In the hospital

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Comment by judy on February 24, 2013 at 6:13pm

I have a mini video of renewing our wedding vows and Justin was in a coma.  The priest took the video for me - never showed it to anyone but glad I have it.  2 days later he woke up from the coma.  Its hard watching it --- but glad that Ihave it.  He was very blown up and not like I'd ever recognize how he looked ---- my aunt told me not to take any pictures.  I know he heard me since he woke up.  

Comment by littleblue on February 24, 2013 at 6:06pm

Hi Melody, I am so glad you commented, I think that a coma has a unique look, and it is very strange and scary.  I felt weird about taking the pic but I am glad I have it.  His sisters took some pictures of us as he was dying, and I am glad they did though I have not been able to look at them yet.  It was like he was staring but not seeing, but I felt like every now and then he could focus a bit and he saw me.  I hope he knew I was there.  Much peace to you, my friend. 

Comment by MyNewLife on February 24, 2013 at 4:25am

Gasp! I recognize the look too, but I didn't realize until I saw your picture that maybe that's what was going on with my David that night. He passed at home and we had an RN in the room with us, but she never said anything about a coma! In his last couple of hours, it was as if David was sleeping with his eyes open and he wasn't "seeing" or "hearing" us, and the groans... Thank you for sharing this private moment with us. My daughter also took a picture but it's been too painful to look at for me until now. No, you're not the only one and nothing weird about it. I wish I'd had the presence of mind to ask her to take a last photo of the two of us. ((Littleblue))

Comment by Chrissie on February 23, 2013 at 10:23pm

Oh....takes my breath away- in a good way.  I have the same pic with Steve and I on day 2 of coma, he was at home, though.  It was also a Hepatic Coma....Same look in his eyes and same skin tone.  I think it's beautiful...sad but beautiful.  Steve sat right up in that coma about 4 hours before he died and looked at me and said "My mom!!  My mom is there!!" and he laid back down.  I told him if he wanted to go and talk to his mom and go with her, I would understand and I would be OK.  I call that sentence, "The great lie."

Comment by littleblue on January 13, 2013 at 7:38pm

Barbie, he looks like such a nice man.  He has such kind eyes.  Yes, the hospital suffering was horrible, I literally cannot even think about that part, I block it out.  It's just too painful to recall.  I'm glad you had peace at the end too.  

Comment by Barbie Doll on January 13, 2013 at 7:20pm

Mark was in a coma for the last two or three days just gasping for breath.  It was so painful to watch but when he passed he actually got a smile on his face.  It was so amazing I had to take a picture of him at peace at last.  When I look at them now they are shocking to me but at the time I thought he looked amazing.  If you look at my pictures there is one of me holding his hand.   He had already passed but I wanted the image of us holding hands forever:)

Comment by littleblue on January 13, 2013 at 6:56pm

Oh, I know.  I'm so glad you guys commented.  I thought it was kind of weird to take a picture, but I am so glad that I have these now.  It is painful to look at and remember how sick he was, but I am glad I have these.  Also my sisters took some photos of us together while he was actually dying.  And I am really glad they did.  I haven't been able to look at them yet.  And Dianne, his death was really peaceful, too, at the end.  I am so grateful for that.  He was in a coma so I don't know how I could tell that it was peaceful, it just was, though.  Erased a lot of fear of death for me.  I feel grateful that he died in my arms, literally, when so many others here lost their spouses in accidents or events where they were not there.  I will be always grateful I had this time with him.  

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on January 13, 2013 at 6:24pm

Ah Barbie Doll ... I took photos, too - before I went out to alert the hospice nurse that he had passed. There was such an immediate physical change that I wanted to try to capture what I could so vividly see. No more pain, an ethereal aura.  The photos don't really capture it, but the serenity on his face reminds me and brings me peace.

Comment by Barbie Doll on January 13, 2013 at 5:59pm

Brings tears to my eyes and memories of my husbands final days:(  I actually took photos right after he passed because I knew it would be my final photo of him and because he finally looked so peaceful and serene.  So very sorry for your loss.

Comment by Angie aka Woody's Girl on October 12, 2012 at 11:00pm

Very touching photo littleblue. Honored you felt you could share such an intimate moment with us. I've found this site to be my safe haven and have shared things here i'd never share with my friends. Love to you on your journey. Xoxoxo

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