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Widowed in 2017

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Discussion Forum

A Ton of Bricks

Started by Shoosie2. Last reply by Shoosie2 May 24. 7 Replies

Hi everyoneTomorrow is the 4 1/2 month mark that my Rick left his 'earth-suit' , and it's just really hitting me hard that my Rick won't ever be back. Ever. I tried to get that through my mind and…Continue

Making new friends

Started by Mike. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 19. 20 Replies

I read a lot about people who have a great support group of family and friends. But my wife was my best friend and my family is far away. So my support group is digital, either online or on the…Continue

Has Anyone had any 'Strange' things happen in your house since your spouse passed?

Started by Shoosie2. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 17. 12 Replies

Good Morning EveryoneI haven't had much of a chance to post anything recently, but I do read everything. I just had to ask this question. Two days after my Rick passed, December 20, 2017, I was…Continue

ANC service on Feb 28 was beyond words

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Mar 8. 2 Replies

Marty’s Arlington National Cemetery service exceeds words, just as my grief for my missing him every day no words seem to be enough.We had 40+ family and friends in attendance. I hired a photographer…Continue

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Comment by Gunnerx2 (Carol) on March 16, 2018 at 3:14pm

I think that is beautiful.  Melissa, you are right it brings comfort.  Ray your Helen is with you all the time now.  Over our 30 years we bought new rings every 10 years (long story why).  Sometimes I wear all three of my rings stacked together.

Comment by Melissa on March 16, 2018 at 12:51pm

I tried to take my wedding ring off, but I needed it. When I put it back on, I felt so much better. Like Gilbert was a little bit closer. I wear his wedding ring on my middle finger. It's very heavy, so it's a constant presence. I think everybody has to do what feels right to them.

I just wish us all some peace from this horrible pain.

Comment by HelensRay on March 16, 2018 at 11:15am

I wear my wedding ring and I wear Helen's ring on my small finger left hand, can't imagine taking it off.

Comment by Gunnerx2 (Carol) on March 16, 2018 at 9:58am

That's beautiful tooyoung.  I guess the answer is whatever makes us happy.

Comment by tooyoungtobealone on March 16, 2018 at 9:56am

Carol, I don't know and I feel the same way.  I wear my wedding rings on my left hand and his wedding band on my right hand.  

Comment by Gunnerx2 (Carol) on March 16, 2018 at 8:58am

How long before you stopped wearing your wedding band?  I cannot imagine taking mine off.   Carol

Comment by GracieB on March 2, 2018 at 8:43am

I'm very sorry for your loss,

thanks for your response, Maybe I will try the site you suggested.

any little bit helps at this point...

Comment by Shoosie2 on March 1, 2018 at 4:26pm

Gracie B 

I am sorry for your loss. I lost the love of my life December 20, 2017 to lung cancer. I am in the same boat as you. I live in the country too, and all I have left of my family is my sister and niece. I never had children, and my stepson is an hour away, but he's busy with his own life. I haven't heard from him since the night his father died. No close friends near  me either, so now I am going to force myself to get out and about in the next month. I hate having to do this, as it gets so much harder making a new support network when you get older. Maybe will have some groups that you would be interested in? That's the only place I have looked so far for groups somewhat near me (an hour away).

At least us country folks have each other on this site, and while it doesn't take the place of in-person interacting, it's reassuring to know that others are walking this same path

Comment by GracieB on March 1, 2018 at 4:06pm

I'm sorry for your loss also...

No no place around here to go, I have a neighbor who has been really supportive,

and who stayed with me the night my husband died, but she is 84...

and she has a family and her husband is still with her..

I am way out in the I have the phone and am able to email and text, but no cell service here...

am 8 hrs from my family, I am working on things, just getting thru every day is an effort..

but it is getting better..

thanks for listening, it is so much a help

Comment by Melissa on March 1, 2018 at 3:54pm

Gracie B, I'm so sorry. I'm trying to join groups to make new friends. Is there anything close to you where you could go for support and conversation? 

I miss conversation the most. It's so hard to be alone, but this group is so helpful. Please use it as a resource for making friends and maybe getting some ideas to help you move forward.

I wish you all the best, and please keep in touch.


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