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Princess and Everyone in this group,
Wishing all of you peace, joy and comfort this holiday season. May your hearts be full and sadness at a minimum. Hope your family wraps you in love and that you have laughter to bring you into the new year. Lets make 2018 a year we'll look back on warmly.
Blessings to you all.
Hi Barzan. I will be hosting Christmas dinner. My daughter and I have decorated the house. My mother-In-law will be coming over too. I hopped in the treadmill yesterday and will do so again tomorrow. After eating too many macaroons today I can't wait until 2018.
I forgot. I've been watching the Say Yes to the Dress marathon. I'm glad they haven't shown episodes of Shay.
Happy holidays to everyone.
It's been quite a while since we've posted on here. Just want to catch up and see how you are doing and how you will be spending your Christmas. I'm hoping that none of us has to spend it alone.
My kids and mother are going to the country Christmas morning to spend the day with my mother-in-law. It's a 100 mile drive each way but well worth it.
I have been busy baking cookies for the kids, mailman, friends and a few neighbors as well as sampling them daily. The treadmill awaits my return on the 2nd day of 2018.
Happy holidays to all of you and hoping you will be making warm memories this Christmas.
Hi Barzan. That is so kind and thoughtful for you to have your mother and mother-in-law with you for Thanksgiving. You don't sound selfish at all. We miss our loved ones especially during the holiday season. Hugs to you.
I find that the holidays become reminders of us.
Donna did what Donna did best, setting the table and arranging everything in visual perfection—flowers, napkins, candles, and tablecloth, all color correct. Silverware placed carefully next to the dishes. Serving pieces laid out, ready to accept the bounty. Nothing left to chance. Thanksgiving Donna would set out dishes that when my mother passed, ended up with me. They were from the ‘50s, and were kind of The Jetsons meets Bauhaus. One problem, though: it was a place setting for four. Donna spent nearly a year searching online and bargaining on eBay to find additions to the set, including a one-of-a-kind lemonade pitcher. In the end she built a complete setting for eight. When I set the table this all comes back.
Right now I am posting memories etc on Twitter @LoveLtrs2Donna and Instagram @loveltre2d
I find this helpful in communing with my memories as a conduit to our life together. Reflection is a way to turn grief into knowledge.
I get it! With my family get togethers, they avoid mentioning my late husband thinking that it will make me feel better when it really just makes it worse. I want to affirm his existence. I think people just do what they think is the best way to approach it. At least they try.
I will go to family holiday dinners, but I will also leave at the earliest possible moment, since I am the only widowed individual present, and hate the part where "those who are with us in spirit" are mentioned. Yes, I know it's also referring to my grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc., but it's also referring to my late wife--and I would not wish the emotions I feel about that on anyone present at dinner.
Thanks Slick and Chef. I try to let it not bother me but it doesn't work some of the time. I appreciate your support. Good to have this place to vent and support one another.
I would agree with Slick, Barzan. (And hugs to you both.)
I tend to ignore the time between Halloween and Valentine's Day as a coping mechanism, perhaps, but it seems to work for me.
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