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Widowed in 2020

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My Story...

Started by Ellen. Last reply by Sleepless in Oxford 1 hour ago. 16 Replies

Hi all,This is my first post to the group.  I have joined multiple Zoom calls and find them helpful in knowing I'm not alone with this un welcomed change in life.My husband died of a Stroke at the…Continue

Relationship with daughters?

Started by Sleepless in Oxford. Last reply by Estragon 4 hours ago. 8 Replies

My wife of 24 years died just over two months ago.  I thought it would start getting easier by now, but after reading this forum and a couple books on grieving, I’m beginning to understand why it’s…Continue

Hard Couple of Days

Started by Carousel. Last reply by Rere on Monday. 15 Replies

Maybe I'm just tired as I've been up since 2:00 a.m. today.  The past couple of days have been bad.  On Tuesday, I had a grief therapy session in the morning and then did the Zoom call in the…Continue

New Widower

Started by Carousel. Last reply by DIWT4E Jul 27. 10 Replies

My wife of 35 years passed away in June  from lung cancer.  I am not sure what my place in the world is now.  She was my soulmate, wife, and best friend.  I feel like half a person blindly going…Continue

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Comment by Tom on April 21, 2020 at 5:37pm

My wife passed away on April 4th, 2020 after a 5-plus year battle with ovarian cancer. She was 64, and I just turned 63 two days ago. Happy Birthday to me, huh? It was, therefore, not a surprise but it is still hard to accept. We were married for nearly 33 years. Having to deal with the Coronavirus mess is just making it harder. She died 17 days ago, and we still haven't been able to bury her, due to various delays exacerbated by the lockdown. Any memorial service will have to wait, as well, for who knows how long? More to come, I just wanted to introduce myself.

Comment by Gigi on April 17, 2020 at 12:10pm

Anne-- I am so sorry. Your message could be from me except my kids are 34 and 40. I was suddenly widowed on Feb 29 at age 64 and yes, this quarantine makes it worse. Had to cancel my husband's funeral. My best friend is my yorkiepoo and honestly, I don't know where I'd be without her. But yes, it's very lonely right now. I'm grateful for this website because it helps me realize I'm not alone.

Comment by Anne on April 17, 2020 at 11:57am

Newly widowed at age 59 on April 1st. No one in my family/friend network has experienced loss of a spouse at this “young” age. Not sure where I fit in anymore. Also the pandemic is making my grief and loneliness even more of an isolating experience than it would have been. I have 3 kids in their 20’s, all local, yet out on their own. So the empty nest syndrome is very hard in this house that once had 5 of us and now just me...and my puppy though! He brings me smiles and gives me purpose. Thank goodness I have this little soul in my life.

Comment by Lynne on March 31, 2020 at 2:17pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I can say I didn't understand how hard it was until I lost my husband. My friend lost her husband 4 years ago and now I realize I wasn't there for her because I didn't know how to support her. Unfortunately I found out the hard way. They are right, you can do it, but what they don't realize is how very hard it is. Their intentions are good, but the message isn't always the best.


Comment by Momof3 on March 31, 2020 at 12:49am's just a text message here and there...and comments like "hope are well.  Youre strong, you will get through this" and no words again for another week. 

But then again i don't think it would have been different for me without the virus, with regards to family and friends as since me and hubby moved states, I have no one here anyway. Hubby passed away in a car crash 2  leftmonths ago. He left for cigarettes and never came home.  Left with 3 sons to care for alone and them having no school is where the  of virus affected us most, basically caused  me to lose my job I can't even work to get out of house and have no one to watch kids since they are home and extended time away from school to May today. Hospital where nurses are needed didn't take that news too well. So now I lost benefits etc. But I don't even care. And I don't know if I should. But im scared to leave 3 boys alone home for 13-14hours of day to work.  They are all I have. I'm all they have.  And all I get is " you can do this! You will figure it out" 

Comment by Lynne on March 25, 2020 at 7:50am

Edwardsville, Illinois, just across the river from St. Louis MO

Comment by LiliPad on March 25, 2020 at 4:19am

I am in Indiana.  Yesterday our state went into the "shelter in place" order by the Governor.  I still have to go to work, but we have a very limited staff now in a huge building.  But, it beats the alternative to sitting at home in a sad and empty house.  No family in town or in nearby cities, but I still have my work family.

Comment by Holdensmommy on March 24, 2020 at 4:29pm

North Carolina 

Comment by Pwantau on March 24, 2020 at 1:11pm

where is everyone ?

Comment by AJJacskon67 on March 23, 2020 at 12:51pm

I had to use a sickle to cut my grass. My husband always mowed the lawn. His passing has made me realize how much I depended on him. 

I have repeatedly asked my kids for help the past few days and I feel like they dont care. I know they are going through the same thing but they have families to be there for them, I have no one. 


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