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Suz, Mrs.D and kinigenie,
I don't post on here much anymore. Charlie died April 9, 2012. I would have followed close behind had I not begun to receive signs and very livid dreams from him. In September I saw a medium. I know Charlie came to me there. We still have good contact. You are so right, it does not solve all my problems, but it is all that has really helped me. I don't talk about it with everyone either.
In June I will be attending the Afterlife Awareness Conference in St. Louis. I hope to learn more about initiating contact.
I wish you all peace. Julie
Mrs. D. and kinigenie, I talked to a medium about eight months after I lost Jud and found it really helpful. She truly knew things only he and I knew. I have told several people....some are really supportive and some look at me like I am nuts. I also find books really helpful...when I am able to concentrate. My mom died when I was eighteen and I also found books about death and the hope that I could contact a medium helpful (my dad put the kabosh on those ideas). I think it is interesting that I was leaning the same way. Eizabeth Kubler Ross just was not doing it for me. Nor was my Christian faith. I have read about ten and someare more helpful than others. I appreciated Deepok Choprah's book, even though it was based on Hinduism. Right now I am reading, 'The Last Frontier" by Julia Assante, which is very good. I am also reading "Proof of Heaven" which is ok but not as scientific as I thought it would be. Not that I always need scientific. I see my minister (I am Congregationalist, liberal Christian) and she has been really supportive. I have had some periods of letdown after talking to the medium. I don't think it "solves" everything for me but it did give me some peace of mind about Jud living on and my seeing him again. I have read a lot of the grief books and they help, though I get as much, if not more help, here by hearing people who are going through similar phases that I am. Sometimes I am back to just plain hard. Guess that is how it goes.
MrsD, I agree about getting comfort from the medium reading....
kinigenie I'm glad you had a good experience with the medium. I've spoken with two, and the first was pretty good but I had a few issues with the second. I'm not sure what to make of them. Sometimes I feel like he came through, other times I'm not so sure. But overall I'm glad I did it. I find that doing those things and reading about the afterlife has done more good than the grief books.
just came home from my son's little league game and they lost big time 16 - 5, he was kind of down on himself saying he made a lot of errors and didn't have a good game. i was feeling bad about it so we switched the topic to how the grass needed mowing and i was going to try and start the mower(it wouldn't start yesterday) and A asked what was wrong w/it he was going to help me and i pulled in my driveway and my neighbor had mowed the lawn. made us both forget about the game. i have the best neighbor and his wife they have gone above and beyond, from the time that john was first diagnosed. they both work and have 3 kids i'm sure they have barely enough time for themselves yet they have really stepped up for me. his dad passed when he was 12 and he feels this is his way of paying it forward. i know my children appreciate all that they do for us. some day they will pay it forward for someone else. good lessons and good people.
Oddly enough that is my widowed sisters anniversary as well...and May 29th would have been married 20 yrs for Mike and I. Feel for you in the pain you must be in so soon after your loss. I barely remember the first year...foggy brain, exhaustion, stress. The numb days are actually a blessing in disguise..in a really weird way...as our bodies can only handle so much. Just keep taking baby steps and be patient with yourself. Will be sending prayer your way on the 23rd.
Yesterday I saw a medium. It was a last minute decision and I am glad I did it. My husband came thru loud and clear...she told me things only he would know. I felt so good...like I talked to him! I came home and felt so at peace and slept so good. Today I just feel lonely for him. I miss him so much it hurts..
40ford, yep, and here I am in my little home in South Carolina - a place I never thought I'd be. I sold my travel trailer that my husband and I took to Florida all the time while he was on business, and I vacationed. We so enjoyed that time. We, too, had planned to retire to Florida (Crystal River area), and now that's gone. I moved here because my parents are here, and they are aged and will need my help at some point, and I like having some family around. I have that for now. Maybe I'll end up in Florida at some future point.
We roll with what we are given, eh? I wish you peace and happiness in your new home.
Well, my dog and I are now in Florida at our (my sweety picked it out) retirement house. Sitting on our lanai looking over the lake, and listening to Nora Jones. I've decided that I will wallow in self pity today. We were supposed to retire here this year, and spend our days relaxing in the sun and doing what ever the hell we felt like doing. So much for all that planning and saving.
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