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Comment by going to make it on January 11, 2018 at 9:50am

Designguy, So true! I think there will always be "those" songs, those  moments, those memories that will prick the heart & cause some tears. I see it as just proof of how deeply we loved! 

Comment by going to make it on January 11, 2018 at 9:47am

HI HAL! HUGS! Haven't "talked" to you in ages! 

As hard as it is, I feel better not masking the emotions. 

Here's to a great 2018!

Comment by designguy on January 11, 2018 at 7:04am

It usually hits me on our anniversary and her birthday.  It's been seven and a half years, and those certain songs or movies come on, bam, the tears come out.  The weirdest, or toughest time, is Christmas Eve candlelight service.  I light the candle, start the first word of Silent Night and I am a basket case.  Thank goodness is it dark or someone could see some ugly crying.  We always went to that service, no matter where we were living at the time and it just seems to be the strongest memory that I can't shake.  Not complaining about it, just don't want to be embarrassed in church.  I guess the continued pop ups of emotion show just how strong our love was and will always be.

Comment by Macduff (Hal) on January 11, 2018 at 6:54am

Last night it hit me as I was going to sleep that it was the eight year anniversary. I managed to block the significance of Jan. 10 all day. Considering that I have a daily political blog (Google Hal Brown and Trump) and thus I always know what day of the month it is, I certainly had some psychological blocking going on.  I finally stopped taking an antidepressant a few month ago and have discovered the emotionality I was holding inside since the acute daily grief abated about five years ago. I have tears flowing down my cheeks at sad or sentimental moments on TV shows (streaming old Gilmore Girls, for example) and almost cried out loud watching a Streisand special when she sang "The Way We Were) ... 

Comment by going to make it on January 10, 2018 at 4:11pm

*hopes not goes UGH

Comment by going to make it on January 10, 2018 at 4:10pm

Happy New year goes for everyone! 

Comment by ceilya on September 14, 2017 at 11:13am

Hi Everyone, I see the last comment on here was a while ago which may be good.  It was also made on my Jim's birthdate by timetofly.  How ironic.  I have this fear that I will check in here and it will be gone.  I don't get on here often since I work and when I get home I actually "hate" looking at a computer.  I know I should check in more often so that I can be of some support for others as ALL of you have been to me during this past 7 years.  I believe I did write when I lost my brother who was my best friend.   Just as I was dealing with a little peace of Jim being gone, my brother who just jumped  in when Jim passed without a day missed, dies of cancer only 2 1/2 weeks after he is diagnosed.  So what brings me here today other then to see how all of you are is more drama of course.  I miss Jim the most when things go wrong.  Ever feel like you want to get in the car and just go.  Not tell anyone and just go and start over somewhere where no one knows you.  Well that is how I feel.  But then of course the responsible side of me says be responsible.  You have a job, precious grandkids, a home that is falling apart, and of course my beautiful dog.  So here I stay to face another challenge.  And yes I know I should be thinking as my mom would say "it could be worse you could be in Florida" but right now all of this is overwhelming and that is why I am here to vent.  Because although there is a lot going on in our country you all understand it is OK to feel badly about what is going on in our lives as well.  I won't get into the roof situation because I already feel better putting it out there.    Dianne if you would let me know when you have a widows retreat in the Las Vegas area I would love to attend.  I am in Palm Springs area of CA so it is an easy drive for me.  I rescued my dog in Vegas  when Jim passed.   Well again thank you for being here when I feel the urge to bare my heart and know it is safe.   Ceilya 

Comment by TimetoFly on August 18, 2017 at 9:02am
Hey Y'all. Often get emails with updates but have stayed quiet.
Have recommended this site often as it was a God send for me while in the
Middle of the storms of grieving. As the years go by I have thought of all
Yet not wanting to come back here as I fight to keep in the present and not
looking rear view mirror. Very grateful to have my husband supporting me even after he's gone. But can't believe I have not been hired anywhere. Have been running an Airbnb for
a bit that had been my biggest pipeline of income and social interactions. Have yet to find a friend to kick around with. All have older kids to travel with etc or have
found new loves. Grate to have the peace these years have brought about. Which makes it possible to help others in their times of loss. Isn't funny though how all the emotions etc can come at you out of the blue? This past Anniversary I had a family gathering that I looked forward to and planned for but when the day came I couldn't think straight as emotions just kept coming. Thankful to my older sister who is widowed as well as she helped me to feel less strange. Still was a great day with all but guess it was the reality of more losses to come as we all are aging and tomorrow is not promised. Our baby brother had just finished radiation for tonsil cancer so that point was even more poignant. Thank you all for being my blessing Angela and heart touch stones in this journey. Heart bows yo you all. Here if you need me...
Comment by crying on August 17, 2017 at 9:55pm
Macduff
Funny I was thinking about you the other day. Not sure why but I was. It was nice to read your comment. I will always remember you and the love you have for your wife. Take care of yourself Lisa
Comment by crying on August 17, 2017 at 9:53pm
Hi dianne
You know I'm still around. Almost 7 years still not one ounce of sunshine to report. I'm just trying to make peace that I just won't have it. Never on this site. Maybe I should come back on... I just don't know
 

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