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Coming up on losing Cathy a year ago, 2 days after my birthday. The closer it gets the more emotional I become. I seem to go through a roller coaster of ups and downs. Mothers day, Memorial day, Fathers day, soon my birthday and then July 10th when I got the news. Momma's gone!!! Working in Afghanistan, 8000 miles from home has it's good and bad. I stay busy, but on the weekends, reality kicks me in the head. I always called home to find out the news for the week and let her know I was okay. 32 years with the same girl. Does the pain ever stop? Can't see that happening. For every happy memory there is the sadness that she's gone. And I miss her so.
Brian - that is strange, but it would seem it is just a claim and I wouldn't put any stock into rumors. The only weird stuff I've had is foreign guys wanting to friend me on FB saying they are widows too, I don't know how they find us, do a search for widows? Weird!
I have been away for a while. Life has been quite busy but I felt the need to return. Has anybody had the experience since their spouse died of the wierdos coming out of the woodwork? I had an old high school friend of my wife contract me through Facebook, she had just learned of Torrey's death. As we spoke she mentioned that she found out about her passing from an old classmate that claims he had been married to Torrey right out of high school in the late 70's for a short time. I have never heard about this. I am sure I would have and nobody in her family knows anything about this and a quick records search shows no such marriage but it is still very strange. There is more to the story which I don't want to bore you with but has anybody ever had to deal with something strange like this?
Letha, hope your back is getting better, I'm so glad you got someone to help with the heavy carrying.
Suddenlyalone: My 1 year is Nov. 5th and our anniversary is Nov. 6th. I definitely want to be doing something those days. Even if it's just going out of town a few hours away with my son.
alliot123: I am 47 as well, was widowed at 46. I too think I"m too young, but my heart breaks for all, younger and older. I'm sorry you are struggling this week. HUGS
HUGS to all struggling. I'm glad we have here for the support.
Sorry to hear about your back - but positive news about the insurance. Cant wait to hear when you tell us that you received a check.
Running late for work - but wanted to check in with you and hope you feel better.
mem5711 Not sure what I can add to this but last September I went to my best friends wedding. She was actually married a year earlier but put off the event since her husband was dx with throat cancer. He is doing well and they had a huge wedding last Sept a month after Donna died. Donna and were going to go and Donna bought a lovely dress and shoes etc. Which I just donated to CancerCare.org
It was hard going but Kim let me be the train fairy and I got to hold her train and move it so she wouldn't step on it. Took my mind off of Donna not being there to make fun of those who may have been poorly dressed. It's not easy and there is no secret to getting through that first event other then just live in the moment and memories and the joy. You'll be okay not great but okay.
Okay.....Friday night I'll be going to my youngest son's best friend's wedding. They were groomsmen for each other and have been best buds since childhood. It should be a happy occasion, but I can't seem to stop crying. It will be the first time I've gone to a special occasion without Andre' and I'm dreading it. I'm used to doing the little things without him....but on these special occasions are the toughest. My daughter-in-law has been great....said she'll never let go of my hand. I just hope I can hold it together:(((
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