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Widowed in 2013

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Comment by Dusty on January 26, 2013 at 2:32am

Karen, welcome, sorry that you have to be here but you will truly find it is a life savor.  My Love and best friend passed on March 30 2012 but I wanted to let you know how great it is you found the sight so early in your pain.  It is 10 months since I started this jouney. Some days, I should say moments, are so fresh....everyone has to go through their own process of grief but being able to share seems to ease the pain...and it is pain...I had lost my brother to ALS 6 yrs ago and I thought I had greived then but when it is your own Love passed it is so different...when anyone asks me how I feel I say "it depends on the moment"...having something to say and rehearsed makes it easier when someone asks and they will, just because they don't know what else to say...."Oh, I am fine" is truly a lie. You can be doing just fine and something will broadside you..."oh WE like wheat bread" when asked which kind of bread to to buy, and I broke down to tears. So knowing you are going to have surprises hit you from out of nowhere does make it easier.....I pray, may all of our day be soft ones...

Note to self; I am doing the best I can with what I have in the moment; and that is all I can expect from anyone including Me!!!

Comment by Karen (funnybne) on January 26, 2013 at 2:17am

to My New Life,thank you so much for making me feel welcome.I feel as if I truly belong here thanks to all the kindness shown me. I appreciate the welcome from you. I'm a little scared and nervous but I am hoping that the friends that I make here will help me push thru that. I have so many emotions all spinning in my head right now that I dont know what to do or how to do it. This is a start.I post on facebook as well and your right its not the same.I have wonderful friends there that try to be comforting but here there are folks that truly understand what I'm dealing with. Thank You again its much appreciated

Comment by Karen (funnybne) on January 26, 2013 at 1:36am

hello, my name is Karen and I lost my best friend my husband on Jan.8 from a ruptured aortic aneurysum. It was very sudden and unexpected. I feel lost and alone much of the time,but when here I feel warmth and understanding and such incredible kindness. I've been encouraged to tell whatever part of my story I want to tell. I did just that,I told my story and realized at the moment I clicked enter that I put it out there, for the first time I told the whole story. I have to say it was like a giant weight lifted from me. Everyone that read it was so kind and understanding. The feelings they gave me were expressions of love from the heart. I know they are sincere,emotions like that cant be anything but sincere. I was accepted from the moment I arrived. Many told me that this site saved them I believe it with my whole heart. I have a long painful journey ahead I know this but now I also know I dont have to take the journey alone if I dont want to. God will forever bless this group of loving,accepting people.

Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on January 25, 2013 at 8:16pm

Dear lost070. Sent you a response but not sure I posted it, sorry. I live on the east coast, sorry. But we can chat here. love and hugs. jocelyn.

Comment by lost070 on January 22, 2013 at 8:33pm
Always hopeful, do you live any where near San Francisco? It sounds like we have had a very similar path. My husband had brain cancer and I have 2 kids.
Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on January 22, 2013 at 8:02pm

Hello new friends. So sorry that you have to be here. I lost my wonderful husband of 37 years to brain cancer on 11/1/12. He had fought it for 21 months. We made it thru with great medical care, his incredible strength, faith, love, friends, family and a sense of humor. He was bright, articulate, funny, very active and more. By the time he died, he couldn't walk, could barely speak and needed 24/7 care which I did at home. We were high school sweethearts and I will miss him forever. We have two great kids, thank God, so they keep me going. Feel free to say what's really on your mind. No one here will judge you and you will probably find that someone else has felt the same way. God bless.

Comment by Mford4 (Marlene) on January 21, 2013 at 3:38am

Hit that button before I was finished...haha!  Anyway, I have been attending a grief counseling group meeting weekly, that helps, found this site, that helps, and I even started a blog with the encouragement of my daughter,  and that helps as I tend to write when I need to process things in my life.  All of it together keeps pushing me forward, but when those days come that tear out my God it hurts.  It is good to meet you Chez and everyone on this site.  Just reading their stories helps me through mine.

Comment by Mford4 (Marlene) on January 21, 2013 at 3:34am

Hi Chez.  Thank you for sharing your story.  I lost my husband after an illness of 13 years--the last 8 being the worst of it.  I feel lucky in the sense that we were so open about what was happening to him.  We joked, talked openly and encouraged each other through the process.  In some ways we grieved together what was happening.  I know in my heart he does not want me to be miserable in this new life of mine, but damn I miss the life I had with him and that is what is so hard.

Comment by chez2all on January 20, 2013 at 7:43pm

I'm chez from Australia.  I'm a second time widow.  First was 12 years ago at the end of January 2013 from brain tumours, so I've raised our 3 kids on my own mostly.  Second was in March 2012 when my husband chose to take his own life after 6 years together.  I found this site in April 2012 and the support and friendships I have found here have been a real lifesaver.  Take some time to look around, check out the blogs, drop into chat when you feel ready. 

Everyone is different and has a different story, there's usually someone around prepared to listen and laughter as well as tears are encouraged.  Share your joys, share your sorrow and everything inbetween.

Comment by Pat222 on January 20, 2013 at 11:54am
I am Pat. I am just a little over 6 months in, but wanted to post a note to those who will be joining in on this most difficult of journeys. Please know that those of us who are here understand the depth of pain, loneliness, and great sense of being alone that you are feeling. Please also know that the people here are loving, caring, and most of all supportive without judgement. Visit and read often, and when you are ready, let us hear from you. Hug and love to all!

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