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Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on May 11, 2017 at 9:56am

Slick... I have learned to be alone too.  I go to restaurants, concerts and movies with friends.  I sometimes go to restaurants and movies alone.  At first I was a little self conscious about going out alone. Now I notice that everyone is into their own world and I enjoy myself.   Hope you are able to go whitewater rafting.   Peace to you my friend.

Comment by Slick on May 11, 2017 at 6:16am

Barzan...thank you for sharing.....what a beautiful , meaningful song....I remember it well..and it did touch my heart again...Peace

Comment by Gaining Strength on May 10, 2017 at 10:03pm

Barzan,

Beautiful and touching song. Seems so appropriate now. 38 years ago our song was "the first time ever I saw your face" Roberta Flack.

Comment by Barzan on May 10, 2017 at 7:42pm

37 years ago today, my husband I tied the knot in a mountain chapel in Colorado.  The song we picked to play just before we said "I do" was If by Bread.  Just listened to it on YouTube and the words just struck me to my core.  I remember being so much in love and how the words to that song expressed exactly how we felt.  The only regret I have is that we aren't listening to it together today.  I invite all here to listen to the words of our song and see if it moves you the way it still moves me.  Have a blessed night.

Comment by Slick on May 10, 2017 at 1:47pm

Princess ....I do too....I also remember those who ditched me almost immediately.......so I have a clear mind about life as it is now...very different....but in over 6 years since Bill passed....I have learned to be OK alone...I just met someone about 3 months ago....and ended it last week....he wasn't who he said he was...I'm not hurt, disappointed....etc...I made up my mind that I will live one day at a time....do what I find to be interesting or fun...I don't like doing certain things alone...and since my friends all either have passed or ditched me ..I do a lot with my grown daughters and grandchildren...for instance...I really want to go White water rafting..no one to go with ....my oldest and her son..my oldest grandson both said they would go with me last year and there was no time...I already told them no excuses....we're going....when I can help someone I do....I am past the hell of being a ft caregiver and can start to give a little more again...so I do....life is a real experience isn't it....Peace my friend

Comment by Slick on May 10, 2017 at 1:47pm

Princess ....I do too....I also remember those who ditched me almost immediately.......so I have a clear mind about life as it is now...very different....but in over 6 years since Bill passed....I have learned to be OK alone...I just met someone about 3 months ago....and ended it last week....he wasn't who he said he was...I'm not hurt, disappointed....etc...I made up my mind that I will live one day at a time....do what I find to be interesting or fun...I don't like doing certain things alone...and since my friends all either have passed or ditched me ..I do a lot with my grown daughters and grandchildren...for instance...I really want to go White water rafting..no one to go with ....my oldest and her son..my oldest grandson both said they would go with me last year and there was no time...I already told them no excuses....we're going....when I can help someone I do....I am past the hell of being a ft caregiver and can start to give a little more again...so I do....life is a real experience isn't it....Peace my friend

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on May 10, 2017 at 11:41am

Slick if feels good to now be able to reach out and do things for others.  I remember who small things helped me when my husband first died.

Comment by Slick on May 9, 2017 at 2:19pm

So sweet of you Princess.....it means a lot to the giver and the receiver to do things like this....I hope it helps you both..

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on May 9, 2017 at 10:53am

Slick, it is good to know that this too will pass.  We can and will survive other losses and hurts.  My mother died in 2014.  All of my aunts have died.  It feels strange not to have anyone to buy a mother's day card for this year.  I bought a card for a church member whose mom died last year who is having a really rough time.  I hope the card brings her a bit of comfort.

Comment by Mark99 on April 13, 2017 at 5:13am

August 7 this year will be the anniversary of Donna's passing. The years since then have been long and sometime hard. I continue to write about this whole grief issue and what it does and doesn't do. Below is a recent post "Grief if Vivisection to Those Left Behind" It is not as grim as it sounds since I take a look at how I have moved through these years learning and understanding what was and is. 

http://bioc.net/blog/grief-vivisection/

 

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