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Comment by 48rainbows on December 28, 2018 at 5:43pm

Is anyone else tired of people saying "it's been so many years, it's time to move on". I just want friendship, no relationship. Sigh...everyone has an opinion. 

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Comment by widower on November 2, 2014 at 10:46am

I have been widowed since Valentines Day 2007, but have had a girlfriend for over 5 years. Have talked of marriage, but she is leary, due to 3 marriages that she was abused in.

Comment by loveawriter1 on November 1, 2014 at 9:58pm

I became a widow February 2007 after 35 years of marriage. Our wedding anniversary was November 24th. Thanksgiving and the winters are still difficult for me. But I do agree is great to search for interesting groups to join. I have joined a writers group and most recently a Deep Drumming circle group. I have learned to eat out alone but I still haven't made it to the movies by myself. I have found that some women are afraid of you being the third wheel and these were women I thought were my friends. But I am grateful for the people who have stood by me all these years. They are my true friends. I have tired of the dating websites. There are so many of them and they are costly. I still work and have crazy hours which also makes it difficult to find someone of interest. But I refuse to give up hope of being happy and maybe even in love again. If it happens it happens. I am grateful everyday.

Comment by LLKRN75 on September 18, 2014 at 7:58am

Sorry to hear you are struggling Okie.  I had a really hard time this year too.  My wedding anniversary and the anniversary of my husbands death are only 4 days apart in August.  Makes for a really rough week.  Thank God for family!

Comment by Okie on September 18, 2014 at 5:56am

Widowed October 1st 2007  he was 56  and I was 53 and short of 5 days we were to celebrate our 35th wedding anniversary. We had a good marriage full of many blessings. For almost 2 years he battled throat cancer with all the strength he possibly could.  I go to events, eat out with them and such with our daughters and their families.  I have tried to stay involved in theirs and our grandchildren lives but also turn some of their invitations down  so they don't begin to feel they have to include me in all that they do. September - October is always a step backwards for me as I can't seem to control my thoughts and they are so vivid that it still seems as if it was just this morning that my nightmare began. I would like to add that I wouldn't be as far along as I am without my faith of I know where he is and all is OK with him and I am blessed to still have wonderful support from my family and friends.

Comment by widower on April 5, 2014 at 5:40am

Greetings all! Like you I was widowed in 2007. On Valentines Day, after just 27 years 10 months. I am ok though as I meant my current girlfriend 2 years later.

Comment by LLKRN75 on November 5, 2013 at 1:54pm

Sounds a lot like me.  I hate the dating sites.  I love my Meetup groups.  They are mostly women and a few married couples but we always have a good time.

Comment by jrclowery on November 5, 2013 at 12:29pm

LLKRN75 I  completely understand  about having to find  people  to do things  with.  I'm  always the  "third wheel"  or  there is  no one  to  do things with  or  go out with so I go alone or stay home. Very brave Laguna(Mike) to cruise alone! Last  night I  went  out with  two other couple to watch  football, would be  nice to have  companionship.   I've been to several Meet-Ups but  it's  always at least  10  women  to  every  man.  I even  went to a singles  dance (I love to dance) but  the ratio  was poor there  too, I had to ask men  to  dance  because  they were standing  around. I  volunteer  at the local hospital and have been taking  classes at the  local community college. We do  have  a  bowling alley  close  by but I'm not very good... Almost 6 1/2 years  since my  Mike  died in a tragic accident and I've  been on dating  sites off and on for the last few years with no success. Sigh....

Comment by LLKRN75 on November 5, 2013 at 12:16pm

The bowling league sounds like a good idea.  I work odd hours so it's hard for me to do anything that requires regular attendance.  I do belong to a widows group and a social group.  I found them on  Those groups have been a lifesaver for me.  


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