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As with the other comments here, I feel the same way. I can go several days without thinking about my wife and her death but once it comes up, it can be in conversation, seeing someone for the first time in a while or even a song, a picture, really anything it brings everything back to the front and then it seems like the grief can be overwhelming for several days. I think I have gotten good at being in functioning grief but it is always there and it is a hard burden to bear.
I know how Betty and Lisa feel I am very much the same I left to work out of town very soon after my husbands death (wow I can't believe I just said that) It made it easier to deal with it felt like he was just at home or away at work, but when I come home to visit it is very hard with all of our stuff still here. I guess over time it will get easier. Depends on the day sometimes no matter where I am I can feel his presence just like Booworks said.
Hope I'm not too late to wish you a wonderul day = I know how hard it is for these special days without our love. I love Santa Fe, NM and hope that made you feel wonderful - love and lots of peace to you today ---- thinking of you....
I just realized today that I bought my new SUV in December and I've never driven it at night. I have no idea what the dashboard looks like after dark. Guess one of these nights I'll have to go drive around the block to see. I obviously don't get out a whole lot anymore....
@Bettye I understand how you feel. I live in Wi. and i just got back from Tx. I spent a week with my son and granddaughters. I did ok until I got off the plane, in my car and started the hour drive to my house. I was crying so hard I couldn't see the road, so I called my MIL and talked to her to take my mind off of things all the way home. Then I spent the first 2 days after getting home in bed crying on and off. I'm not sure if when we're away we can kinda fake our minds out that our husbands are just at home or what it is, then when we head home we have to face the truth again. I've done this same thing every time I've gone away for the past 10 months. I have less tears if I never leave the house, then if I go away for a few days and then come back. I'm still hoping it gets better or there will come a time when I just wont want to leave any more. I hope it gets easier for you also. Hang in there! (((Hugs)))
booworks: i hope when you surrounded your heart and mind with memories of Richard today the tears brought comfort too! As I am at 6 months tomorrow, I am definitely recognizing the strength you speak of. It's a type of strength that introduces ourselves to a whole new self worth.
bettye: i too have noticed that spending time with family makes my heart feel so heavy when driving home afterward....even though i enjoyed myself!! it's almost like it magnifies that they are gone. you felt the loss bc you wished you could have shared that time with him too. (((hugs)))
I have just returned from a long weekend at the beach. Shared this time with kids and grandkids. Really had a good time. Driving back into my hometown, a sudden feeling of loss again..... difficult to explain. Feels like my grief has just started all over again.
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