"I'm coming close to one year also - it will be November 15 for me. I'm doing pretty well putting together a different life after losing Ron; he was 15 years older so I always had the awareness I was likely to outlive him. …"
"Sue, I absolutely agree that long-term caregiving can have many effects. While my husband had been deteriorating slowly over the last 10 years (partly age, partly his polycythemia and the effects of his necessary meds), for the most part I was…"
"A favorite speech theme of the professional speaker wannabes I encounter in Toastmasters is "You can't control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it". It's true, of course, although you can control…"
"Thanks for this post. I know we're all different (one guy who posted here said he and his new wife still wear the rings form their previous marriages, with new inscriptions inside), but I have also chosen to remove my ring. DH died…"
"I agree- I'd love to have another good man in my life but I need time to figure out how I want my life to look like first.
I'm very glad I'm not in the position of my step-grandma. My maternal grandmother died and Grandpa…"
"I can understand that - frankly, I miss the unrestrained hugs when you're in an intimate relationship with someone. The careful, boundary-observing hugs you get at church just aren't the same. At age 64, I'm not ready for…"
"I'd say these guys aren't looking for a companion- they're looking for a cook/housekeeper/babysitter! I suppose it's a huge adjustment to lose a stay-at-home mother when you have a FT job and small children. I know DS…"
"I found that strange, too- I thought even the most orthodox of religions agreed that a widow/widower was no longer bound by wedding vows. Many of the stricter ones, though, still consider sex outside of marriage to be a giant…"
"I like your attitude! My husband Ron died in November of last year and we were travelers. Just before he died (we knew he wouldn't last out the year), I booked a cruise through the Panama Canal, followed by snorkeling, hiking,…"
"barbee, thanks for your encouraging reply! I'm "only" 64 but just did a 34-mile charity bike ride last Monday so I don't want the physical part of my life to be over just yet so I'm happy to see you and your 82-year…"
"mls64, thanks for that last observation. My husband Ron was a font of common sense and a great calming influence when I worried about something, which I always do, imagining the worst possible outcome. Early in the relationship, when we…"
"Sue- thanks for the warning and I'm so glad your prognosis is good and that your daughter was able to be there for you. I still feel more attractive with a bit of a tan and I do a lot of work in the garden. I should be using…"
"This is probably not the time to do anything drastic or irreversible. The experts always say to wait a year or so unless financial necessity forces changes.
I know it's hard thinking of what YOU want after so many years of thinking of…"
"I'd still open a dialogue with him, right now when it's theoretical. I've got a 32-year old son, a wonderful young man (and father to my two beautiful little granddaughters) and he's a conservative evangelical…"
"Very eloquently written. I'm also close to one year out- my husband died on November 15. I've posted this thought before, but sometimes I feel as if I closed the door on one wonderful section of my life and opened the door to…"
"Wow. That really makes me think, which is a good thing. I've been doing pretty well in the 9.5 months since Ron died. I think I've always kept an eye on the horizon; he was 15 years older and was diagnosed 10 years ago with…"
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