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Comment by Barzan on June 14, 2018 at 2:09pm

I hit 7 years yesterday.  With my girlfriend and MIL along, we have been spending the week in Philly and filling each day with lots of sightseeing and interesting activities that have been so therapeutic in passing a milestone. Family, friend, laughter and wine helped make the 7th a bit easier. arriving today.

Comment by Denise on June 14, 2018 at 11:18am

I love roller coasters.   Fun fun!!

Comment by chef (John) on June 14, 2018 at 8:51am


No plans for the summer this year...although in the past I've been known to ride many and several roller coasters (notably Millennium Force) at Cedar Point for therapy with my season pass from May through October. As of next year, I shall be a "senior" [age 62 by CedarFair rules] and once again get a season pass--at a *reduced* price! :-) 

Comment by Slick on June 13, 2018 at 6:59am

I agree one gets around grief. 

Princess I am 7+ years also ...if my husband was up before me and downstairs having his coffee, he would hear me get up...and yell upstairs "is there a beautiful lady up there" I got up to that thought this morning..and it brought some tears out....tears of missing, of knowing he loves me unconditionally....and missing him...they didn't last ......I made my tea ...and went about my business....this would have crippled me for the day 5 years ago.....

Comment by chef (John) on June 13, 2018 at 6:46am

Princess Warrior Widow: I hope I didn't mislead you. The sucker punches still come after seven years, but now they cause me momentary twinges of pain or wistfulness, rather than causing me to stop what I'm doing and reduce me to tears, as they did early on. Sometime during the early days of being widowed, I realized that we'd all simply implode from the stress, were we to continue feeling the full force of our loss day after day. I also decided to just embrace the $&#**^% grief, since I knew it wasn't going away. While many of my family/friends/acquaintances saw this as unhealthy "fatalism" or "pessimism", I figured I was just being realistic/pragmatic, since I had to go through grief--and not "around", "under" or "over" it.

As to summer markets: I'm a pushover for most fresh tomatoes (various varieties throughout the season and into fall) and black raspberries.

Comment by Slick on June 9, 2018 at 4:29pm

You;re so lucky , I have been judged, berated, belittled...truthfully I don't know why I would still come here...Of course it's for the support when I need it....I know what you mean...about a year after Bill passed I had dinner with his cousin and her new husband...of maybe 2 years...neither had been married for a very long time...they were very kissy and huggy, hand holding...I did feel very uncomfortable..otherwise my closest girlfriends have passed...

I am ,never quit...sometimes are just harder then others as you know....Peace..

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on June 9, 2018 at 2:29pm

Slick... I am glad that we can come here without judgment. Sometimes I feel like the fifth wheel when I go out with couples. They don’t make me feel that way. It’s just me. I am ok with it now. It does not last long. 

Hang on there my friend. 

Comment by Slick on June 9, 2018 at 3:56am

Thanks many don't understand what it's like to live around all working and married people.....I have tried so much...I'm getting tired...but not giving will happen....Peace my friend..

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on June 9, 2018 at 3:20am

It’s summertime and farmer’s market time. What’s your favorite grit or vegetable?  Mine is watermelon. I can’t wait for August. 

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on June 9, 2018 at 3:18am

Hi Cee,  I’m going to see Hamilton this summer. I’m excited. Barazan I like how you make travel plans. 

chef (John). I get those sucker punches sometimes too. I’m glad now that I know they will go away. 

Slick I understand that it is hard to make new friends. 


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