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Widowed in 2011

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Comment by Musiclady on March 22, 2011 at 5:28pm
Hi husband died in similar the middle of the night although we know that he died from sudden cardiac death (his heart went into a dangerous arrythmia and just stopped).  I understand the surreal aspect...and my girls, aged 14 and 9 keep talking about "before" and "after" - the death of their Dad defining everything in our lives now.  Stay strong and know I am here for you.
Comment by Krista W. (whoknows) on March 22, 2011 at 3:15pm
Hello... I lost my husband, Mike, on Feb. 12. He passed in his sleep. We are still waiting for final report as to cause. He was 34 (as am I). We had known each other since we were 18, but went separate ways, with me marrying someone else, then getting divorced. The two of us got back in touch in 2005, and had been married since August of that year. I have 2 kids at home, my 9yo from my first marriage (who considered Mike to be her dad, and Mike never referred to her as a stepdaughter, she was a true daughter to him), and a 3yo son from our marriage together... It is still so surreal.
Comment by cancerwidow on March 20, 2011 at 12:52am
Hi barb - so sorry I didn't see your comment earlier, but welcome to the group. CS Lewis summed it up all too well, I think; it puts a more real slant on that horrible cliche about time healing all wounds.
Comment by barb on March 17, 2011 at 3:36pm
C.S. Lewis the writer said after losing his wife.  It is like having a leg amputated - the wound will heal, the leg will never grow back and you will always have a limp.-----
Comment by barb on March 17, 2011 at 12:42pm


I lost the love of my life, Rich on January 10th ---I find it so comforting to spend time with others who share in this understanding of grief.  Thanks Patter for helping me get here.  I look forward to getting to know you better and I am grateful for how friendly many of you have already been.   I really need your friendships.


Comment by cancerwidow on March 15, 2011 at 1:03am

Welcome Musiclady; you are among friends. We're all carrying a huge hole just like yours, a black hole, impossibly heavy. We don't know when it feel a little lighter, a little smaller, a little less raw, but we share and offer comfort, real understanding. We're all so sorry for the reasons that bring each of us here, but it's nice to find friends on this difficult road.

Comment by patter on March 14, 2011 at 7:23pm
Hi Musiclady.. glad you found sad to join the class of 2011, but hopefullyw e can comfort eachother.. come visit the chat room in the evening.. we try to cheer eachother up.. hugs
Comment by Musiclady on March 14, 2011 at 6:48pm
I'm glad I found Widowed Village but wish I never had to.  My heart is broken.  I used to be a strong, independent woman but I feel like all the air has been sucked out of me.  Mark was only 44; I am 42 and we have 2 beautiful daughters.  When will I stop feeling like a gigantic hole has been ripped through my heart? 
Comment by cancerwidow on March 9, 2011 at 11:49am

Dear pixidragon - I'm so glad you found Widowed Village at this terrible time in your life; you are very welcome here.

Comment by Dawn on March 9, 2011 at 9:53am

Hi, my husband died suddenly on Feb 12,2011 no known cause yet, not that it will change anything but perhaps it will help me when the final results come in. he was 42 I am 46 we had been together for 25 years married for 22 of them. I don't function very well right now, but I do what MUST be done and I am okay with that. I am not to sure what I am going to do yet, we rent an apartment I am hoping to move in June so I can be closer to family and support. Our son turned 21 the end of Feb lives with me he is disabled (Aspargers syndrome) very helpful young man and our granddaughter will be 7 next week, we were raising her together, now I will continue on alone. She can be a tough one to deal with we are more parents to her and she don't just cry she screams for him.. it's hard to witness her pain, I just give her more hugs and love.

Thanks for listening, I need somewhere to be to communicate with others who understand.


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