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Comment by Gordy's widow on September 2, 2014 at 7:44am

Patty Sue is it a privacy issue or being afraid to open yourself up to love again.... if I may play devils advocate!

Comment by Cee on September 1, 2014 at 4:32pm

Another message went into cyberspace. I hate when that happens.

Patty Sue, HUGS, I understand your mixed feelings. You want to be happy for others but we also feel why can't that be us celebrating.   Sorry it didn't work out with your "friend". I  haven't even attempted to meet anyone and not so sure I want to. I hate being alone but afraid to go through the process of getting to know someone new

Comment by Slick on September 1, 2014 at 4:19pm

Hi Patty Sue.....((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) and peace coming your's so hard....I also feel as if I give off an air of wanting to have a companion but afraid to get close...and I somewhat sabatoge things with everyone I meet...and yet I am so tired of being lonely...I think it might have something to do with this stage...everyone is different....I was better 2 years ago then I am now.........May Goe bring you all the peace you need get through this..

Comment by Patty Sue on September 1, 2014 at 4:05pm

Today is the third anniversary of my Herb's passing. I went yesterday to celebrate with my sister and her husband their 50th anniversary. Very mixed feelings of happiness for them and their wonderful family and envy that I didn't get the years together that they did. Who knows why the days get measured out the way they do! 

I saw a nice guy for about a year but I think the vibes I sent off were very protective of my privacy. Anyway he disappeared from my life. I miss the companionship but not the tension that was part of the relationship. Maybe this privacy sensitivity is a characteristic of this stage of widowhood! 

Comment by ebwilkie on August 31, 2014 at 12:55pm

It's been 3 years for me in June.  I can say that I miss him as much as I did when he passed away.  I long for him always, but it's getting easier to be alone.  I have a male friend.  We both don't want any attachments, just going out and having a companion to go out with.  That has eased my blood pressure!  I was surprised but my BP hasn't been normal since 2011.  Now its normal twice when I've been to the doctor.  Now if I can just get my butt moving around the house and get some new furniture!  My husband always was instrumental in us getting new funiture, and I can't seem to get in to it.

Comment by Gordy's widow on August 31, 2014 at 8:28am

4 dogs that scares me too I am getting too comfortable with being alone... but a dear friend and room mate I went to college with got married last weekend... she lost  her hubby to heart attack 2 yrs prior to my loosing Gordy ... and was a great help at first... she looks so happy in her wedding pictures &  I hate the idea of growing old alone.... such a paradox

Comment by Slick on August 31, 2014 at 4:42am

I also think 3 years is just as difficult if not more as time goes on...

@4dogs.....same here...I keep forcing myself to try and make male and female friends...but in reality...when I think of someone invading my privacy I;m not thrilled about it....everyone is a stranger to me...I have actually made one friend in 3 years.....a man....and he works and is caring for both of his 93 year old you know there is no time there...we talk once in awhile...I think I look forward to getting back home alone now......(:

Comment by t2 on August 30, 2014 at 8:57pm
Coming up on 3 for me. As difficult as ever. Peace be with you all.
Comment by 4dogsintx on August 30, 2014 at 8:19pm

3 years now for me too. I may be getting too comfortable with being alone.

Comment by smit09 on August 30, 2014 at 7:20pm

Hey cee...

totally relate.  I am feeling so low tonight too.  In a few days it woulda been my husbands birthday, we'd be celebrating.  The end of September will be 3 years without him for me. I miss my guy too. 


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