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Comment by kdbugg on March 9, 2011 at 9:11pm
4 months...... seems like forever, yet only yesterday.
Comment by Paula on March 8, 2011 at 4:02pm
It was getting close, we could tell. Tonight is the last night Bill was alive. I said I love you to him in the morning, he mouthed it back. His brother Jimmy, had come to visit at lunch, he leaned in and wispered something to him, Bill smiled and raised his had to give a high five. That was the last time he moved. I guess that is what a coma is like. Our daughter and I stood at the end of the bed untill about midnight. She turned to me and said 'Babies like to come into the world when it is dark and quiet, lets turn off the light, and lay down quietly". Fifteen minutes later, a nurse came into the room, and turned to me and said, "Mrs, I am afraid he has passed". He was well loved.
Comment by Stephanie on March 8, 2011 at 10:32am
Lost my love of my life to oral cancer on 8 november 2010. His battle lasted a year and a half, even traveling half way around the world for treatment. Coming back home to south Africa with such hope on second chance to life to die 5 months later. He fought so hard to live and fought so hard for life. He is my hero. It's hard so hard. Hope and love for my love of my life keeps me going and our great children.....
Comment by Carol in Calif on March 7, 2011 at 9:08pm

I'm so sorry Marielee.  I know it feels like it but you are not alone. I hope we can all help each other get through this.


Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on March 7, 2011 at 8:41pm
Lost my husband Don 7/19/2010. Very suddenly due to suicide. Can't believe going on 8 months. Don't know if it is getting any easier. Glad this group and site are out here though.
Comment by Tsmummy on March 7, 2011 at 6:51pm
Hi Daycare, I'm so sorry you've had to go through this nightmare twice. It seems there are so many of us here and yet widows in society seem "invisible"...
Comment by daycare2011 on March 7, 2011 at 6:06pm

Hi, My James died on November 19th after a long and brave battle with cancer.  We thought he had it beat but we didnt and I lost him.   I am trying to sort and piece my life back together and like all of you am finding it hard and painful.   I lost my first husband suddenly in 1999 and then was blessed with James coming into my life a year later only to lose him too.   It hurts and its sad and it really really sucks.


Comment by Carol in Calif on March 7, 2011 at 2:56pm

Hi Jodi .... Your story is just so heartbreaking.  I'm so sorry.  It's very surreal, isn't it?  I feel very lost myself.  Sometimes I feel like I'm walking around in circles.  Coming home from work is the hardest for me.  NCI use to be blaring on the television and the cat would be meowing. Now it's just silence (the cat died 3 months to the day before Marshall).  I don't feel sorry for myself or angry.  Just blah, for a lack of a better word.  Sometimes I cry but mostly it's blah. 


It's nice to have this site to post things any time of day or night (and usually get a reply).


Take care of yourself.

Comment by Mauigirl on March 7, 2011 at 1:26am
Hi I am Jodi, On 3/08/10, my husband was diagnosed with NSCLC lung cancer stage 3B at the age of 44. He was a non-smoker. His symptoms started in early December 09. Because he was a very athletic, playing both ice hockey and basketball his Dr thought it was only muscle/skeletal inflammation. An X-RAY in Jan 10 came back fine. Over President's Day week, we went skiing in Mammoth at 12,000 ft. The week after skiing, he was having pressure in his chest. On February 24 10 he went to his Dr whom ordered an EKG. The EKG was normal and a CAT scan was then ordered. While waiting for approval for the CAT scan, that night his left lung collapsed. The CAT scan revealed he had a pleural effusion and collapsed lung. The Pet scan and testing of the fluid came back as lung cancer. They never could find a tumor. On 8/3/10 after 5 months of battle with different types of treatments, my best friend and love of my life passed away. Just little over a year ago, before the nightmare began our life was beautiful. We did everything together and there was so much joy and happiness. I was always so positive and strong but now I am numb and tired of being strong and sad. It has been 7 months and the phone calls from friends have almost all stopped. The loneliness and missing us has really set in.
Comment by Carol in Calif on March 6, 2011 at 7:35pm
Hi Hannah... I just hit the 6 month mark as well.  I can see that having so much going on doesn't give you the time to maybe think about it all. Maybe that's a good thing, I don't know. I seem to be fine when I'm at work and distracted. But, once I come home to an empty house I'm very depressed.

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