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AandC
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DIVA70 commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"Thank you Kevin....when I read your poem it was comforting to know that someone else understood what I have been trying so hard to express to my family and friends. I don't look forward to tomorrow in the same way as I did when my Tony was…"
10 hours ago
AandC commented on AandC's blog post The Deep Cry
"Kevin Once again, beautiful poetry. Brings tears to my eyes. It is surreal. Fresh and deep. I"m so sorry for your loss. I know this site helps us cope and be able to understand one another's pain and feelings.  I thank you for…"
13 hours ago
AandC commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"Kevin That poem you wrote was beautiful and fits the situation greatly. Thank you for sharing. :)"
13 hours ago
Kevin commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"i read your message and wept,after almost 9 years of Lee being gone i still feel like that,over the years i've put my feelings into words to help me get through the pain and when your post it reminded me of something i wrote,   …"
16 hours ago
Kevin commented on AandC's blog post The Deep Cry
"i'm so sorry for your loss,I lost my wife on 10/29/2010 we were together for 27 years ,and i still cry,                                                                                                            Tears from…"
17 hours ago
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The Deep Cry

So, last night was one of those nights, one of those times, where I just broke down into a deep sorrowful cry. It came out of nowhere. Maybe it was because I had things to do yesterday so I tried to be normal which is an understatement. Holding in your emotions to get through each and every day is rough, tough, and almost unbearable. It's so exhausting. So, at the end of the day when I could relax, I think it hit me. I usually cry throughout the day here and there, but yesterday I had things to…See More
18 hours ago
chef (John) commented on AandC's blog post Fresh and Raw
"I'm afraid that I have no insights on the matter you raise. I'm sorry that such things are happening to you, but it might be better for you to discuss (as calmly as is possible) this issue with someone in your husband's family with…"
Monday
AandC commented on AandC's blog post Fresh and Raw
"chef (John) You really are so helpful in all that you say. I read your comment to FWIW and it made so much sense and gave me the knowledge I need for when I begin back to teaching on Wednesday. I'm really stressed about that but I loved reading…"
Monday
chef (John) commented on AandC's blog post Fresh and Raw
"FWIW, it took me eight weeks just to sleep through the night again. Your sleep patterns are probably messed up due to the stress you're experiencing, and all of that does nothing to help you. You may also be experiencing "accordion-bellows…"
Monday
AandC replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"DebiT I'm not sure what to say. I could say I'm sorry for your loss that most of get often. But, then the response of thank you is the correct response which doesn't make sense.  I'm still trying to understand and cope with…"
Monday
AandC commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"CvilleSarah. I thought about group therapy, but I just am not sure if it's right for me. I'd be a weeping widow. After reading your post about your grief group, I thought about it but there just isn't that much available here. But, I…"
Monday
SweetMelissa2007 commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"AandC, Three deaths in a short time is enough reason for complicated grief. You may want to consider visiting a mental health GRIEF therapist for an evaluation. Complicated grief does not get better on its own like normal grief ... During the course…"
Saturday
Bobbysgirl commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"Cat I agree with you about men in our age group looking to meet someone. In my experience most of them want someone to take care of them. I was a caretaker for Bob for years and I could never go through that experience again. I have helped people…"
Saturday
Cat commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"Suzanne, I totally disagree with laurajay. There are plenty of men on the dating site Ourtime in their late 70's and 80 years old that are lonely and looking to meet someone. So if that's what you want to do, GO FOR IT!! There are couples…"
Saturday
AandC commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"CvilleSarah and Morales I'm so very sorry for your loss. I know you hear this so often but I truely mean it knowing how loosing your spouse feels. It hasn't even been two months yet for me. It seems the pain gets worse on some days than…"
Saturday
AandC commented on AandC's blog post Fresh and Raw
"DIVA70 Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words. I am about to relate to a great amount of what you say. Everywhere I turn, I think of my husband and our memories in every store, every road, every path. It's a really long and hard journey.…"
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Fresh and Raw

On July 27, 2019, my husband passed away unexpectedly where I was the one to discovered and held his lifeless body that I was sure someone could fix. But, even as he was rushed to the hospital, no one could bring him back to me.

It's still very raw and fresh: the stabbing aching pain, the breakdowns, the not realizing he is really gone on some occasions, the anxiety, the remembering looking into my husband's lifeless eyes when I pulled him into my arms. It's all so raw and fresh.

I need someone to talk to about the death of my spouse. It's hard for others to understand who never experienced it before. I'm hoping and praying that this site will bring me some peace. I know speaking with others will bring comfort and understanding. 

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The Deep Cry

Posted on September 18, 2019 at 3:47am 2 Comments

So, last night was one of those nights, one of those times, where I just broke down into a deep sorrowful cry. It came out of nowhere. Maybe it was because I had things to do yesterday so I tried to be normal which is an understatement. Holding in your emotions to get through each and every day is rough, tough, and almost unbearable. It's so exhausting. So, at the end of the day when I could relax, I think it hit me. I usually cry throughout the day here and there, but yesterday I had things…

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Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too

Posted on September 8, 2019 at 10:30am 20 Comments

I have realized that I have been trying to find words to use that do not cause anyone pain or hardship. I have been trying to hold all my emotions in except in the early morning hours and late nights when I close myself off. Do you know how uncomfortable people become, even close family and friends, when you show your grief to them? I'm sure you do. I try so hard not to cause anyone pain or grief from my pain and grief. I made most of my family and friends stay…

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Fresh and Raw

Posted on September 6, 2019 at 1:12pm 9 Comments

On July 27, 2019, my husband passed away unexpectedly where I was the one to discovered and held his lifeless body that I was sure someone could fix. But, even as he was rushed to the hospital, no one could bring him back to me.

It's still very raw and fresh: the stabbing aching pain, the breakdowns, the not realizing he is really gone on some occasions, the anxiety, the remembering looking into my husband's lifeless eyes when I pulled him into my arms. It's all so raw and…

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At 3:45pm on September 18, 2019, Jules said…

I’m hoping for the same thing. I’m in a Grief Share group, which is great, but they are not around 7 days a week. For instance today was a very hard day. I thought I was getting stronger ( it’s been 5 weeks). But today, everything just made me cry. I’m thankful for my friends and brothers and brother in laws but, they’re not Bill, my husband. I don’t want to burden them with my grief because, especially his brothers, have their own grief to deal with. I’m so thankful that this site exists.

At 11:34am on September 5, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, AandC. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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