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Comment by MissHIm11 on May 4, 2011 at 10:23am


Do you think his mother would like to know that he picked out that card for her? I think that might be a special gift for her on Mother's day. Just a thought. Best wishes.

Comment by MsKris12 on May 4, 2011 at 9:18am
On my mind & in my prayers today, Dawn
Comment by ilostmycheese on May 4, 2011 at 9:03am

Having a good morning until.... sending the mothers day cards to arrive by this weekend. Of course, my husband was always on top of this... so today I found our "box of cards" - always on standby so we had cards at the ready for every event. Then it hit me... I found the card he had picked out specially for his mother this year...and here came the tears... do I send her the special one that was going to come just from him? Or do I send the other generic mothers day card that would have been from both of us?!?! ...I decided on the generic one, as the words of the other one weren't from me. Then, thinking I was over it, I went to sign the cards... oh no! the first time signing a card just from me...only me... no little "&" sign and no handing him the card sign...just me, by myself...ugh. It's the little things I don't even think about ahead of time that hit me the hardest. I'm just me now, not us anymore. Yuk.

Comment by SallyStarre on May 4, 2011 at 4:02am

Dawn - Thinking of you today.

Comment by MissHIm11 on May 4, 2011 at 2:58am

Dawn, I am praying for you today! 

Ktl.... I would feel the exact same way. I have asked God why he took my husband away from my children when my very own father is worthless. Why couldn't he take him instead? It just isn't fair! 

Comment by ktlamer0707 on May 3, 2011 at 8:35pm

does anyone get mad at their friends?? there are 2 couples that gary and i always loved and i still do but they make me so angry because they fight so much!!! they actually are talking about divorce!!! why did gary have to die when we were so happy... i know it's disgusting to say but seriously if they are so miserable of all the ppl in our lives why gary?? we were so happy and divorce was not in our vocabulary... i had been there done that and gary showed me what true love was and then he is taken away from me and these couples who fight and throw divorce around like it's nothing are still here.. how is this fair..... i know i sound horrid but seriously!

Comment by Dawn on May 3, 2011 at 8:34pm

The panic attack started about an hour ago , May 4th his 43rd birthday, 11 weeks of gut wrenching misery . I don't know what I think or feel . I almost got a breath today, our daughter came in from out of town as a surprise last night our sons were here also. For his birthday I plan on having his favorite dinner a cake and releasing balloons . I am greatful the kids are here with me to help me thru this day I am facing , yesterday was manageable after therapy, today was up and down and tonight is HELL ... not looking forward to morning.. <3 to us all

Comment by Abby on May 3, 2011 at 4:08pm
SallyStarre: I feel your pain and today I had a revelation that maybe I really do not want to move on. Is there a rule that says we have to grieve and move on. What am I moving onto? Certainly nothing as wonderful as my life was before January 20th. Saturday is my BD, next Friday is our anniversary and the following Thursday, my husband's BD. I am so not looking forward to this month. Plenty of pain and tears to shed in the next few weeks.  What a life!  Abby
Comment by SallyStarre on May 3, 2011 at 10:08am
Everywhere I look their are reminders of my husband and for the past few days they are making me incredibaly sad.  I miss him so much and it is such an effort to go on without him.
Comment by jan on April 30, 2011 at 10:23am

Jim's birthday today and exactly one year since he retired. I had bought 2 suitcases so we could finally travel.



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