Idk if it's healthy for unhealthy for me to keep all his items right where he left them... It's only been a little over 3 months and I still have his razor and deoderant by the sink, and I've washed…Continue
"Thank you Callie. I have done my homework, this auctioneer takes his cut from the buyer, not the seller. He is a very nice and honest man. I've been watching his auctions and have met him in person.
I am putting reserves on…"
So very sorry for the loss of your husband.
I just want to tell you that auctions do not always produce a higher price—it goes to the highest bidder. Depending upon their knowledge of the instruments they may get a real bargain.…"
"It's been almost 4 months now. The 23rd will be the memorial up in the mountains and the scattering of Charlie's ashes over his favorite spot in the world.
I have finally decided what to do with all the guitars, amplifiers, etc. …"
"Grieving is difficult and I think part of it is accepting they are really gone and will not be coming back. We keep their things around because it is comforting but also a sign that we are not yet ready for this acceptance. Grief reaches deep…"
"I have keep his eyeglasses where he left them last. His clothes are still hanging there but I did remove some of his things from the shower. They made me cry every time I showered. It's been 2 months and 5 days. As I…"
"Aly saw your post and wanted to reach out to you. You don't know just how normal you are !
I asked this same question in different words about 4 years ago when I first came on to Widowed Village. Funny thing was I…"
"We both seem to be on that 2.5 year mark, KayeL. Whatever routine works for you, keep it up. We each have our coping/adapting mechanisms. I think any of us would do anything to bring our spouses back, but it's like King David…"
"2.5 years for me. His razor and his electrical toothbrush are still on his side of the counter. His clothes are as is. I still put hand soap on his sink and mine with another. Religiously I replace his towels every month.
I wear his shirts, a…"
"Seems to be more input from the widows than the widowers on moving/keeping the departed spouses "stuff". (To be expected; there are more of you than there are of us.) For my part, after Mickey died I knew I didn't want to…"
"I haven't moved barely anything and it has been about 8 months. His toothbrush, deodorant, etc. is all where he left it. I washed his clothes and hung them back up, put his shoes in the closet. My husband was a bit messy and…"
"laurajay, I know this won't last forever. My husband Ron was 15 years older so I saw him slow down over the years. I also saw it in my parents, of course. Both were early adapters of an active, healthy lifestyle but age took…"
"I kept the kids - that always makes me laugh ...
I also keep on display many of my mother's belongings as well as Bob's grandmothers ...
There is normalcy in keeping a loved one's items including those not ready to part with ... …"
"I hear you Athena and laurajay. I took the plunge and got Life Alert for my 61st birthday present to myself. I still have to get it hooked up, but it's not a pendant but the alarms is worn like a wrist watch. I am filling out the medical…"
"Yes, laurajay, there are times when being alone is genuinely scary. I didn't marry for the first time till I was 30 and in general I like my peace and quiet but once in awhile it hits me how vulnerable I am. Last September I got…"
"Your post reminds me so much of what my Aunt Nancy would say. She was a registered nurse/nursing professor/nursing pioneer and was confident in her opinions. We were very close, she supported me unconditionally, and it's sweet to be…"
"I have to agree with laurajay's comments on protecting our own health and safety, though I realize that rational decisions do not always easily in the throes of grief. IMHO, our departed loved ones would not want us endangering our…"
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