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LOTTIECJ
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LOTTIECJ commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed 2002-2005
"Hi to all. I am 65 and was married 36 years when my husband passed after a long (10 years plus) illness that culminated in his passing. I love this site because everyone is so supportive and you feel you can share freely. Thank you for…"
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LOTTIECJ commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 40s or earlier
"This group is very uplifting and supportive of each other. Glad I found you."
LOTTIECJ commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 40s or earlier
"Hi. I was born in 1947 and was married 36 years. My husband died at age 60 and I was 56. I have no children but had a niece living me in the early 80's from age 17 until she married. I have had quite a journey over…"
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LOTTIECJ replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"I understand what you are saying and I foresee that as a problem with many men that anyone would date. Often they want to date but really are not ready. I is apparently much harder for a man to be without a woman than for a woman to be…"
LOTTIECJ liked WolfWife's blog post The Empty House
LOTTIECJ liked WolfWife's blog post I am a Widow
LOTTIECJ replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
"All that I have read here has been uplifting and I am thankful to have found you ... I has been 9 years but still I find myself constantly having to pick myself back up ... GOD BLESS YOU ALL"
LOTTIECJ liked Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
LOTTIECJ liked Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
LOTTIECJ commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's video
Shit People Say to Widows.m4v
"This is so true ... I have heard many of these to adnauseum ... although i realize it is difficult to know what to say ... sometimes nothing or just a hug is better than an ill advised comment. Only a widow truly knows how another widow feels…"
LOTTIECJ replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"not a good reason to remarry though ... My husband has been gone nine years and I have had two nice relationships ... nothing serious ... one of them died and the other went his own way ... and now I am really not interested .. would like to have a…"
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- At 9:55pm on June 3, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
Supa
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- At 8:11pm on May 24, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome Lottiecj: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 12:04pm on May 24, 2012,
Arnie (New Normal) said… - Hi Lottiecj,
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room.
1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first.
2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers.
3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though)
4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it.
5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone
6. Your first entry:
This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more.
7. BE READY:
Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again.
8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun.
9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here.
10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on.
ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
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