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Comment by kittymom on February 14, 2012 at 11:10am

So happy to hear there are some very thoughtful people in our lives!! I was so surprised yesterday when I got 4 Valentine cards in the mail. So remember that non-supportive sister I mentioned before? She sent me two Valentine's cards and one made me cry! She sent a card from my kitties! It made me cry because for every holiday, Ron always gave me at least 1 card from them. For my last B-Day I got a card from each one of them!! Like most of us have mentioned, some people are just not able to support us in the way we need them to. I am thankful my sister sent me the cards even though she has no clue how to talk to me!

Comment by kittymom on February 14, 2012 at 10:59am

Kim, I feel your pain about your husband's friend not calling when he said he would. We are so emotionally fragile that any change in plans can unravel us. However, I can understand how your situation would really hurt. I am sure these undependable people in our lives have no clue how their actions affect us, even though I think they should! All I can say is thank God we have each other!! Letha, I totally like your V-Day celebration!! I can picture myself with those pan of brownies and a fork as well!! If I had not eaten so much at a restaurant I went to on Sun., I would probably run to store and buy some! Wishing everyone a happy day!!

Comment by Joyce on February 14, 2012 at 10:53am

Hendrixx, I care about you too.  Happy Valentines' Day!

Comment by Stumbling (Susan) on February 14, 2012 at 10:48am

Hendrix, I care about you.  Happy Valentines day!

Comment by kittymom on February 14, 2012 at 10:44am

Letha, that would upset me as well. Not that this makes us feel any better, but many of us are realizing that a lot of the people in our lives are just not equipped to handle their emotions along with ours. Your husband's friend is probably grieving really hard and is probably not comfortable with sharing that with you. I am making this suggestion based on how my brother is handling my husbnad's death. They were friends for 55 years and I see how hard this has been on him and how little comfort he is able to give to me. Just my opinion but you know this friend so I am sure you have your own ideas.

Comment by hendrixx2 on February 14, 2012 at 10:35am

hi, someone mentioned my name (selfish & self-involved), caryn, susan, kimkirt, sorry you were really feeling it today...see, each of you had something sweet and unexpected happen for you today, know it's not the same as our special someone, but someone made a special moment for you.  i'm glad for you; it makes me feel better just knowing it happened for you...before this happened to me i rarely cared about other folks...

Comment by Stumbling (Susan) on February 14, 2012 at 10:19am

Thanks, kim and caryn.  It just proves to me that some of God's better Angels are here watching over us. The Flowers, the ballet director, my friend Gary...I guess you could  say we are pretty lucky people.

Comment by kimkirt (KK) on February 14, 2012 at 10:12am

Awww, Susan! Hugs.

The girls I work with had flowers sent to me at work today. They said they didn't know if it was the right thing to do, they are not Valentine-y, just lilies in purple and pink and dark green, very pretty. I cried and cried. It kind of broke the ice at work today, I was glad they did that.


Comment by Caryn on February 14, 2012 at 9:55am

That was so sweet of him, Susan. There are a lot of selfish, self-involved people out there, but there are also many who are kind and caring, like your husband's friend.

Yesterday my kids' ballet director took me aside to tell me she was thinking about me and the kids, knowing how hard today would be for us. She had tears in her eyes while she was speaking. It was so unexpected, yet so sweet, that I too burst into tears. It was a reminder that there are people thinking about us and wishing us peace and healing.

Comment by Stumbling (Susan) on February 14, 2012 at 9:47am

Well, I was doing fine until a few minutes ago.  One of my husbands close friends called to wish Me a Happy Valentines Day.  Then it hit me that today is the last of my "first" hoildays' without Ed.  My heart hurts.  Needless to say, I burst in to tears.  I felt so bad that he made a sweet, caring gesture, and I broke down like that.  But I love he made the effort for Ed.


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