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Comment by suddenlyalone on March 13, 2012 at 10:01pm

Hello everyone I havent been on much, been trying to do this new routine as a single mom.  On the 20th I will be coming up on my 4th month.  For the first time last night I slept with all the lights off.  Since my husband's passing, I havent been able to sleep in total darkness.  I have been keeping on the hallway or closet light.  It really felt strange but I made it through.  Next step, move my son back into his room.  Blessings to all! :-)

Comment by Lilterrisue on March 13, 2012 at 9:17pm

Hugs back to you, Joyce..I do remember now being a month apart...

Comment by Joyce on March 13, 2012 at 8:36pm

Terri: I remembered you also share the 11th as a milestone and that we were a month apart.  There were several of us on Sunday trying to comfort each other all on the 11th.   Hugs to you.

Comment by Joyce on March 13, 2012 at 8:30pm

Heather:  I passed the 5 month mark on Sunday, so I know how you feel, the milestone can be devastating.  Hugs!

Comment by Joyce on March 13, 2012 at 8:25pm

Hi Becca: Hugs to you.  I'm glad to hear that you smile more, gives me some hope that maybe this journey will get a little better some day.  It was also just my husband and I and I agree the house seems very, very quiet.

Comment by Jus me Becca Z on March 13, 2012 at 5:13pm

kittymom, I do smile more and it is remarkable how strong the memories that make me smile are. I think that the reality of it all came tumbling down and the fact that he is really not coming back hit. Not that I didn't already know that, I think maybe I was hoping for some recognizable noise. It was just he and I and the house just seems so quiet at times.

Comment by kittymom on March 13, 2012 at 4:11pm

Although I am not as far along as you Becca, I am sure I will feel the same way when I reach the one year mark - just not sure what to expect. I am hoping when I reach that point, I will feel more happiness than sadness and when I think of him I will smile instead of crying all the time! Best wishes to you on your journey!

Comment by Lilterrisue on March 13, 2012 at 2:03pm

Oh Valerie and Kittymom, my heart goes out to both of you...I just passed the 6th month on Sunday..it was NOT a pretty weekend, but I made it..take it slow, one tiny day at a time...why oh why does those monthly milestones affect us so much??

Comment by kittymom on March 13, 2012 at 1:22pm

My heart is with you today Valerie and I hope today is a better day for you! The same thing happened to me last night. I was also doing well the last couple of weeks with staying focused on what I needed to do. However, whenever I sit down long enough, thoughts of his death also come back as if it was yesterday! My 5 months will be on the 20th. We will get through this but I expect many more tears will fall until we have adjusted to our "after (insert name here) died" life.

Comment by heatherL on March 13, 2012 at 12:46pm

mrs hamilton - that is truly a horrible day - geez!  hoping you have a better one around the corner.

((hugs)) valerie

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