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Widowed in 2013

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Comment by lost070 on January 22, 2013 at 8:33pm
Always hopeful, do you live any where near San Francisco? It sounds like we have had a very similar path. My husband had brain cancer and I have 2 kids.
Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on January 22, 2013 at 8:02pm

Hello new friends. So sorry that you have to be here. I lost my wonderful husband of 37 years to brain cancer on 11/1/12. He had fought it for 21 months. We made it thru with great medical care, his incredible strength, faith, love, friends, family and a sense of humor. He was bright, articulate, funny, very active and more. By the time he died, he couldn't walk, could barely speak and needed 24/7 care which I did at home. We were high school sweethearts and I will miss him forever. We have two great kids, thank God, so they keep me going. Feel free to say what's really on your mind. No one here will judge you and you will probably find that someone else has felt the same way. God bless.

Comment by Mford4 (Marlene) on January 21, 2013 at 3:38am

Hit that button before I was finished...haha!  Anyway, I have been attending a grief counseling group meeting weekly, that helps, found this site, that helps, and I even started a blog with the encouragement of my daughter,  and that helps as I tend to write when I need to process things in my life.  All of it together keeps pushing me forward, but when those days come that tear out my God it hurts.  It is good to meet you Chez and everyone on this site.  Just reading their stories helps me through mine.

Comment by Mford4 (Marlene) on January 21, 2013 at 3:34am

Hi Chez.  Thank you for sharing your story.  I lost my husband after an illness of 13 years--the last 8 being the worst of it.  I feel lucky in the sense that we were so open about what was happening to him.  We joked, talked openly and encouraged each other through the process.  In some ways we grieved together what was happening.  I know in my heart he does not want me to be miserable in this new life of mine, but damn I miss the life I had with him and that is what is so hard.

Comment by chez2all on January 20, 2013 at 7:43pm

I'm chez from Australia.  I'm a second time widow.  First was 12 years ago at the end of January 2013 from brain tumours, so I've raised our 3 kids on my own mostly.  Second was in March 2012 when my husband chose to take his own life after 6 years together.  I found this site in April 2012 and the support and friendships I have found here have been a real lifesaver.  Take some time to look around, check out the blogs, drop into chat when you feel ready. 

Everyone is different and has a different story, there's usually someone around prepared to listen and laughter as well as tears are encouraged.  Share your joys, share your sorrow and everything inbetween.

Comment by Pat222 on January 20, 2013 at 11:54am
I am Pat. I am just a little over 6 months in, but wanted to post a note to those who will be joining in on this most difficult of journeys. Please know that those of us who are here understand the depth of pain, loneliness, and great sense of being alone that you are feeling. Please also know that the people here are loving, caring, and most of all supportive without judgement. Visit and read often, and when you are ready, let us hear from you. Hug and love to all!
Comment by Dusty on January 20, 2013 at 1:31am

Soft day for all who come here....we need it

Comment by Suz on January 17, 2013 at 8:09pm

I am Suz. I lost my husband, Jud, on February 24, 2012, after fourteen months of pancreatic cancer. He was so loving and kind and was my soulmate. I miss him so much but in some ways I am starting to feel closer to him than I did right after his death. The good memories are starting to overshadow the years of his illness and I sometimes feel he is close to me. That being said, it has been a very hard year and I can't believe I have made it through. Welcome to all the new people. I hope you find as much comfort here as I have.

Comment by Mford4 (Marlene) on January 17, 2013 at 1:19pm


My name is Marlene and I lost my husband two days after his 66th birthday, March 17, 2012.  It has been a real yo-yo of emotions but I am getting through the days as best I can.  Being alone is the toughest for me...and the sense that there is no one that cares what I do any more.  I am reaching out and making new friends when I can but all things take time.  I am glad for this site and want to do my part in getting through this club that none of us wanted to join!

Comment by laym1 (Lori) on January 17, 2013 at 10:14am

I lost my husband Nov 2,2022 this is still all new, butthis site is very helpful in knowing you are not alone.


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