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Widowed in 2020

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Discussion Forum

Hard days on top of hard days

Started by CatCo. Last reply by Tracey on Tuesday. 2 Replies

First of all - I am so glad that a friend of a friend randomly reached out on Facebook and told me about this group.More pain to share...Today, I would quietly acknowledge the anniversary of my…Continue

Milestone One

Started by CatCo. Last reply by Tracey on Tuesday. 3 Replies

25 years ago todayatoday geeky young man walked in to my office to pick me up for our lunch date.He was adorable, sweet, and he had the best smile. I married him.Two weeks ago, Barry fell in to a…Continue

Signs and sightings

Started by CatCo on Sunday. 0 Replies

When Barry slipped into a coma, he began turning on the lights in his office. As he slipped away, he pulled up the countdown timer on the phones of 2 friends and up popped the words "time's up."He…Continue

Is it wrong to feel angry at family members isolating rather than being in support system ?

Started by Oskar Ruettiger. Last reply by Tom May 21. 6 Replies

6 + weeks ago, I lost my beloved wife and mother of our two sons after 23 years of marriage.  She had been ill with cancer for the last 5 months and it was mentally and physically exhausting on all…Continue

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Comment by Holdensmommy on March 24, 2020 at 4:29pm

North Carolina 

Comment by Pwantau on March 24, 2020 at 1:11pm

where is everyone ?

Comment by AJJacskon67 on March 23, 2020 at 12:51pm

I had to use a sickle to cut my grass. My husband always mowed the lawn. His passing has made me realize how much I depended on him. 

I have repeatedly asked my kids for help the past few days and I feel like they dont care. I know they are going through the same thing but they have families to be there for them, I have no one. 

Comment by TorontoKD on March 12, 2020 at 6:29pm

And I'm so sorry for your loss also.  No one should ever have to go through this.  I keep saying that but it's the biggest truth I can think of right now.

Comment by TorontoKD on March 12, 2020 at 6:27pm

Thank you for the kind words and positive energy Lynne.  I'll take all of both I can get.  Others have told me to be kind to and take care of myself.  I'm trying but it's sure not easy.

Comment by Lynne on March 12, 2020 at 6:20pm

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. There just aren't words to respond other than I understand your pain. It's so difficult to lose your life partner, but the other things that you have to decide on make it even harder. Just take life minute by minute for now and be kind to yourself. My brother gave me wise words tonight. He told me it was time for me to let others take care of me. He's right. I don't have anything left in me right now to take care of others. 

Sending you positive energy and well wishes.

Comment by TorontoKD on March 11, 2020 at 10:10am

I wish beyond words that I was not eligible for this group, but here I am.  I'm Kevin, and my husband of nearly 29 years passed away last Sunday.  He passed out while driving (I was also in the car and was able to stop by driving into a guard rail; we weren't going very fast so not much damage there).  The paramedics came and took him to hospital, but within an hour he was gone.  He had type 2 diabetes, but it was well managed and there were no warning signs that anything was that wrong.

I don't know to move forward but I know I have to.  We were in the process of selling our condo and planning a big move to another city.  He was so looking forward to it, and it breaks my heart more than I can say that he won't be here if/when that happens.  I know I don't want to stay here but I don't know where I want to go at this point.

Comment by Lynne on February 26, 2020 at 4:07am

I agree with LiliPad that I am relieved to see there are only a few of us. I wish there weren't any of us. My husband died on January 23rd from a sudden massive heart attack. He was 55. He had been sick with the flu or some other virus, so I know that contributed. He also had an auto-immune that should have killed him years ago, but was be managed really well with medication. I realize some of his flu/illness symptoms may have actually been from his heart and we missed them. 

Brett and I found each other later in life. We were married 8 years and together 11 1/2. I prayed for a good man and God brought him to me. We both had finally found real love in each other. Our marriage had trust and respect as well as love. Something neither of us had in previous marriages. My husband was a really good, kind man and I am so proud of the man he was. We had a funeral in our town and a memorial service in his home town. Doing it twice was really hard, but I'm grateful that I did. At both services, the overwhelming comments people made were how happy we looked, how much Brett loved me and what a good man he was. It let me know we did it right, but hearing it was bittersweet. 

I'm grateful I met my husband and had him the time that I did. It feels like I borrowed him for a short time. I'm glad we did finally find true happiness later in life but it really sucks that the happiness had to end. 

I am sorry for all of your loss also. None of us deserve it, but it's the lot we have to deal with right now isn't it?

Comment by LiliPad on February 17, 2020 at 3:54am

Hi.  I am actually relieved to see that there is only two of us as members of this group.  As time goes on I know this group will unfortunately grow.  My husband died in a car accident January 19, 2020 after another man crossed four lanes of traffic and struck my husband's truck.  Dave's truck rolled several times and he was lifelined to a hospital in another city where he died upon arrival.  They lost him a number of times in the helicopter.  My life is now just a blur.  We were married 33 years and I hate the life I have now been forced into living.

Much love to anyone finds this group.  Know that my heart is with you as best as can be right now.


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