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Comment by Mark99 on November 24, 2018 at 9:44am

My heart reaches out to each and everyone of you still here helping ourselves and others to walk our collective journey with hope, heads up, support, and love. You all rock.

Comment by Marsha on November 22, 2018 at 12:55pm

Sending hugs back to you Cee and everyone who has lost their spouse. I also have been blessed with my husband for  as long as I did. Along this path I do have blessings of grandchildren which are truly great sources of joy as I watch them grow. Even though there are triggers along the way I know our loved ones are with us always cheering us on. I also want to thank everyone here in Widowed Village for the blessing of understanding and love. 

Comment by Cee on November 22, 2018 at 5:38am

HUGS to everyone. Even in your sadness take a moment to find 1 thing to be thankful for.

  I am thankful that I had my husband for as long as I did. He was a special gift in my life that I will treasure forever.

Comment by LucyGoo on November 21, 2018 at 3:06pm

This whole holiday season is filled with triggers.  Some of them have come at me from unexpected places.  My husband was a pretty well-known local Santa and today there was a bunch of people posting pictures of him - with them, with their kids all about remembering Santa Bob.  It was lovely to see him remembered so well, but I've been busy preparing for Thanksgiving - not really thinking about Christmas yet (probably in a bit of denial), so this really caught me off guard - knocked me back pretty hard. So, grateful to them for remembering him, but completely unprepared. 

Comment by Joey62244 on November 20, 2018 at 9:07am

It has been awhile since I've posted but this year, the closer Thanksgiving gets the harder it is for me to be cheerful.  My husband and I were married on November 22nd and Thanksgiving falls on the 22nd this year.  It's so hard to celebrate and be thankful when I miss him so much.  It would have been our 21st anniversary this year and how do you celebrate Thanksgiving when you would much rather be celebrating your anniversary?  My children help but it just isn't the same.  I hope you all have a Happy Thanksgiving and I'm going to try with my children and grandchildren.

Comment by chef (John) on November 19, 2018 at 8:38am

It really does help to know that you all have these experiences like I do. Thanks for letting me know that (even at 7.333 years) I'm not as "odd" as The Don't-Get-Its always tell me that I am for still having my moments.

Good luck with Thanksgiving, everyone. I'm off to Philadelphia for the rest of the week, so I won't be looking in after Tuesday.

Comment by Mark99 on November 19, 2018 at 4:43am

I believe the support and help found here has helped me greatly to manage and understand my loss and grief. I have also learned that what I thought was loneliness is in fact solitude. That solitude has been a path to integrated knowledge and love into my life. Thank you all. 

“The Idiosyncratic Nature Of Grief & The Benefits Of Solitude”  The importance of solitude and what it means to ourselves, our well being, and the sense of self during our grief journey. 

Comment by Sad One on November 3, 2018 at 9:17pm

Thank you Barzan, for your supportive advise. Good idea to get it out in the form of a letter. *sigh.  (Hugs)

Comment by Barzan on November 3, 2018 at 3:27pm

Sad One,  

I'm so sorry you are feeling that nasty punch to the gut.  We are all here for and have all felt it at times.  Take care of yourself.  Maybe write him a long letter and tell him how you feel.  I find it cathartic to do this.  I keep a spiral notebook with lots of letter to my honey.

Sending a virtual hug.

Comment by Sad One on November 3, 2018 at 1:47pm

Hello. Today, I am at one of those waves that come on suddenly, that feels down and low. Trying to function through it, by keeping busy. But, I guess, not busy enough. Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better day.


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