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Widowed in 2011

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Comment by Freedomfrog on June 24, 2012 at 10:04am

Music always seems to help with the way you feel. You can always find songs that express what's going on in your life. Good times or bad you don't feel like your alone. There's someone who's been in your shoes. Like draws like, as it is with this website. Anyway I do love Bob Seger and his songs. "In your time", "Understanding" and "Like a rock". And his song "Night moves" where mentions, 20 years now, where'd they go?

We meet that special someone and climb on that ride called life. And 20 plus years later, what seemed like the blink of an eye The kids are grown and have families of their own. Your planning to spend the next 20 enjoying doing things with your best friend and they're taken from you. It's hard to pick up the pieces and move on. Trying to take it one day at a time. It's a start. 

Comment by janet on June 23, 2012 at 4:37pm

Hi Freedomfrog3,  It is definitely a roller coaster of ups and downs.  It does seem as if we take two steps forward and three backwards some days.  I miss my husband of 25 years and I always will.  They will always be a part of us and the memories will always be there.  I am so sorry you are having a rough time. 

I am sure being 8,000 miles from home does not help.  Week-ends are the hardest for me also.  I just try to go with the flow now and how the day will get better as it progresses.  Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

 

Comment by Freedomfrog on June 23, 2012 at 1:01pm

Coming up on losing Cathy a year ago, 2 days after my birthday. The closer it gets the more emotional I become. I seem to go through a roller coaster of ups and downs. Mothers day, Memorial day, Fathers day, soon my birthday and then July 10th when I got the news. Momma's gone!!! Working in Afghanistan, 8000 miles from home has it's good and bad. I stay busy, but on the weekends, reality kicks me in the head. I always called home to find out the news for the week and let her know I was okay. 32 years with the same girl. Does the pain ever stop? Can't see that happening. For every happy memory there is the sadness that she's gone. And I miss her so. 

Comment by kimkirt (KK) on June 21, 2012 at 3:19pm

Brian - that is strange, but it would seem it is just a claim and I wouldn't put any stock into rumors. The only weird stuff I've had is foreign guys wanting to friend me on FB saying they are widows too, I don't know how they find us, do a search for widows? Weird!

Comment by Brian in Ohio on June 21, 2012 at 12:10pm

I have been away for a while. Life has been quite busy but I felt the need to return. Has anybody had the experience since their spouse died of the wierdos coming out of the woodwork? I had an old high school friend of my wife contract me through Facebook, she had just learned of Torrey's death. As we spoke she mentioned that she found out about her passing from an old classmate that claims he had been married to Torrey right out of high school in the late 70's for a short time.  I have never heard about this. I am sure I would have and nobody in her family knows anything about this and a quick records search shows no such marriage but it is still very strange. There is more to the story which I don't want to bore you with but has anybody ever had to deal with something strange like this?

Comment by Joyce on June 21, 2012 at 10:17am

Letha, hope your back is getting better, I'm so glad you got someone to help with the heavy carrying.

Comment by kimkirt (KK) on June 21, 2012 at 8:24am

Suddenlyalone:  My 1 year is Nov. 5th and our anniversary is Nov. 6th. I definitely want to be doing something those days. Even if it's just going out of town a few hours away with my son. 

alliot123:  I am 47 as well, was widowed at 46. I too think I"m too young, but my heart breaks for all, younger and older. I'm sorry you are struggling this week. HUGS

HUGS to all struggling. I'm glad we have here for the support.

Comment by judy on June 21, 2012 at 7:36am

Letha, 

Sorry to hear about your back - but positive news about the insurance.  Cant wait to hear when you tell us that you received a check.

Running late for work - but wanted to check in with you and hope you feel better.

Comment by alliot123(Susan) on June 20, 2012 at 11:11am
Our anniversary is Saturday it would have been our 28th an it would have been Wayne's 57th birthday. Only the 2nd anniversary without him. I just want to stay in bed all week. I just can't believe I'm a widow at 47! Really struggling this week
Comment by suddenlyalone on June 20, 2012 at 12:11am
Hi everyone, I have been peeping in every now and then. I have been apartment hunting these last two weeks. After catching up on all the posts, I was thinking on what to do on my 1st anniversary that my husband died and decided that I'm going to plan a trip for my son and I. Sylvester died the week of thanksgiving and I don't think I will be able to celebrate the holidays with family. Hello to all newcomers and sorry for your loss
 

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