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Athena53 replied to Riley's discussion Loneliness Hits you Smack in the Face in the group Widowed in 2016
"Wow- that's scary.  No graft-vs.-host issues and it still killed him.  I know you said they don't know why it happened but I hope someone is looking into it.  Maybe they'll learn something that will save someone…"
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Athena53 replied to Riley's discussion Loneliness Hits you Smack in the Face in the group Widowed in 2016
"Riley, I spent a lot of time on a FB page for people with Acute Myeloid Leukemia and their loved ones and, in a way, stem cell transplants are the most reliable treatment because your own unhealthy cells are replaced by donor cells.  The big…"
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Athena53 replied to Riley's discussion I feel like a dork in the group Widowed in 2016
"One-shot events such as concerts and lectures probably aren't the best place to meet people;  the single, gorgeous, kind, brilliant person ahead of you in the refreshment line is more of a movie plot line than reality.  I've done…"
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Athena53 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"The fact that it was a Victorian tradition to leave your wedding band on till the morning of your remarriage says that there were many other people who felt the way you do.  As long as you and your fiance are comfortable with it, that's…"
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Athena53 replied to InsideLove's discussion How was your valentine's day like no other? Here's mine.
"Wow-  what a wonderful man.  I hope someday I can be that comforting to someone who lost a loved one. So many people are afraid to talk about the person who died. My day was pretty routine and that's OK.   Ron and I never…"
Feb 14
Athena53 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"When my Grandma died, my Grandpa remarried less than two years later. While it seemed to be a happy marriage, she was definitely a gold-digger.  He bought her way more than he ever did my grandmother (Grandma once paid for new flooring for her…"
Feb 13
Athena53 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"Thanks- that's NOT my definition of Superwoman!  More like a princess.  I'm a faint version of the type of women you mentioned earlier- smart, retired from high-powered career, enviable finances, do 35-mile charity bike rides in…"
Feb 13
Athena53 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"So... what are the code words?  Inquiring minds want to know!  I think I put "financially solvent" in my e-Harmony profile.  "
Feb 12
Athena53 replied to soulmate's discussion Unexpected "Grief Triggers"
"I wasn't hit quite that hard, but last December I checked into a edgy hotel (The Greenville, SC Aloft) and the two bed pillows had highly-pixellated faces, a male on one and a female on the other.  The world doesn't always come in…"
Feb 11
Athena53 replied to Riley's discussion I feel like a dork in the group Widowed in 2016
"I'm not a moviegoer, so don't do that alone. No problem with eating alone in places like Starbucks or Subway,  The fancier the place, the less comfortable I'd be alone although I can do it.  Typically when I travel by myself…"
Feb 10
Athena53 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"I know, Bergen- Ron and I met in a theology class, not some dating Web site or through Personal ads.  (I once checked Men Seeking Women on Craigslist just for fun- I get rid of a lot of things as Free Stuff on CL.  Wow- some of those guys…"
Feb 9
Athena53 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"I've heard two good stories about e-Harmony from credible sources- the son of a friend had a highly successful match from there and I guy I was sitting next to on a flight last year said that he hadn't had success with OurTime but was…"
Feb 9
Athena53 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"Fortunately I never signed up for a paid membership.  I couldn't figure out how to exit the site completely (I'm sure that was deliberate on their part) so just deleted all pictures and text."
Feb 9
Athena53 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"I know what you mean- I signed up for OurTime and they kept sending me prospective matches every day; after awhile I realized they were just shuffling the same "deck" of guys in my age range and my vicinity and dealing the 6 off the top,…"
Feb 9
Athena53 replied to Tess's discussion Companionship in the group Born in the 50s
"Claire, thanks for that perspective.  When Ron and I met I'd just been through a messy divorce and he was coming off a long-term relationship that had run its course.  I was 43 and he was 58.   For 6 years we dated and…"
Feb 8
Athena53 replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion How often do you visit the gravesite?
"Ron's ashes are in an urn on my mantel, and the box is wrapped in one of his favorite shirts.   (The priest offered to put a pall, or white cloth, over it at the funeral and I said no, I want them in his shirt!) So, I see them every…"
Feb 8

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Outside of our Comfort Zones: Small Victories

Posted on October 24, 2017 at 8:57am 1 Comment

I was better prepared for life after Ron's death than many widows.  He died about a year ago at age 78, but his health had been deteriorating and his stamina had been decreasing for a couple of years before that.  I was also 15 years younger.  I'd always managed the finances (he joked that since he was an English major and my degree was in Math that was a no-brainer) and had gradually taken over lawn and yard maintenance, keeping the car maintained, housekeeping, etc. because he just…

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At 2:46pm on November 28, 2016, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help. Below is a link that you might find helpful as a new member.

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