you need to renew your beliefs, this is common during grief ...
I started in this order with "Journey of Souls", then "Destiny of Souls" both by Michael Newton ...
Some people are wary of these types of books thinking there's something sinister about them or some kinda hoodoo voodoo that will cause some kind of gripping delusional erractic behavior. Its BS, complete nonsense. Everyone has control over themself to keep from becoming fanatical if they want to ...
As a Rosicrucian Catholic (spiritualist) I believe in the Holy Ghost & the afterlife. My studies of the afterlife brought great comfort & peace during those fearful years of the unknown future. I studied them religiously till I was renewed & able to let them go/stand on my own two feet. It took years to restore strength & confidence in myself - that's how long grief is. My life was completely shattered by Bob-O's sudden death by a road rage driver ...

In time, you will heal ...
Be gentle w/yourself ...

Comment by CvilleSarah on September 29, 2019 at 7:47pm


I”m sure it’s ok to cry as you write...I am crying every single time. I also feel like I keep writing the same things- how much I love him, miss him, how unfair it is that he is gone so soon, how lonely I am without him- but I think that is ok too. I also don’t worry about how eloquent it sounds, because it’s not like anyone is probably ever going to read it. I feel like it’s the only way of still having that nightly time together. Good for you for trying to take care of yourself too ❤️

Comment by Jules on September 29, 2019 at 11:28am

Most of what I do right now is for my husband. I go to church for him, because I know that’s what he’d want. He’d want to to eat healthy again, to substitute teach a few days a week, to go on vacations with friends to start living again. While I know it’s what I should do, it’s hard to take that first step. I’ve hired a personal trainer so I’m forced to get out of the house and work out 3 days a week. I have bought a journal so on those nights when I wake up at 1, 2, 3 and 4 AM I can write to him. While I’m often crying as I write, it does help.

Comment by KathleenSmile on September 28, 2019 at 8:11pm

Today is my Wedding Anniversary; we would have been married 22 years!

It's been almost four months since my hubby suddenly passed away. I totally agree with all you women. And I think all the time, sometimes too hard, what is the point of living LIFE, without my LIFE-PARTNER? I asked this question to almost everyone for like two months, and I finally got a response that actually "almost" made sense to me




:) :)  I WILL MAKE HIM PROUD  :) :) 

But, overall I am trying to establish a "new normal", and I don't like it one bit!! I like your idea Jules about writing to HIM in a journal.

;(   ;(    

Comment by Jules on September 25, 2019 at 5:37pm

Cville.. I have not done that but the funeral home suggested I write him a letter to be cremated with him, which I did.

Comment by CvilleSarah on September 25, 2019 at 5:35pm

Does anyone else write their loved one letters?? I have been pulling out a journal and writing to mine every night. 

Comment by Mary on September 23, 2019 at 4:16am


I feel the same.  It's like everything I do beyond the basics of living is pointless.  I'm not sure how that is ever going to change.

Like everyone else here, I just want my old life back.

Comment by Jules on September 23, 2019 at 4:16am

Hilda. I absolutely agree with you. For me, it’s only been 6 weeks. I know I need to start taking better care of myself (better eating and working out). But I’m am really struggling to actually do it. Right now when I do something I tell myself,”i’m Doing this for Bill”. Eventually I’ll be doing it for me. So start taking care of yourself for your loved one. Eventually you’ll we doing it for you. It’s all about 1 day at a time, or 1 hour at a time, or 1 minute at a time.

Comment by Hilda on September 22, 2019 at 7:43pm

It’s 7 months today that I lost my husband of 21 years. 

I’m not OK. I’m trying my best to get on with everything, 

but I don’t know what the point is.

I miss him so much. 

Reading comments here makes me feel less alone.


Comment by CvilleSarah on September 22, 2019 at 7:25pm


He looks like a good one, and seems like we could have had a lot of fun with you guys ❤️ 


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