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Athena53 replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"A hopeful update- yesterday I had coffee with a guy I met on Match.com.  He looked like his pictures.  We had a great discussion.  I don't' think he was an axe-murderer.  I think he was interested enough in me to get…"
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Athena53 replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Mike, can I add a few suggestions on your profile, wherever it is?  First, make sure most of your pictures are relaxed and smiling.  Include more than one picture and at least one that shows your full body.  (I saw a profile on…"
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Athena53 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, irishlady.  Since I list things as Free Stuff, no money is involved.  I put it at the end of the driveway and the first person to arrive gets it,  I know I could have gotten money for the spice shelf (it was 5 feet high and in…"
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Athena53 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Two more things gone.  Ron made a few pieces of Shaker-style furniture from kits and I had two spice racks (the multi-shelf units, over 6 feet tall) in the kitchen and really I needed only one.  I listed that and an undistinguished…"
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Athena53 replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"I tried OurTime and the pickings weren't really great- it seemed that every day they'd shuffle the deck of guys in my area/age range and deal 10 off the top as my "matches" even though most were guys with whom I had almost…"
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Athena53 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"I'm also wary of stepping into the caregiver role, but I don't think you need to sign anything.  Just don't marry 'em or move in with them.  That way if either of you develops problems, the other isn't…"
Aug 9
Athena53 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Not wanting to give up (or cut back on) drinking would be a dealbreaker.  My Ex was an alcoholic.  Never again.  Good chance you could end up as caregiver, too.  (The Ex died from alcohol abuse 13 years after I divorced…"
Aug 9
Athena53 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Welcome, AngieK, and I'm sorry you had to join us.  Although I had a very happy marriage with my second husband Ron, who died in November, 2016, I was also married to a scary, abusive alcoholic the first time. He died 13 years after we…"
Aug 8
Athena53 commented on only1sue's blog post Thanks for the memories of 50 years
"That's great news, Sue!   My dear mother always said you should never let them scan your body because they'll find things you never knew were there and weren't giving you trouble.  So far I have managed to take her…"
Aug 8
LadyG commented on Athena53's blog post "A sculpture that Creates Intense Emotion"
"Another excellent representation of feelings.  Obviously this artist, Celeste Roberts, has been here too else how could she have so beautifully illustrated what a feeling impossible to convey with words ?  Thank you for adding to this…"
Aug 7
Athena53 commented on Athena53's blog post "A sculpture that Creates Intense Emotion"
"That's so eloquent! When Ron and I were at Pere Lachaise Cemetery in Paris 4 years ago, there was a beautiful and sad sculpture of a young woman, sitting, hunched over and weeping, although her hair hid her face.  It was perched on a flat…"
Aug 7
Shoosie2 commented on Athena53's blog post "A sculpture that Creates Intense Emotion"
"Here is another sculpture with captures all of our feelings, at one time or another. It's called The Weight of Grief  by Celeste Roberge. Peace Steph"
Aug 7
EarthSpirit (Carol) commented on Athena53's blog post "A sculpture that Creates Intense Emotion"
"It’s a beautiful and profound sculpture and surely resonates with all of us trying to reinvent ourselves from all the pieces left. This writing I share brings me great comfort and may fit nicely here: ”I greet you from the other side of…"
Aug 7
Mamitha commented on Athena53's blog post "A sculpture that Creates Intense Emotion"
"yup, that's what it feels like, a big giant hole in my chest. "
Aug 7
Athena53 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Thanks!  I've found profiles of a few guys I actually now on Match.com- unfortunately not enough chemistry for me to want to pursue them.  I did find it reassuring that at least 3 of the profiles were for real!  There also seems…"
Aug 6
Athena53 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"jas, if you feel comfortable volunteering- which site did you use?  I'm on Match.com but haven't made contact with anyone.  Guys who have sent notes haven't interested me and I haven't heard back from any that…"
Aug 6

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"A sculpture that Creates Intense Emotion"

Posted on July 14, 2018 at 4:33am 9 Comments

Wow.  My SIL posted this on FaceBook yesterday; here's a link to the entire article.

https://totallybuffalo.com/a-sculpture-that-creates-intense-emotion/

The sculptor has been widowed but says he was given "a second slope in life" where he's able to enjoy…

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Outside of our Comfort Zones: Small Victories

Posted on October 24, 2017 at 8:57am 1 Comment

I was better prepared for life after Ron's death than many widows.  He died about a year ago at age 78, but his health had been deteriorating and his stamina had been decreasing for a couple of years before that.  I was also 15 years younger.  I'd always managed the finances (he joked that since he was an English major and my degree was in Math that was a no-brainer) and had gradually taken over lawn and yard maintenance, keeping the car maintained, housekeeping, etc. because he just…

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At 2:46pm on November 28, 2016, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help. Below is a link that you might find helpful as a new member.

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