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Comment by MissHIm11 on April 10, 2011 at 6:49pm


I am so sad to read about your husband..for all of our losses for that matter. I am still new at this widow thing. My husband passed unexpectedly on March 12th. I just wanted to say how much I can relate to you when you say you have great support but they are married. It is amazing how alone one can feel in a room full of people. I have found great support on this site. I hope you do too. 

Comment by Kristina on April 7, 2011 at 3:26pm
I lost my husband on January 26th from testicular cancer.  We found out he had cancer on January 4th, so it was a short horrible battle.  The doctors said he probably hadn't had it for more than 2 months, it was just really aggressive and metastasized quickly to his lungs, brain, and stomach.   He was 28 and we'd been married only 3 1/2 years.   I'm really glad to have found this site.  I have amazing family and friends but they are all married and it's just hard to share sometimes...
Comment by cancerwidow on April 6, 2011 at 1:10am
Welcome Steph. So sorry for your loss but glad you've found us.
Comment by stephann79 on April 5, 2011 at 3:34pm

It's been two months today.  And you all are making me cry with these stories here; it's so nice to feel like someone understands.  My husband woke in the middle of the night on 02/05 unable to breathe, we found out after an autopsy that it was pneumonia.  He hadn't been sick, it was a really aggressive strain that probably took hold and killed him in about two days.  We weren't ready for this, so I am also in the process of selling our house. . .and that sucks!!  We have a four year old girl and a six month old boy.


I'm really truly glad to be here!!


I have a blog over at


Oh, and I friend-ed you all already:)



Comment by barb on April 5, 2011 at 12:55pm

I am so sad for all of us

Comment by Dawn on April 5, 2011 at 12:50pm

Oh misshim11,

  I understand all to well what your going thru, I am so sorry. Mine passed Feb 12th suddenly at 42 I just got all the results on Monday, it took 7 weeks.. not an easy wait. I got a knock on the door at around 5 :30 am he was found outside in the snow..alone. Our 4 children we were / I am raising our granddaughter alone now she just turned 7 he was more a father to her, sometimes she has a hard time. I too started therapy a few weeks after the madness started to settle, and for the 1st time in my life I take pills as I am suffering severe panic anxiety attacks. after 25 years of being together 22 of them married I am alone. you may find your mind racing trying to guess at all of the questions running thru yor head, I did I must say cry all you want when you want, punch you bed, pillows and on occasion a good scream helped me.I don't have much for support, I hope you do, take any help you can and please be sure to take care of yourself, I hope you are able to eat being your expecting , well you don't need me to tell you.. I wish I had some answers and I wrote the very same questions you did just 1 month ago. for me knowing did help and the details in the police report hurt my heart, but that part you won't have to deal with. <3 to us all


Comment by cancerwidow on April 4, 2011 at 7:35pm
So truly sorry for your loss MissHIm11. Welcome to our group. Hope Widville can help you through this most challenging of times.
Comment by MissHIm11 on April 4, 2011 at 3:16pm

Hello everyone. I am a new widow. My husband passed on March 12 suddenly in our home. He was only 29. I am still waiting on his cause of death. I hope that finding out what happened will bring me peace. I am not able to comprehend how this happened. He was just here!! He even asked me out on a date for that Saturday night. Just an hour before he collapsed he said he wanted to buy a swing set for our 14 month old daughter and then he said, "I want us to date more" so I called my mom to babysit. I am also 7 months pregnant. He was holding our daughter when he yelled for me to help him and I found him collapsed on our bed. I still can't believe it. How did this happen? Why did this happen? 

I started seeing a grief counselor last week. My next visit is tomorrow. I just can't seem to get the image of him out of my head. My heart is broken. 

I look forward to learning from all of you. 

Comment by sandollargal on April 4, 2011 at 1:41am
I am so sorry . I dread getting those two reports as well. I do know that we can not say what if...for me it was what if I didn't go to work that day..what if he hadn't missed his therapist darling had a plan to end his pain..that is hard...stay strong and email me anytime...i work today but will contimur to check email throughout the day....hugs to you....sandy
Comment by Dawn on April 3, 2011 at 6:40pm
I am not too sure what I am gonna do. It was 7 weeks yesterday (sat) and on Fri I got the police report, and prior to that the autopsy report 2 things I really could have done without. mentally I was shattered now im pulverised. I am beside myself , I try and suck up positive thoughts and quotes, but blowing sunshine up my ass just doesn't work , there is no bright side from where I lay smashed and broken. Everytime I THINK i have the smallest grasp on something  anything, it all unravels. I have never been a negitave or ungreatful person I have had miracles happen in my life, but now I look endlessly for a slight glimmer and I see none. My life has never been a easy one, I have had trials and tribulations thru all of it and I over came them all , some I came thru while carrying others , I can't hold my head up , if I could find what end is up.. My husband was awed by my strength, endurance and courage," your like a fiery dragon" he would say. I would fight to the end to protect my loved ones , or any that came to me for shelter , I turned no one away, but this dragons fire has been extinguished , with tears... she is no more.

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