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Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on December 28, 2017 at 4:54pm


I am looking forward to 2018.  This year I learned to hold my hand. I am strong enough to trust myself. That is pretty powerful.

Comment by Barzan on December 28, 2017 at 5:57am


I'm so glad to hear that.  Your use of the word softened is right on the mark.  I feel the same way.  I had been hanging on but now I find that I'm letting go and the pain is softening.  Let's have a great 2018 and be kind to ourselves.  

Be blessed.

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on December 28, 2017 at 12:48am

This was the best Christmas we have had since my husband died.  The pain has softened. That's a good thing. 

Comment by chef (John) on December 25, 2017 at 2:41am

Thanks, and backatcha! ;-)

Comment by Joey62244 on December 24, 2017 at 6:50am

Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and a good New Year.  

Comment by Barzan on December 24, 2017 at 6:33am

Princess and Everyone in this group,

Wishing all of you peace, joy and comfort this holiday season.  May your hearts be full and sadness at a minimum.  Hope your family wraps you in love and that you have laughter to bring you into the new year.  Lets make 2018 a year we'll look back on warmly.

Blessings to you all.

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on December 23, 2017 at 3:48pm

Hi Barzan.  I will be hosting Christmas dinner. My daughter and I have decorated the house. My mother-In-law will be coming over too.  I hopped in the treadmill yesterday and will do so again tomorrow. After eating too many macaroons today I can't wait until 2018.

I forgot. I've been watching the Say Yes to the Dress marathon. I'm glad they haven't shown episodes of Shay. 

Happy holidays to everyone. 

Comment by Barzan on December 21, 2017 at 10:33am

It's been quite a while since we've posted on here.  Just want to catch up and see how you are doing and how you will be spending your Christmas.  I'm hoping that none of us has to spend it alone.

My kids and mother are going to the country Christmas morning  to spend the day with my mother-in-law.  It's a 100 mile drive each way but well worth it.

I have been busy baking cookies for the kids, mailman, friends and a few neighbors as well as sampling them daily.  The treadmill awaits my return on the 2nd day of 2018.  

Happy holidays to all of you and hoping you will be making warm memories this Christmas.

Suzan (Barzan)

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on November 15, 2017 at 9:39am

Hi Barzan.  That is so kind and thoughtful for you to have your mother and mother-in-law with you for Thanksgiving.  You don't sound selfish at all.  We miss our loved ones especially during the holiday season.  Hugs to you.

Comment by Mark99 on November 15, 2017 at 7:05am

I find that the holidays become reminders of us. 

Donna did what Donna did best, setting the table and arranging everything in visual perfection—flowers, napkins, candles, and tablecloth, all color correct. Silverware placed carefully next to the dishes. Serving pieces laid out, ready to accept the bounty. Nothing left to chance. Thanksgiving Donna would set out dishes that when my mother passed, ended up with me. They were from the ‘50s, and were kind of The Jetsons meets Bauhaus. One problem, though: it was a place setting for four. Donna spent nearly a year searching online and bargaining on eBay to find additions to the set, including a one-of-a-kind lemonade pitcher. In the end she built a complete setting for eight. When I set the table this all comes back. 

Right now I am posting memories etc on Twitter @LoveLtrs2Donna and Instagram @loveltre2d

I find this helpful in communing with my memories as a conduit to our life together. Reflection is a way to turn grief into knowledge. 


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