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Widowed in 2019

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just joining

Started by julieb. Last reply by julieb May 19. 8 Replies

Hi all, Just joining the group. I've read many of the posts on here and it seems we all have a lot of the same feelings. I'm very sorry that any of us need to be here. I never could have imagined…Continue

365th Day Without You

Started by Pooh898. Last reply by Mama Mary May 7. 7 Replies

Yesterday marked the 365th day without my husband. I miss him beyond words but, this loneliness is almost unbearable. My ROCK is gone and I’m left all alone it seems with no sense of purpose. My…Continue

Being in public

Started by Justme. Last reply by AnnieDReich May 5. 17 Replies

I dread being at work or in public around people who know me. Inevitably someone asks, "HOW are you doing?" or "How were the holidays?" and won't let it drop w/ a fine. I know they care and that…Continue

Hello

Started by MattsMom. Last reply by Mama Mary Apr 25. 3 Replies

Just joined the site and this group. I wish it didn't have to exist. My husband died 8/1/2019 after an almost seven battle with glioblastoma multiforme (GBM). He was 69 and we were 7 weeks shy of our…Continue

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Comment by CvilleSarah on September 12, 2019 at 7:27pm

Hi all,

I am new to site as of today, thank you for having me. Although I am still somewhat in shock to be here, I am already comforted just a little reading some of these posts. Everything you are saying resonates with me, especially the “not knowing what to do now”, things we are doing alone that we are supposed to be doing with our loved ones, and the general feelings of fear, sadness, anger, and uncertainty alluded to. I am 34 years old, and lost the love of my life almost 2 weeks ago on 9/1. His decline started a few months ago after he was diagnosed with Myasthenia Gravis, and on 8/7 underwent routine surgery in hopes of recovery. After that, other issues surfaced that spiraled out of control, and he eventually succumbed to everything after about 3 weeks in the ICU. My friend and family want to be helpful, and they have been, but it is next to impossible for them to understand what I’m going through. After all, it’s not any of them l I really want, I just want my Joey back. There was a large age gap between us, but I cannot describe how compatible we were and how easy it was to love him. We were together for about 2 years, and best friends for several years prior. He was my first real relationship, as I had always been a little Leary of sharing my space and all that. But sharing our lives together was by far the greatest experience of my life. We had such a great little routine, stuff we liked to do together, tv shows, etc. I just can’t believe that the last time we did everything together was really the last time, and we didn’t even know it. When we left home the day of his surgery, I never would have fathomed he would never come home again. His memorial service was this past Sunday, and now it seems like life goes on, for everyone except me. For now, I’m just focusing on one day at a time. Still struggling with what to believe as far as where he/his energy/force/whatever is now. As I lay here in bed where he’s supposed to be beside me, with one of his T-shirts, my heart goes out to all of us dealing with this. Goodnight, and thanks for reading. 

Comment by Pualili221 on September 11, 2019 at 7:33pm

@ ChuckD, 

My husband's 7 month anniversary is on the 21st. I feel the same, death no longer scares me. When it is my time, I look forward to being with my husband once again. 

@Babycakes1993, @ AandC, @ Darlene, 

Sorry for your loss. Everything that you have said, I feel.  This month has already been a very hard month and I know it's because my husband's birthday is on the 27th. Earlier this month I accomplished something he encouraged me to do and I finally got licensed. I was not even happy, I was so sad that I cried on the drive all the way home.  He was supposed to be here with me to celebrate, it was for the both of us not just for me.  There are days that I wonder if I am truly living life and what for.  My days are filled with sadness, confusion, heartache and since his passing I have been forgetful and a scatterbrain.  There are days I don't know what left and right is. I miss him very much and I just feel so lost.  The pain is unbearable at times.  I have been reading the posts on here for a few days and it does help to know others understand and just having someone listen to our raw emotions. 

Comment by ChuckD on September 11, 2019 at 5:41pm

Yesterday was the 8 month anniversary of my incredible wife Robin's passing through the veil. I am always in awe of her strength and bravery. Handling her illness with complete dignity and courage. I miss her every day and want to always glorify and honor her and how much she means to me. I love Robin totally and look so forward to our reunion. as I have stated before She is my Hero and my soul mate.

Comment by Darlene on September 8, 2019 at 12:20pm

Thank you Pat, I will pray for you as well. It really does feel like it is getting harder. I am very grateful for having found this group. Just knowing there are others that understand helps.

Comment by Babycakes1993 on September 8, 2019 at 11:32am

Hi everyone I'm new to widow village. My fiancé Daniel passed away Dec 2nd, 2018. We have two children together a 2 year old son and 3 year old daughter. My children were with me when I found the love of my life dead in our living room. He died the day before his 25th birthday. It was totally unexpected he passed away due to multiple psychiatric drug toxicity that caused respiratory depression. He was overmedicated by his psychiatrist. We were to be wed 3 months later. 

Comment by Pat in Ct on September 8, 2019 at 10:18am

Darlene, Three months is when the extreme sadness, desperation, hopelessness, and anxiety hit me, too. I guess we were in shock before then. My husband died on May 15 and it's getting harder, not easier. I'll say a prayer for you.

Comment by AandC on September 8, 2019 at 3:41am

It is a tough and lonely road to follow when the man you were supposed to spend your life with suddenly dies. July 27, 2019 was when it happened, when my future became blank, and I felt as though everything was crushing me in. I still don't know what my future holds. I can't see it any more. I miss my husband dearly. I'm happy to have found this site to allow me to communicate with others who know what I am feeling. 

Cher

Comment by Mary on August 31, 2019 at 9:31am

Pualili221,

Thanks for your kind words.  It does help to come here and read what others have written.  So many things really hit home.  I think losing your spouse/partner is so much more difficult than you can ever imagine unless you've been thru it.

Mary

Comment by Pualili221 on August 29, 2019 at 2:52pm

@ Sueg, @ Mary, @ Morales, 

So sorry about your loss. It sucks that we are all on this website and have become a part of this "community" that we never would have imagined to be in at the present moment. As much as it sucks, reading what everyone posts has helped me get through some dark days.  To this day I still have a hard time comprehending the death of my husband.  Everyone on here knows that this is the hardest journey we all have to go through; they are here to listen, tell their stories and be supportive.  I hope that you all find the comfort and strength that you need to get you through the really tough times. Hugs to you...

Comment by Morales on August 28, 2019 at 10:05pm

Hello I'm new here. I lost my husband June 10, 2019. Unexpectedly, waiting for Autopsy results. He wasn't even home, I had called his phone and LAPD answered his phone to give me this devastating news. I'm having a real hard time tonight. I have good hours and not so good hours. 

 

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