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Athena53 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Barzan, your post brought to mind an interesting memory from late 2016 when my mother and my husband were both dying. Mom was 85 and had chosen palliative care when her breast cancer recurred; Ron was 78 and chose the same path when diagnosed with…"
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Athena53 replied to Patty's discussion hormones
"Yes- I am studying for a Lay Preaching License in the Episcopal Church and I agree with you that even in liberal circles most people would not approve of a still-legally-married priest in a relationship with another woman. To get back a little…"
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Athena53 replied to CarolinaHeart's discussion TRAVELING ALONE? in the group Born in the 50s
"Well, I booked another one.  My former professional society (I'm retired) is meeting in Honolulu in November, 2019.  I just put down a deposit on a cruise with my favorite cruise line (UnCruise) the week after the meeting. It's…"
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Athena53 replied to Patty's discussion hormones
"I also appreciate IamTheStorm's honesty.  It's really sad that our society prefers that people who don't look like porn stars not talk about their sexual urges."
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Athena53 replied to Patty's discussion hormones
"laurajay, I'm not looking for a cabana boy!  (I'm sure you were joking about that one.)  As I said, I have pretty exacting standards if I were to get into another physical relationship and I want it to be with someone mature who…"
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Athena53 replied to Patty's discussion hormones
"Not just a man's answer.  I saw my dear husband, who used to hike parts of the Appalachian trail and go on multi-night hikes in freezing temps, waste away to 117 lbs. even though he was over 6 feet tall and become so weak he was at risk of…"
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Athena53 replied to Patty's discussion hormones
"laurajay, you posted something close to what I was thinking.  (I've been with the granddaughters all weekend so every time I turn on a device I have little "helpers".) First, I agree- we don't look like we did at 20. at our…"
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Athena53 replied to Patty's discussion hormones
"I agree with laurajay- it depends. I'm 65 and was a gleeful participant in the sexual revolution.  I have many experiences of "just for fun" sex but I'm past that now.  Even though my body is in great shape, I have a…"
Jun 13
Athena53 replied to CarolinaHeart's discussion TRAVELING ALONE? in the group Born in the 50s
"Two thoughts:  first of all, new places.  Ron didn't tolerate hot climates very well (part of his chronic health problems), so now I'm traveling to warm places- have been to Central America, India and Nepal, none of which would…"
Jun 12
Athena53 commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post We are called survivors
"Thanks! I'll look into those.  I'll end up with two smoke detectors per room since the others would leave a nasty hole if removed, but people will just feel extra-safe!"
Jun 11
Athena53 commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post We are called survivors
"Thanks, Callie2- it might be worth looking into lithium smoke detectors although I suspect it would be a major investment up front.   I almost had to smile at your story of the pipe bursting on a Friday evening- yeah, that's when…"
Jun 11
Athena53 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"I haven't paid for a subscription to OurTime but took my profile down and Unsubscribed to e-mails- couldn't find a way to disconnect completely, of course.  I just found that their daily e-mail of "prospective matches"…"
Jun 10
Athena53 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Bergen came up with a lot of good ideas and questions; I'd also suggest that you rent before buying in a given area.  It means you're paying for two moves, but better that than buying a place and finding you don't like the…"
Jun 8
Athena53 replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"I sure hope there are no requirements that you have to endure X units of hurt, grief, etc. before you can laugh and enjoy life again because if there are, I'm in deep trouble.  I've pondered in other posts why I'm functioning so…"
Jun 8
Athena53 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"It still happens- a woman in my church in our age group is dating a really nice man she met through mutual friends.  They're both widowed.  It gives me hope.   It may be that most people don't want to get involved in…"
Jun 8
Athena53 commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post We are called survivors
"I still haven't conquered ladders.  %%$#@! smoke detectors- one is dangling most unattractively from the ceiling in the guest BR- replaced the battery but couldn't get it to fit back into its niche.  The other is in my BR, which…"
Jun 7

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Outside of our Comfort Zones: Small Victories

Posted on October 24, 2017 at 8:57am 1 Comment

I was better prepared for life after Ron's death than many widows.  He died about a year ago at age 78, but his health had been deteriorating and his stamina had been decreasing for a couple of years before that.  I was also 15 years younger.  I'd always managed the finances (he joked that since he was an English major and my degree was in Math that was a no-brainer) and had gradually taken over lawn and yard maintenance, keeping the car maintained, housekeeping, etc. because he just…

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At 2:46pm on November 28, 2016, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help. Below is a link that you might find helpful as a new member.

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