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Mary
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Mary replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Lola, I don't know what others think, but I don't feel like you should be obligated to pay for the memorial service that your BIL planned.  He should have discussed that with you before making the plans rather than just assuming you…"
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Mary replied to jlsrdh's discussion Anniversary Today in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Jules, my husband's birthday is the 15th also.  I have no idea what I'm doing.  My son is usually here for our bdays but wasn't able to get the day off this year.  My best friend is out of town and I'm not really…"
Oct 9
Mary commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Some rescue groups also offer a discount to seniors.  Sometimes it's just on the senior animals, but not always.  If you look on Petfinder, you can find a list of rescues/shelters in your area and look on their websites. …"
Oct 9
Mary replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Lola, I think you've made a good decision on how to handle things.  Especially since you do have your daughter to consider.  Then, you'll have the military ceremony that you wanted.   It's so hard during those first…"
Oct 3
Mary replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"teacher50, Thank you so much.  I'm sorry we're all having to go thru this.  It's so difficult.  Doesn't seem fair that you lost your husband just months after moving into your retirement home.   I'm…"
Oct 3
Damianino! replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"Aloha Fam! I have been offsite for a while. Happy to be back. There is no where like here. By the way, is Chat still a feature? Can't seem to find the Chat room. Have I been away that long??""
Oct 3
teacher50 replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"       Mary: My prayers and a hug go out to you.This Saturday will be 7 years that I lost my husband(my soulmate) Fibrosis of the lungs. We had just moved into our retirement home.Eight months later I was alone. I still…"
Oct 2
Mary replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Hi Lola, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband.  It must be very difficult with it being sudden and at such a young age.  As for the memorial, I think your in-laws are being very disrespectful to you.  It would be one thing…"
Oct 2
Claire replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"Mary, I tell people I'm getting used to the "new normal".  "
Oct 1
Mary replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"I agree, Claire.  Being alone is terrible.  Worse than I could ever imagine.  Somehow we have to find a way though.  I don't think it's totally sunk in yet that this is the way it's going to be from now on."
Oct 1
Claire replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"I think we all have those "mad as hell and not going to take it anymore" days.  It's like everything just piles on and we can't take one more thing.  Grief is difficult.  Being alone sucks. We are all just doing…"
Oct 1
Mary replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"NoLongerinBergenJC, I'm glad you've reached some level of peace with what happened to your husband.  I'm sure that was very difficult.  You don't realize how true the phrase "life isn't fair" is until you…"
Oct 1
Barzan replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Mary,  I just read your post and want you to know that’s why we’re all here.  The world is to preoccupied for our ups and downs.  I think of this site as my support family.  I’ve given up long ago to reach…"
Oct 1
Ultra2015 replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"No worries about complaining here. There are days that just suck. So many reminders and nowhere to go with the pain. Glad you came here  wishing you better days. Peace"
Oct 1
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Mary's discussion Just mad at the world today in the group Born in the 50s
"These days do happen. and if it helps at all, they do pass. I'm not sure if "Here's why they may have decided the way they did" helps, so if it doesn't, please feel free to skip the next paragraph.  I have found that…"
Oct 1
Mary added a discussion to the group Born in the 50s
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Just mad at the world today

I had to take one of my dogs into the vet today.  We have been going to this vet for years and know everyone there.  My husband always went with me when I took the dogs.  Since he passed away in March, I've only been there once and did not mention his death.  They knew he was having health issues though. When I was paying the bill, the one woman said she just saw the note in the records that my husband had passed away.  I guess my vet knew but probably didn't know what to say.  He always used…See More
Oct 1

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At 1:00pm on September 16, 2019, Judyrose said…

Mary,

You are so right it is like an out of body experience. I just go through the day  numb  that wayI don’t have to think about him or alives before.  Maybe that’s not the right way to go through it but I don’t know how else to handle it right now. 

  It was so nice to read your comments and your comforting words. It is so nice to be on here and have people tell you their experiences and how they handle it it makes you feel like you’re not alone. 

DIVA70 Right about so many things it was nice to read her comments. I just hate that we have to be on here but this isWhere our lives lives took us. 

Hugs Judyrose 

At 7:44am on August 17, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Mary. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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