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Comment by DENISE on April 1, 2016 at 10:21pm
I miscalculated some I am actually 11 weeks and pregnant with twins I saw them on the sono...pregnancy is ok, back pains, rib pains, morning sickness which not only comes in the morning, aaaand my blood sugar drops often, but its all worth it for these blessings Gods given me. That does not sound crazy at alll, we do what we have to to cope, its us surviving. I try to talk to him, mostly God but him too, when I cry I ask him why he left me.
Comment by Coral on April 1, 2016 at 10:08pm

Denise, how is your pregnancy coming along?

I recently heard from family that a woman went to them and told them that he visits me, and is happy where he is. That somewhat brings comfort. I pretend he sleeps next to me at night, as crazy as that may sound, and it comforts me..though i wake up yearing to actually feel him again.

Comment by DENISE on March 18, 2016 at 8:28am
I am 10 weeks along. He told me it was a boy and that I was going to give the baby his name. He said hed always be looking out for me and our baby. I miss his physical him deaaarly.
Comment by Coral on March 18, 2016 at 7:38am
I've been considering seeing a medium, it seems r would be me at least a bit of comfort. It must be nice being left with knowing what he wants for you now.
How far along are you?
Comment by DENISE on March 16, 2016 at 7:17pm
Ive been relying heavily on my faith, I slipped twice by contacting Mediums...what made me feel less bad about it is both of them said my fiance said for me to keep seeking God as only he was going to be able to help me get through this...The day he died by suicide we had gone to church he had decided to convert from Catholic to Christian because of me, I feel as though God took him that day to not jeopardize his being saved. That brings me great comfort. Ive been reading the Bible a lot and a book by Pastor Joel Osteen, I'm also going to counseling. I still break down every now and then but I know God has a purpose that's what brings me consolation.
Comment by Coral on March 16, 2016 at 7:03pm
Have you found anything that's been helping you cope? I know it's silly, but I've been journal writing to him... As a way of comfort,... Or feeling and hoping he can somehow read it... Granted I know it's just in hopes as we didn't really practice any religious beliefs and would talk about all the "what ifs"
Comment by Coral on March 16, 2016 at 7:01pm
Thats what I'm thinking! These hormones... when I went back to work, just seeing people i hadn't seen since he passed just made me cry... it'd hard sometimes to listen to the radio, as one song will remind me of a happy moment we had, while the next will just make me cry.
Comment by DENISE on March 16, 2016 at 6:53pm
So sorry for your loss Coral...I think it's a little harder on us since were pregnant and our hormones are raging...I'm honestly surprised I haven't go e insane!
Comment by DENISE on March 16, 2016 at 6:52pm
Coral my fiance and I learned we were 2 months pregnant in early Jan he was also the best catering to my every craving, hed kiss my tummy and touch it...we miscarried Mid Jan...unfortunately on Valenti es day he committed suicide after an argument...days after his passing I couldnt eat or drink anything, my grandmother and father had a dream I was pregnant...they wanted to give me a reason to want to live so my father bought me pregnancy tests and sure 9 weeks pregnant and it hurts not having him here...I miss him terribly...I never loved anyone like I do him. He is the love of my life.
Comment by Coral on March 16, 2016 at 6:46pm
I really didn't think anyone would respond as there are a few of us.... I lost my boyfriend 2-10-16... after a previous miscarriage we had a few years back, we tried again and were excited to be expecting a healthy boy... just last month he was taking a picture of my belly, excited to feel our babys first me massages and cooking any of my cravings.... I'm six months pregnant now, he passed away in a motorcycle accident... and can't help but feel he'll just be back... And when I realize he won't, just break down and cry..the night before he passed I had a nightmare I would raise the baby alone.. And I cried as I woke.. waking him up, after telling him what I dreamt, he just held my hand so tight, and told me "everything's going to be okay."... and that was the last we spoke...I don't know what to do.

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