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Comment by chef (John) on July 2, 2018 at 9:25am

Yes, Cee, I *REALLY* do ride roller coasters! (My favorite is still Millennium Force [310 feet high and speeds up to 93 mph], but I ride several of the others at the park too.) The drive from Cleveland to Sandusky is about 90 minutes, and (being a single rider) I can get pulled out of line to fill empty seats on occasion. Another advantage to having a season pass is that I can leave the park and have lunch or dinner outside the park and get away from the crowds, should I feel so inclined. I haven't been doing it as much lately, but I've been occupied with other things.

Here in the Western Reserve we are in the upper 80s or low 90s, depending upon the time of day. The humidity is high, so most of us are miserable. Things may cool down after the rainstorms predicted for this afternoon and early evening.

Comment by Cee on July 2, 2018 at 5:10am

Good morning peoples. We are here to support each other, it makes me sad to see a post that a member feels she is not being recognized.  Even if we can't help in all situations we can at least offer a word of support.

 Slick how can we help you?  I have seen posts where you have been so open to helping other people and that is why we are here.  I love the beautiful lady comment. Those are the memories that are so bitter sweet - glad to have them but sorry that are not still happening.

  John do you really go on those roller coasters?  I remember going on the ones on Coney Island NY but that was a long time ago - no more.

  I am lucky to have a couple of "couple" friends that I do things with that do not make me feel uncomfortable but I do have that feeling that something is missing.

  How is the heat where you are? we are having heat indexes of over 100 so I am stuck in the house. I even cancelled volunteering at the Folk Festival which is something I look forward to. Hope it cools down later in the week so at least I can go over and look around.

  I'll close with HUGS to all --be good to yourselves and to others.

Comment by Barzan on June 14, 2018 at 2:09pm

I hit 7 years yesterday.  With my girlfriend and MIL along, we have been spending the week in Philly and filling each day with lots of sightseeing and interesting activities that have been so therapeutic in passing a milestone. Family, friend, laughter and wine helped make the 7th a bit easier. arriving today.

Comment by Denise on June 14, 2018 at 11:18am

I love roller coasters.   Fun fun!!

Comment by chef (John) on June 14, 2018 at 8:51am


No plans for the summer this year...although in the past I've been known to ride many and several roller coasters (notably Millennium Force) at Cedar Point for therapy with my season pass from May through October. As of next year, I shall be a "senior" [age 62 by CedarFair rules] and once again get a season pass--at a *reduced* price! :-) 

Comment by chef (John) on June 13, 2018 at 6:46am

Princess Warrior Widow: I hope I didn't mislead you. The sucker punches still come after seven years, but now they cause me momentary twinges of pain or wistfulness, rather than causing me to stop what I'm doing and reduce me to tears, as they did early on. Sometime during the early days of being widowed, I realized that we'd all simply implode from the stress, were we to continue feeling the full force of our loss day after day. I also decided to just embrace the $&#**^% grief, since I knew it wasn't going away. While many of my family/friends/acquaintances saw this as unhealthy "fatalism" or "pessimism", I figured I was just being realistic/pragmatic, since I had to go through grief--and not "around", "under" or "over" it.

As to summer markets: I'm a pushover for most fresh tomatoes (various varieties throughout the season and into fall) and black raspberries.

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on June 9, 2018 at 2:29pm

Slick... I am glad that we can come here without judgment. Sometimes I feel like the fifth wheel when I go out with couples. They don’t make me feel that way. It’s just me. I am ok with it now. It does not last long. 

Hang on there my friend. 

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on June 9, 2018 at 3:20am

It’s summertime and farmer’s market time. What’s your favorite grit or vegetable?  Mine is watermelon. I can’t wait for August. 

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on June 9, 2018 at 3:18am

Hi Cee,  I’m going to see Hamilton this summer. I’m excited. Barazan I like how you make travel plans. 

chef (John). I get those sucker punches sometimes too. I’m glad now that I know they will go away. 

Slick I understand that it is hard to make new friends. 

Comment by Barzan on May 16, 2018 at 4:19pm

Cee - yes I have plans for the summer.  1 trip down and 3 to go.  Friends and family start making plans at the beginning of the year.  Everyone announces what their plans are and I can hop on or let them hop on to what I have in mind.  This usually works out really well as we split costs of rentals.

I really try to pack my free time with travel, art or  events.  It works for me.


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