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Widowed in 2017

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Discussion Forum

Its Official

Started by HelensRay. Last reply by Carmen513 6 hours ago. 8 Replies

Its official I just hate hate hate hate this life without my Helen.  Cancer snatched Helen from me 30th June and I thought I was doing OK, but every day is getting so more wearisome.  I go out, I…Continue

Struggling to get by.

Started by Mike. Last reply by Carmen513 7 hours ago. 9 Replies

I lost my beautiful wife Mary after 30 years of marriage on December 23rd. It was our 30th anniversary. She died from Creutzfeldt–Jakob disease. I had never heard of it until she got it. She died at…Continue

It's Getting Real or Is It

Started by SoundOfSilence. Last reply by betweenwaves Dec 31, 2017. 10 Replies

Today will be 4 weeks that my sweet husband Dan has been gone. I feel like it is getting more real at times but then I think oh no this really didn't happen, it was so sudden and unexpected that I…Continue

Struggling with the Vocabulary of Widowhood

Started by bacasino. Last reply by Carmen513 Dec 26, 2017. 18 Replies

Hello everyone, I am new to Widowed Village, so perhaps this has been discussed before, but I find my self struggling with the vocabulary of widowhood.  My dear husband of 20 years died this last…Continue

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Comment by InsideLove on Thursday

Oh Sonu. I am so sorry for your loss. This is a good community. Kelley Lynn in Tedx Talks is quite comforting in some of the message. You can be certain people here will help you whenever you want to talk here. It's sad we have to meet, but encouraging each of us here, can be of comfort to each other.

Comment by Sonu on Thursday

Hello everyone, this is my first post as I am new to this group. I married the love of my life after 3 years of relationship on 29th April 2017 and after 8 months I lost my beautiful and healthy husband on 21st Dec.2017 to a road accident. I miss him terribly and the time has stand still for me. I am in grave pain and do not know what to do next. All I need now is to talk to someone. I feel so broken inside that i have lost the zest to live anymore. Then I came through the awesome video of Kelley Lynn in Tedx Talks and that is how I came to know about this site.

Comment by adoption1964 on January 9, 2018 at 5:54am

Good Morning, I have not been on here for a couple of days.  I read the most recent comments and I can relate to all of them. I agree this is a great source for connection, insight and understanding.  The journey we are now are will be the one we travel daily.  I have been a widow since May 2, 2017.  There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss him.  I loved my husband with all my heart and soul, he is the one taught me true unconditional love.  My family was a bit dysfunctional; it is ok.  I am adult and see it for what it was. 

Comment by Carol FB on January 8, 2018 at 1:09pm

Hi Pat, thanks for commenting back to me.  I left a longer post on your home page, because I am still figuring this site out.   You know, you get used to using fb and figure other sites are similar.  This has been one of my ' best intentions'  set aside kind of day, and I have been on here instead.  I have neglected doing so for too long, so the time was well spent.

Comment by Pearlinden on January 8, 2018 at 12:36pm

Hi Carol, I'm so glad you found us, but sorry you need to.  Welcome, it's a great resource.  My name is Pat and we have a lot in common.  I also lost my husband (of 36 years) in Feb. 2017.  I moved from California (didn't like it there also) to Omaha last fall, and like you, it's been a good decision.  My old friends faded away after the memorial, and we have no children.  I have siblings here, as well as a few connections from growing up here. I've been to two Camp Widows, and found them both to be excellent.  After I attended the one in Toronto in November, I felt I turned a corner and was not mired in hopelessness daily.  Like you, I'd love to have friends and not just acquaintances.  I plan to start a Soaring Spirits group locally. I frequently lack the energy to put myself out there and tell my story again and again, after repeating it at the doctor's, the bank, the gym, etc.  I know it takes time.  I hope we can meet in Tampa.  Welcome.

Comment by Carol FB on January 8, 2018 at 10:57am

Hello everyone.  I decided to join this group while researching Camp Widow/Tampa 2018.  I lost my husband of 37 years in February 2017.  We had lived in VA for only 6 years, but I had never liked it there, so I sold my home and moved to Milwaukee, WI in late June to be near my younger daughter.  While I am very happy with my decision to move, I am still trying to find new friends.   I would love to hear from anyone in this area that may be on this site.  Also would love to hear more about Camp Widow if anyone has attended any of them.  I have read many of the comments, and I know we all share similar challenges.  Being ok alone, but lonely for friendships, and sometimes family.   I take one day at a time.  I hope to make good connections on here.

Comment by InsideLove on January 6, 2018 at 4:44am

Pegg I am so sorry for your loss. This is one of the places to be for support because EVERYONE knows the emotions, feeling,  aloneness, heartbreak and the ugly and eventually some good turns in the most difficult journey I believe anyone can ever take. Ironic it is that we never asked for it but, somehow we find ourselves in this next season. I lost my husband of 47 years 3 days after his 68th birthday on August 28 2017. 

What kind of support besides your counselor do you have? 

Comment by Pegg on January 5, 2018 at 6:48pm

Good evening! This is my first post as I'm still trying to figure out this site. I lost my husband on August 11, 2017. I am so hoping to find a few people that I can relate to, because I have no one that I talk to except my counselor. Everyday is so emotional as I feel so broken since he is gone. The more I am alone the more I like it, because then I at least can get lost in my own thoughts and don't have to explain my feelings to anyone. My heart breaks for all of you as this is such a hard journey to go on. 

Comment by adoption1964 on January 4, 2018 at 4:50am

Good morning to all of you who are new widows, I found the chat room quite insightful.  There is a good mix of widows on there, some with less than 1 year and others who have 5+ there is hope.  Moving through and forward is extremely painful at times.  I have been a widow for 8 months and just listening to others helps.  Let's get through this 1 day at a time and together.

Comment by adoption1964 on January 2, 2018 at 8:18am

NancyD thank you so much for your support.  I am struggling with how much I should share with my daughter.  She always says she needs to be there for me and her kids.  I try to tell her I am fine and if I cry I cry.  It is really hard for them. Like you I have a a counselor; she is terrific.  I just struggle with how much emotion I should share with them.  I took both of the older grandkids to counseling separately; now my granddaughter she is 8 has requested to go.  The experience more than I expected.  My 14 yr old grandson opened up in a way that made me cry and wanted to make my counselor cry.  I didn't know he felt the way he did.  A short side note we have basically raised the kids they are very close to both of us.  My 14 year old grandson told me that he hates to see me cry and told the counselor that so and why - he said that I was always happy until papa was diagnosed with cancer and he hated to see me sad.  Knife again into the heart.  He was a role model for all of them and it tears me apart to watch them grow up without him and what he is missing.


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