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Widowed in 2017

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6weeks out and overwhelming sadness

Started by Luv4Z. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 on Friday. 9 Replies

Today I have an overwhelming sadness . Im sure this is not a stranger to anyone on this site. I get so sad all of sudden . I have 4 kids under the age of 12 and they see me crying every day. I try to…Continue

A Ton of Bricks

Started by Shoosie2. Last reply by Shoosie2 May 24. 7 Replies

Hi everyoneTomorrow is the 4 1/2 month mark that my Rick left his 'earth-suit' , and it's just really hitting me hard that my Rick won't ever be back. Ever. I tried to get that through my mind and…Continue

Making new friends

Started by Mike. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 19. 20 Replies

I read a lot about people who have a great support group of family and friends. But my wife was my best friend and my family is far away. So my support group is digital, either online or on the…Continue

Has Anyone had any 'Strange' things happen in your house since your spouse passed?

Started by Shoosie2. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 17. 12 Replies

Good Morning EveryoneI haven't had much of a chance to post anything recently, but I do read everything. I just had to ask this question. Two days after my Rick passed, December 20, 2017, I was…Continue

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Comment by kat yesterday

Shelley, I feel the same way. Most days I don't even have the guts to get out of bed I am so paralyzed by my dreams, horrible visions, and the awful reality of facing the world. I feel like my mind has turned into butter and my soul is like honey bursting from its comb - everything is loose and just getting through the day and finding the will to want to live is an immense struggle. The weight of everything - the boundless triggers, the punches of grief that hit me all alone or when I watch television - there is no end. It feels that way. Day after day, they all start to blur. 

Comment by shelley yesterday

My life:  Wake up, crawl out of bed, shake off the dreams, do whatever it takes to get through the day.  9:00pm begin wine and drugs to encourage sleep.  Dream about searching for husband, often finding him dead.  Wake up, crawl out of bed, shake off dreams, etc.  Day after day, night after night.  My life.  

Comment by shelley on July 1, 2018 at 1:03pm

I had a dream this morning about my husband.  I don't dream about him very often and when I do, I can see him in the dream but he doesn't speak or move.  I talk to him, touch him, feel close to him, but he doesn't respond. He's just a body.  In this dream, I was at my childhood home in Syracuse, New York and I was doing household chores- washing the dishes, etc.  Then suddenly I was upstairs in my bedroom and my husband was there in my bed.  Just his body.  Just sitting there.  Then I was back downstairs telling my Mom that I had to be with John because he was leaving soon.  I went back upstairs to my room, got in bed next to John, told him that I didn't want him to go, but if he had to, I wanted to spend every possible second with him.  I said that I wanted to curl up inside of him and stay there forever.  I can still see him just sitting there on the bed not saying anything, not moving, looking straight ahead.  When I woke up, I tried to go back to the dream but couldn't.  I got up, walked the dogs, etc and when I opened my computer- there was John's obituary from Legacy.com.  I hadn't gone to any web sites, hadn't checked my emails, nothing.  And there was John's smiling face on my computer.  With Legacy.com asking me if I wanted to send flowers.  I've been crying ever since.  Can't stop.  

Comment by Mike on June 27, 2018 at 4:34am

This is a great group and has helped me a lot. For those of you on Facebook there is another group wihich I find helpful. It is Widows and Widowers, All Welcomed. I find this group helpful also. The link is below :

https://www.facebook.com/groups/347795365429216/

Comment by adoption1964 (Kim) on June 20, 2018 at 8:06am

GTG - I sent you a friend a request.  Your post hits everything I feel right now.  I was in the chat room today after being away for awhile.  I am almost 14 months out.  May 2, 2018 was my 1 year anniversary of my dear sweet husband's death. I truly thought that after the 1 year mark it would be a bit easier.  You are right everything changes.  I have changed my sleep hours, my eating habits, tv watching and the list goes on.  I am actually finding that this summer is harder than last summer.  I think last summer was truly a blur.  I walked around in a haze.  Now more memories are coming back feelings so overwhelming.  Today is not a special day but for some reason I just want to cry all day.  I have my daughter and 3 grandkids living with me.  Beautiful creative talented grandchildren, 9, 15 & 16.  I love every part of their being and my daughter.  I still find loneliness and the yearning for my husband.  We have spent the last year putting ourselves back together figuring out who we are without my husband, her father and their papa.  This is also a relationship that is definitely taking a new shape without him.  

Comment by EarthSpirit (Carol) on April 28, 2018 at 2:38pm

I’ve experienced every single one of those changes in the past 6 months. The challenge is facing each one of those changes to try and rebuild a life. For me, I know it will take the rest of my life. But my beloved husband will hold my hand every step of the way, just as he did when we were together. I believe this with all my heart.❤️

Comment by SarahCello on April 17, 2018 at 8:54am

These absolutely spot on words are those of Kelley Lynn https://www.soaringspirits.org/kelleyiskelley  This is a quote from her book that will be out this summer--

Comment by GTG on April 17, 2018 at 7:23am

Comment by HelensRay on April 15, 2018 at 2:43pm

Just to set the scene, I live in the UK and lost my Helen on the 30th June 2017. 

Last Friday our 15 year old granddaughter went to South Africa with a party from her school.  Bethinn and 10 of her fellow pupils have gone for 15 days to assist in a deprived school in Cape Town and naturally I am very proud of her. 

On friday morning I went on to her school website to see if there was any information on the actual time that the party was leaving.  The site has a twitter feed and every day a member of the school puts up a thought for the day.

On Friday the thought for the day was

"Believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and also believe that you can be the light at the end of some one's tunnel"

That's how I think of widow village, I love the way we get support here and how we, in our turn, give what support we can.  Peace, love and light on this troubled road we travel.

Comment by EarthSpirit (Carol) on April 15, 2018 at 12:28pm

Thiswitch, thank you for your reply, it’s nice to know someone else feels the contradiction of not wanting people to feel sorry, but also wanting them to understand. Weekends are difficult; it’s Sunday and I was doing a little shopping this morning and I felt so not part of the world around me. I don’t know any other way to put it. It feels like I’m in an invisible bubble and the rest of the world is living real life. Anxiety is my middle name these days; worrying about maintaining my house, finances, vehicle, health (even though I’m in good health), you name it. The support group I joined didn’t work for me, but I have a counselor who’s available, thankfully. Thank you for listening. Peace to you in this shared journey..

 

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