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Widowed in 2020

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My Story...

Started by Ellen. Last reply by Sleepless in Oxford 2 hours ago. 16 Replies

Hi all,This is my first post to the group.  I have joined multiple Zoom calls and find them helpful in knowing I'm not alone with this un welcomed change in life.My husband died of a Stroke at the…Continue

Relationship with daughters?

Started by Sleepless in Oxford. Last reply by Estragon 5 hours ago. 8 Replies

My wife of 24 years died just over two months ago.  I thought it would start getting easier by now, but after reading this forum and a couple books on grieving, I’m beginning to understand why it’s…Continue

Hard Couple of Days

Started by Carousel. Last reply by Rere on Monday. 15 Replies

Maybe I'm just tired as I've been up since 2:00 a.m. today.  The past couple of days have been bad.  On Tuesday, I had a grief therapy session in the morning and then did the Zoom call in the…Continue

New Widower

Started by Carousel. Last reply by DIWT4E Jul 27. 10 Replies

My wife of 35 years passed away in June  from lung cancer.  I am not sure what my place in the world is now.  She was my soulmate, wife, and best friend.  I feel like half a person blindly going…Continue

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Comment by brokeninsd219 on July 11, 2020 at 2:46pm

Bentley B I’m so sorry you had to discover him that way. The county medical examiner called me saying they found him in his truck. He parked in the church parking lot 3 blocks away from our house when he did it. Worst phone call I ever received. I feel like suicide is different because it was their choice to die which makes living without them so different than if they were taken unexpectedly. It all hurts either way.

thank you for sharing your story and I’m here if you want to talk.

Comment by outwest on July 11, 2020 at 7:34am

To Brokeninsd219 and Bentley B

I am sorry for your loss and that you find yourself on a journey that no one desires. My wife passed away in April after a long battle with cancer. It has not been easy but I am grateful to have found the village, it has been a big help to me.
I hope that both of you will find the help and hope in this village to move forward. 
Please take care.

Comment by Bentley B on July 11, 2020 at 6:53am

Hi.  My name is Julie and I am 41 years young.  My husband Daniel completed suicide at the age of 42 on April 8th, 2020 in our bathroom.  I was the one to find him at 5:43 am.  I’m looking for friends who understand and a safe place to take this journey so thank you for having me!

Comment by Estragon on July 10, 2020 at 9:46am

brokeninsd219 - Welcome to this dreadful club, none of us wanted to be a part of.  Each of our journeys is different, but there seem to be some common aspects.  My wife died suddenly at the end of January.  For the first few months, it seemed unreal.  The pain was seemingly constant, but sort of numbed by a mental fog.  Between the pain and the fog, I just sort of shut down, and tried to get through one hour/minute at a time.  I found myself doing some pretty stupid things in the fog, and realized I had to limit things like driving that required any sort of judgement or concentration.  If you're anything like I was, just try to take care of yourself as best you can.

Eventually, instead of being constant, the pain and fog lifted for short periods.  Now, the periods of lifting are getting a bit longer, and I feel almost adequately functional more often than not. 

I'm not sure where life will take me either.  What I know for sure is it won't look anything like I thought it would before the end of January.  I won't be the same person either.  I'm grateful to have had over 40, mostly happy and loving years with a wonderful woman.  I owe that memory the respect to try to be my best new self for whatever days or years I have left.

Comment by brokeninsd219 on July 9, 2020 at 5:27pm

Hello all,

My husband passed on 6/23/2020 so I am a new widow and still feeling the shock of it all. I found that chatting online with other widows and widowers has been helpful through this process which is how I found this site. As a widow at age 38, I’m not sure where life will take me but I know that this pain is nothing like I’ve ever experienced before. I’m not exactly sure what I’m here for but mostly just to talk and empathize with otherwise who share my experience of pain and loss.
I wish you all comfort through your ordeal and thank you for allowing me to be part of this online community. 

Comment by Rere on July 7, 2020 at 3:36pm

To Maggie May,

I also only saw your comment in an email. I lost my husband April 28th from Covid and can certainly identify with the emotional rollercoaster. I am having a great deal of anxiety from the whole situation in which we lost him. It seems that I need to cope with that and his death at the same time. It feels impossible and hopeless. But joining this group has helped me tremendously with dealing with the loss of him and myself and my faith in God. Please continue to be part of this support. 

Comment by Gigi on July 7, 2020 at 7:18am

To Maggie May --

I don't see your message in here, although I have an email of it. Didn't want you to think people were ignoring you!. My husband died Feb 29 and I'm still on the emotional rollercoaster -- as I think all of us are. So that's normal. I don't feel strong anymore either, but we can all help each other on the site.

Carol

Comment by Maralina on June 18, 2020 at 7:48am

Hi Julia B - My thoughts and prayers are with you after the loss of your wife.  It was very nice getting to know you over the  zoom call on Tuesday.  Hope to see you again.  Laurie

Comment by Gigi on June 18, 2020 at 7:36am

Hi Julia B. -- It was nice to meet you on the zoom call. I'm so sorry for the loss of Sheri. Prayers for you and hope to see you on other zooms.

Carol

Comment by Sticky245 on June 17, 2020 at 5:34am

My husband died on March 14. He had cancer, but his death was still unexpected. Experts said we had more time. They were wrong.He was 48, healthy, active, ran 5ks, was a good soul, and now he is gone and I'm shattered. We met when we were 15, but did not marry until 30. He was half my world. I'm sorry for anyone that has found their way here. I am really isolated and was hoping to connect to people who "get it."

 

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