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Awkward Situation?

Started by Miket on Sunday. 0 Replies

Hi All - So I heard an interesting comment today and it got me to thinking. The comment (and I think I have heard it before) is that everybody has a twin somewhere in the world. So ok, but I wondered…Continue


Started by Miket. Last reply by Dee1960 on Friday. 18 Replies

Hi All - So I have a question. Hoping you can share your thoughts? When my wife passed 2 1/2 years ago, I was not sure what to do about wedding rings. Some said take it off, others said continue to…Continue

Beyond Lonely

Started by Karen9816. Last reply by WV12345 Jul 30. 5 Replies

Hi Everyone, My husband died September 8, 2016 at 53 years old coming up the 3 year anniversary.  He died after a long battle with cancer Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma, he suffered but fought like a true…Continue


Started by Miket. Last reply by Miket Jul 22. 13 Replies

It has been 2 1/2 years now since I lost my best friend, my wife. Every day still hurts. I only seem to keep going by using distractions. I take care of the grandkids a few hours every day, act as…Continue

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Comment by Dianne in Nevada on December 31, 2017 at 11:09am

If you don't have plans this evening, pop into the chat room to ring in the new year with other Villagers. You are not alone. We'll be there for all US time zones from 11pm Eastern to 12:30am Pacific.

Comment by lowrsr (Sherry) on December 27, 2017 at 5:47pm

I hope everyone is managing the holidays... Almost over!

Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 25, 2017 at 7:23am

We're hanging out in the WV chat room for anyone who finds themselves alone on Christmas day. Join us!

Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 17, 2017 at 8:52am

If you need some company on Christmas Day &/or New Years Eve, please join me in the Chat Room.

I'll be hosting the Chat Room on Christmas Day, so if you need a boost before heading off to a family gathering or find yourself alone and want to chat with others out there just like you ... please stop by.  I'll be keeping an eye on the room all day (I'm in the Pacific time zone).

I'll also be hosting a New Years Eve chat from 11pm Eastern time to 12:30am Pacific time.

Dianne in Nevada

Comment by originaloregonian on December 16, 2017 at 4:26pm

ImTheMarigold, I am feeling the same way.  It was Halloween 2016 when my husband passed, and I was numb during the holidays last year and just did things for my toddler daughter.  I was at a high school concert this last week and broke down in tears over "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas".  I still haven't gotten a tree and want to pull out a few decorations, but I think I'm stalling because of the pain I know that will come.  

Comment by ImTheMarigold on December 15, 2017 at 7:05am

Hi Sherry. I am just over a year now and I agree, it is getting harder. I just want the holidays to be over. I was so numb last year, just 6 weeks in, that this year feels like the first Christmas without him. I have not been doing as much as the difficult work as I should be, I get scared of being overwhelmed by all the pain. I know I should. And I tell myself that come the weekend I will make time for it. Then I do everything to avoid it. Thinking of you and others for whom this season is not what it used to be.

Comment by lowrsr (Sherry) on December 14, 2017 at 5:21pm

It's been quiet here! I will be the first to admit that I haven't been writing much, at least not for public consumption. I have been doing a lot of journaling and reading. Doing difficult work. It has been about a year and three months since I lost my soulmate, and if anything, it is getting harder, not easier. But I'm trying. I am wishing everyone peace during this holiday season.

Comment by ButterflyWingz on October 18, 2017 at 9:06am

Hello from Colorado.  I became a widow Thanksgiving day 2016.  The worse day of my life and from there it became the most excruciating pain.  Some days the pain was so horrendous that I couldn't breath.  You all know that pain.   Im going into my 11th month and the pain is subsiding. However, there becomes other factors that take over.  Battles with health ie aches and pains in areas that I say WTH? Got a cavity which really sucks so off to dentist.  Which I just got dental insurance.  My sps carried all our insurances so managing that was a chore and costly.  Big dent to my paycheck.  OTherwise I will soon face the one year anniversary and dont even know what we will do for Thanksgiving.  I know most say the date of death isnt always Thanksgiving but to us it always will be Thanksgiving.  Hugs and prayers to all. 

Comment by Susan on August 3, 2017 at 12:38pm

Hi Catapan!

   I'm glad it all went well ! And it's good that you had some people watching over you. ;-)  At least now you KNOW that you can do it :-) 


Comment by Athena53 on August 3, 2017 at 11:10am

catapan, I'm so happy you were able to sing both hymns with such strength. I'm an Episcopalian and funeral rituals are So important to me that I planned Ron's with great care.  One of the women in our church music team doesn't even do funerals because she gets so emotional.  I'm sure that having a friend and climbing companion sing made it more meaningful for everybody.


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