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AandC
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AandC replied to Melissa's discussion Holiday Plans in the group Widowed in 2019
"This post brings back the pain of knowing that I cannot share and laugh and love with my husband for the first holiday since he passed in July.  I too have decided to not join the normal celebration of our large family getting together for a…"
Nov 22
AandC replied to AtSam(Steve)'s discussion I sit alone in the group Widowed in 2019
"To AtSam As I read your post, I felt the pain that you are feeling. My husband was my world, my all. No one could ever replace my husband, and I went stir crazy trying to find a way to live again. I just wanted to be with him. My husband was taken…"
Oct 24
AandC commented on AandC's blog post Fresh and Raw
"Butler62, I'm so sorry for the passing of your wife. The first few months was absolutely the worse where I didn't think I'd ever live again. I was sure I'd die of a heart attack. But, I have decided to go back out into the world…"
Oct 14
Butleri62 commented on AandC's blog post Fresh and Raw
"I feel your pain it’s only been 3 weeks now since my wife past and everyone says she would want you to stay strong for your daughter and granddaughter and I really try but it’s hard as hell particularly at night when Im alone in our…"
Oct 13
AandC commented on AandC's blog post Fresh and Raw
"Erika, I am sorry for you loss as well. It is tough, sometimes so tough that you just don't know which way to turn. I am trying to find ways to make my grieving stop especially since I thought I would literally have a heart attack and…"
Oct 12
Erika commented on AandC's blog post Fresh and Raw
"Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss.  I can say I know how you feel. I too lost my husband suddenly to a heart attack in his sleep. He died April 29, 2019. It has been a few months but it is still raw and painful. I have gone to grief…"
Oct 10
AandC commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Parsnip This morning I was reading your post and tears began to fall from my eyes. I have been busy talking to friends who support me in this journey daily, mostly mornings and nights.  You are so right that we have become different.…"
Sep 23
AandC commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
":) The EDCZone That was beautiful as well as well detailed to help us out here struggling day to day to learn how to live again and not feel guilty for communicating with others as friends/companions.  Lovely story behind your…"
Sep 22
AandC replied to Jules's discussion 5 weeks and counting i in the group Widowed in 2019
"I"m so sorry. My husband died unexpectedly as well. It is very hard to know what to do with your life now that your husband is gone. I still have not figured it out. I find chatting to friends that are complete strangers help me along the…"
Sep 19
Jules left a comment for AandC
"I’m hoping for the same thing. I’m in a Grief Share group, which is great, but they are not around 7 days a week. For instance today was a very hard day. I thought I was getting stronger ( it’s been 5 weeks). But today, everything…"
Sep 18
DIVA70 commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"Thank you Kevin....when I read your poem it was comforting to know that someone else understood what I have been trying so hard to express to my family and friends. I don't look forward to tomorrow in the same way as I did when my Tony was…"
Sep 18
AandC commented on AandC's blog post The Deep Cry
"Kevin Once again, beautiful poetry. Brings tears to my eyes. It is surreal. Fresh and deep. I"m so sorry for your loss. I know this site helps us cope and be able to understand one another's pain and feelings.  I thank you for…"
Sep 18
AandC commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"Kevin That poem you wrote was beautiful and fits the situation greatly. Thank you for sharing. :)"
Sep 18
Kevin commented on AandC's blog post Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too
"i read your message and wept,after almost 9 years of Lee being gone i still feel like that,over the years i've put my feelings into words to help me get through the pain and when your post it reminded me of something i wrote,   …"
Sep 18
Kevin commented on AandC's blog post The Deep Cry
"i'm so sorry for your loss,I lost my wife on 10/29/2010 we were together for 27 years ,and i still cry,                                                                                                            Tears from…"
Sep 18
AandC posted a blog post

The Deep Cry

So, last night was one of those nights, one of those times, where I just broke down into a deep sorrowful cry. It came out of nowhere. Maybe it was because I had things to do yesterday so I tried to be normal which is an understatement. Holding in your emotions to get through each and every day is rough, tough, and almost unbearable. It's so exhausting. So, at the end of the day when I could relax, I think it hit me. I usually cry throughout the day here and there, but yesterday I had things to…See More
Sep 18

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Fresh and Raw

On July 27, 2019, my husband passed away unexpectedly where I was the one to discovered and held his lifeless body that I was sure someone could fix. But, even as he was rushed to the hospital, no one could bring him back to me.

It's still very raw and fresh: the stabbing aching pain, the breakdowns, the not realizing he is really gone on some occasions, the anxiety, the remembering looking into my husband's lifeless eyes when I pulled him into my arms. It's all so raw and fresh.

I need someone to talk to about the death of my spouse. It's hard for others to understand who never experienced it before. I'm hoping and praying that this site will bring me some peace. I know speaking with others will bring comfort and understanding. 

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The Deep Cry

Posted on September 18, 2019 at 3:47am 2 Comments

So, last night was one of those nights, one of those times, where I just broke down into a deep sorrowful cry. It came out of nowhere. Maybe it was because I had things to do yesterday so I tried to be normal which is an understatement. Holding in your emotions to get through each and every day is rough, tough, and almost unbearable. It's so exhausting. So, at the end of the day when I could relax, I think it hit me. I usually cry throughout the day here and there, but yesterday I had things…

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Holding back the Sorrow and Pain so others don't feel it too

Posted on September 8, 2019 at 10:30am 20 Comments

I have realized that I have been trying to find words to use that do not cause anyone pain or hardship. I have been trying to hold all my emotions in except in the early morning hours and late nights when I close myself off. Do you know how uncomfortable people become, even close family and friends, when you show your grief to them? I'm sure you do. I try so hard not to cause anyone pain or grief from my pain and grief. I made most of my family and friends stay…

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Fresh and Raw

Posted on September 6, 2019 at 1:12pm 13 Comments

On July 27, 2019, my husband passed away unexpectedly where I was the one to discovered and held his lifeless body that I was sure someone could fix. But, even as he was rushed to the hospital, no one could bring him back to me.

It's still very raw and fresh: the stabbing aching pain, the breakdowns, the not realizing he is really gone on some occasions, the anxiety, the remembering looking into my husband's lifeless eyes when I pulled him into my arms. It's all so raw and…

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At 3:45pm on September 18, 2019, Jules said…

I’m hoping for the same thing. I’m in a Grief Share group, which is great, but they are not around 7 days a week. For instance today was a very hard day. I thought I was getting stronger ( it’s been 5 weeks). But today, everything just made me cry. I’m thankful for my friends and brothers and brother in laws but, they’re not Bill, my husband. I don’t want to burden them with my grief because, especially his brothers, have their own grief to deal with. I’m so thankful that this site exists.

At 11:34am on September 5, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, AandC. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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